Poll: Have you ever engaged in casual sex?

[Monkfish Acc.]

Bandages and antibiotic ointment, I'm thinking. I have neither and you'll need both.

Good idea. It's not the whole experience without the slathering of pink pork truncheon burn solution.

I, uh. I'm going to have to ask you to guide me through it. It's my first time.

Just keep thinking of your smug moral superiority. I hear it's a real salve against getting your dick burned off.

Wow, okay. I was just being playful, but I guess somebody is a little touchy.
It's not moral superiority at all. People are welcome to do what they like. I would not like to do it and I am fond of hyperbole.

Future reference: Most of everything I say is facetious in some way. Especially when I say things that are, you know, utterly fucking ridiculous.

 

[SimuLord]

Bandages and antibiotic ointment, I'm thinking. I have neither and you'll need both.

Good idea. It's not the whole experience without the slathering of pink pork truncheon burn solution.

I, uh. I'm going to have to ask you to guide me through it. It's my first time.

Just keep thinking of your smug moral superiority. I hear it's a real salve against getting your dick burned off.

Wow, okay. I was just being playful, but I guess somebody is a little touchy.
It's not moral superiority at all. People are welcome to do what they like. I would not like to do it and I am fond of hyperbole.

Future reference: Most of everything I say is facetious in some way. Especially when I say things that are, you know, utterly fucking ridiculous.

You and I have a different definition of the word "playful", since I was as well. You say something utterly fucking ridiculous, I'm going to take you at face value because it's more fun that way.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

You and I have a different definition of the word "playful", since I was as well. You say something utterly fucking ridiculous, I'm going to take you at face value because it's more fun that way.

Ah, okay. "Smug moral superiority" is one of those phrases that just sound quite acrimonious over text.
Now I feel silly.

... So are we still on or what.

 

[SimuLord]

You and I have a different definition of the word "playful", since I was as well. You say something utterly fucking ridiculous, I'm going to take you at face value because it's more fun that way.

Ah, okay. "Smug moral superiority" is one of those phrases that just sound quite acrimonious over text.
Now I feel silly.

... So are we still on or what.

Feel the burn, killer. Feel the burn.

 

[Brawndo]

I'm assuming most of you folks are guys. Kind of jealous cause I mean, I wish I could just screw around and not care like some of the guys I know and not give a damn about people's feelings. But I just am like incapable or something. It's not like all guys are like this.. haha.. I wish more weren't... but whatever.

See, you're ASSUMING that we are hurting the girls' feelings. How do you know she's not on the same page? There are plenty of girls that enjoy casual sex as much as guys. I've been hurt by girls far more than I've hurt them, I assure you. In fact, I can say the last girl I was with only used me for sex - which is possible from a girl's perspective despite the popular stereotype of the male "player" and the tricked girl that falls for him.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

No, I've not engaged in any kind of sex period. As for *ahem* casual sex, it hurts to even say it, anyway I never engage in such a thing. I believe sex should mean more than that.

 

[Poptart Invasion]

yeah, a couple of times. dont really see a problem with it, so long as you understand the difference between having sex and making love. but if it feels good, and everyone is on the same page (so that no one has expectations and gets hurt), go for it.

 

[pharaoh malik]

See, you're ASSUMING that we are hurting the girls' feelings. How do you know she's not on the same page? There are plenty of girls that enjoy casual sex as much as guys. I've been hurt by girls far more than I've hurt them, I assure you. In fact, I can say the last girl I was with only used me for sex - which is possible from a girl's perspective despite the popular stereotype of the male "player" and the tricked girl that falls for him.

I'm not saying all guys are like that. Sorry if it came off that way. I was actually speaking from my own experience as well. But.. actually, it's an interesting perspective you've given me.

And I've heard of girls that do that. I can't imagine honestly.. but I believe it.

So.. they've hurt you using you for sex when you actually had feelings for them? Did they know you had feelings for them? I mean, I'm asking cause I'm curious... cause what me and David (teh guy) had seemed beyond merely sexual so sometimes I really do wonder if he was being a dirt bag or if there is a deeper reasoning behind it all. I mean I adore the guy and I couldn't... believe he'd go fuck around just to hurt me... it might be that he wants me to get away from him so he doesn't feel bad fucking around because that's what he wants to do or... I don't know. Woah. Sorry if this got all confusing and personal man. >n> I'm just trying to wrap my head around it all.

 

[Hashime]

I cannot foresee partaking in this activity. In my mind casual sex requires too much risk for my taste. At least in a committed relationship an accidental child has a good chance of having parents.

 

[Something Amyss]

Yup. For a long time, it was all I was getting. I was out of a rough relationship, and DID NOT want a partner. Thought I might never want one again.

 

[Brawndo]

See, you're ASSUMING that we are hurting the girls' feelings. How do you know she's not on the same page? There are plenty of girls that enjoy casual sex as much as guys. I've been hurt by girls far more than I've hurt them, I assure you. In fact, I can say the last girl I was with only used me for sex - which is possible from a girl's perspective despite the popular stereotype of the male "player" and the tricked girl that falls for him.

I'm not saying all guys are like that. Sorry if it came off that way. I was actually speaking from my own experience as well. But.. actually, it's an interesting perspective you've given me.

And I've heard of girls that do that. I can't imagine honestly.. but I believe it.

So.. they've hurt you using you for sex when you actually had feelings for them? Did they know you had feelings for them? I mean, I'm asking cause I'm curious... cause what me and David (teh guy) had seemed beyond merely sexual so sometimes I really do wonder if he was being a dirt bag or if there is a deeper reasoning behind it all. I mean I adore the guy and I couldn't... believe he'd go fuck around just to hurt me... it might be that he wants me to get away from him so he doesn't feel bad fucking around because that's what he wants to do or... I don't know. Woah. Sorry if this got all confusing and personal man. >n> I'm just trying to wrap my head around it all.

No offense taken, no problem.

Well, what happened with me was that I thought we both cared about each other, but I was wrong. The girl and I had a standard college fuck buddies arrangement at first, but it started to get rather intimate - at many times, it felt like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Then after about four months she suddenly called me and said "We can't do this anymore, I've started to date this guy and I want to be in a serious relationship with him". I was pretty mad at her, confronted her, we had a big shouting match and she blurted out that she faked intimacy because the sex was very good and she wanted to keep me around (not trying to brag). So yeah, I felt pretty fucked over... guess bad communication on my end is partly to blame, I should have made it clear to her I developed feelings.

I think good communication is important in all relationships, even casual ones, but most young people are pretty bad at it.

 

[katsumoto03]

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I think this sums my opinions on the subject rather nicely.

 

[pharaoh malik]

No offense taken, no problem.

Well, what happened with me was that I thought we both cared about each other, but I was wrong. The girl and I had a standard college fuck buddies arrangement at first, but it started to get rather intimate - at many times, it felt like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Then after about four months she suddenly called me and said "We can't do this anymore, I've started to date this guy and I want to be in a serious relationship with him". I was pretty mad at her, confronted her, we had a big shouting match and she blurted out that she faked intimacy because the sex was very good and she wanted to keep me around (not trying to brag). So yeah, I felt pretty fucked over... guess bad communication on my end is partly to blame, I should have made it clear to her I developed feelings.

I think good communication is important in all relationships, even casual ones, but most young people are pretty bad at it.

Wow. That kind of almost mirrors my relationship with David. I mean, we never dated but, we ACTED like it. He fucking made me waffles in the morning when we'd get up and we'd usually hang out rather than just... have sex, ya know. I guess I did think it would just be casual sex but then he treated me like a princess so I just started falling really hard. I got him to open up to me and I just felt that we really connected emotionally -- and i'd never connected to a guy before in that way and it was just.. amazing.

And I mean, I didn't really tell him how I felt either.. and when I started realizing it was spiraling downward I tried super hard to tell him how I feel and he's... been running away every since. He wont talk to me and the last text he sent me was that he was busy fucking another girl and I kind of broke down into tears and told him to fuck off and that's the end of that... x_x

But I mean... I still want to tell him... I don't know if I should bother. When I think about it -- you are so right. Communication was our falling out. It might have hurt a lot less if we were more honest. I know for me, I wasn't really willing to admit to even myself that I was falling so hard for him until ya know, it was too late. So maybe.. casual sex can work in some situations but it's really... gotta be communicated and stuff. And even then.. still could be risky. It's not like we can control feelings.

 

[ShadowsofHope]

I would have if I ever had the opportunity. Unfortunately, my flirting skills match most romantic comedies, and my looks are.. debatable (to others, that is, it seems).

I would prefer the first to be in a committed relationship, but I'm not going to toss myself into the titanium cage of virginity forever if I can't quite sort that out at first, either. Take what you can get, be safe, and enjoy yourself.

 

[SadisticPretzel]

Yay for being the minority!

Yes, I have. I do whenever I have the opportunity when I'm single (like now.) Sex to me isn't some amazing moral thing...It's something our bodies are hardwired to do. Do I enjoy it more when emotions are involved? Of course. But lack of said emotions won't keep me from throwing someone into bed.

 

[smithy_2045]

I don't want to have sex with someone unless I know that person fairly well.

 

[Sovereignty]

Actually upon deep thought, I seriously wish I could say no.

But if a woman throws herself at me in search of physical gratification am I really going to be judged for lacking the will power to say, "NO!"?

I'd take weak willed over sex-deprived any day.

 

[DanielBrown]

Yeah, most of the times I've gotten laid are one-night stands or the occational drunken sex friend. Never been much for relationships, so I've only managed to stay togeather with one girl long enough to have sex regularly.

 

[Saulkar]

I have not engaged in any type of sex, let alone that of a casual nature.

Regardless, I don't think I ever will engage in casual sex. It's a very close thing to me, one that requires a lot of trust and bonding beforehand (something I still haven't had, hence no sex yet either). You don't really get that in one date.

Your Avatar shows the pent up tension. ;-)