Poll: How do you see people that sleep around? (Updated)

[Gigano]

Fine by me.

I reserve my disdain and contempt for those who have any kind of problem with anything that goes on in private between consenting adults.

 

[DancePuppets]

Do it safely, have fun, try not to hurt anyone.

 

[D Moness]

Oh... I like skipped over most of this. I mean, I did figure it was a blatant copy but everyone else answered so I wanted to. Maybe someone will reply to me. It could make for interesting convo.

Honestly it started as a sort of parody. Kind of annoyed of societies views on sexuality(or the lack upon). I must admit i think some of the honest replies here are interesting(or really funny).

Like i said before in a reply to someone else. I do not care what someone else do behind closed doors. What i do get annoyed about is that some people think their views on it is the view everyone else should have.

 

[drisky]

I worry about there safety somewhat, but I don't judge. I've had friends who were sluts, it didn't really bother me, I just had to trust they were being safe. At the same time I was also honest that its not something I would ever do, and hope they are fine with that. I don't stand for manipulative people, people that try to convince others that are in a relationship to make it polygamous, with partner, so yeah those that try and convince others to cheat are not good people.

 

[thelonewolf266]

So, all the options imply we see them badly?

I don't care aslong as the person makes it clear it's just for sex. Using people is being gittish.

I'm with this guy why does everyone view sex as a bad thing.

 

[Icehearted]

Everyone shooting their DNA at each other? I find it offensive!

 

[WingedIncubus]

Other: They are enjoying life and what they have.

Stop judging, especially if you are sex-deprived. Step up and get some.

 

[Admiral Stukov]

Quoting myself for the "How do you see virgins" thread:

"There are people who haven't had sex yet, and people who've had sex eight times this week, and you can't tell them apart because they are equally kind and well-adjusted and happy."

 

[zehydra]

Not someone I'd want to be friends with. If they want to, fine, but keep me (and my girlfriend!!) out of it.

 

[Blank Kold]

Nice poll. Just letting you know, putting in only negative options makes you seem incredibly spiteful.

 

[bjj hero]

Sex is an enjoyable part of life. As long as you are safe and consider the feelings of others there is nothing wrong with it. I am an ex-man whore. Why ex? I met someone and fell in love, but I'm glad I filled my boots in my 20s.

Those that have a problem with sex tend to be those who cannot get laid or are too riddled with guilt to be themselves and live a little.

It is someone elses life style, why do you care?

 

[Booze Zombie]

Sleep around all you want, just make sure not to be an idiot. Condoms, medical check ups, good hygene and you're fine.

 

[Jonabob87]

Feel pretty bad for them considering that sort of behavior often springs from unhealthy parental relationships or lack of self esteem.

Interesting.

Riddle me this: Where does fapping to anime porn come from?
And that...other thing we're very tolerant of for some reason.

Seems this community has some very fucked up ideas of what constitutes a 'normal' sex life, seems a bit rich to be tossing around psychological diagnoses when the same rule, if applied to any of this communities' supported kinks, would lead to Freud shitting his pants in glee.

"fapping" is often about control and/or dominance paired with a safety and distance that actual sex doesn't constitute.

I'm not sure about the anime part

Freud = Coke-addled sex addict

 

[Jonabob87]

Curious how all the polling choices are negative and judgmental.

Sex isn't some magic thing which should be seen through rose tinted glasses and held up with reverence. If you want to sleep around, sleep around, its your life, your choices. As long as you're not lying to the people you sleep with, or manipulating them, then you're fine.

I personally find "No sex before marriage" far weirder and far more unhealthy than "Lots of sex please"

Tell that to the throngs of fatherless children currently growing up emotionally imbalanced.

Disclaimer: I was a fatherless child myself, grew up emotionally imbalanced but fixed now. I'm not speaking from a lack of experience.

 

[Xisin]

It's none of my business what another adult does in their free time.

 

[Hashime]

It seems risky to me. If you are sleeping around with random strangers you are opening yourself up to a large amount of risk in terms of STIs, regular diseases, abusive individuals, and (especially if you are a male) long term financial support.

 

[AquaAscension]

I figure people who sleep around lack a certain amount of self confidence and thrive on any attention they can get. This is not intended to start anyone raging but it's how i personally view them. The ones i know seem to think they are unattractive so are amazed when a guy find them attractive and will go with that guy regardless of what he is interested in.

There are also the other type of person I know who needs excitement in every relationship and in their lafe or they get depressed. I don't know if this is common but i know one person close to me who thinks relationships are all tingles and whirlwinds and when that stops she is onto the next one! Nightmare.

I do think in time these peopl will realise their worth and not feel the need to have multiple partners to be happy and while the excitement and butterflies is fun it's never long term. I suppose as long as they are happy and not causing anyone any harm it's none of my business.

It's nice to hear optimism, but I've found from experience in addition to literature (literally, literature - novels and character studies - so I suppose this could be a specious source) that people who are one way won't change unless something drastic forces them to. I guess if you think about it, we are all kind of characters in charge of writing our own stories. The principles of conflict being a compelling reason to read stay the same, so we continue to portray characters influenced by - indeed in search of - drama. And people who participate in these are trying to tell their own stories, or rather tell their own version of another's story. (This is by no means a criticism - your post was just interesting to me and so I wanted to respond.)

Actually on topic though - I generally see sleeping around as negative. I have yet to see one admirable person cross lives with me who also happens to have sex like it was nothing. There is a problem with the question at hand though. What does this term "sleep around" mean? What person qualifies as one who "sleeps around"? 1 sexual partner every month? Week? Day? Year even? Is it someone who has sex very quickly but not with several different people? Sex is something that society has always attempted to regulate. Our society does so now with abstinence education but lackluster alternatives to that, I think. Unfortunately, anyone who believes there was a halcyon day when people were entirely faithful/abstinent till married/etc. hasn't read enough. But this leads to an argument not worth getting into and entirely off topic (though I don't see a reason for this topic besides, perhaps, someone trying to justify a negative view on sex).