Poll: How do you see people that sleep around? (Updated)

[Quellist]

Here's my opinion on this and many other things:

Other people's business is their business.

Agree 100%

 

[Adam28]

They're sluts, but that's not necessarily a bag thing. If people are being safe and sensible then more power to them.

QFT

Some people in this thread though are failing to see how it can be a bad thing. When these people are hurting others or deceiving them through cheating its no longer "ok", or when they end up pregnant, don't know who the father is. There is also too many younger people sleeping around without being responsible these days.

 

[Slayer_2]

Who cares, it's their choice?

 

[dementis]

Feel pretty bad for them considering that sort of behavior often springs from unhealthy parental relationships or lack of self esteem.

I had a great relationship with my parents and there is nothing wrong with my self esteem, I just enjoy sex but find relationships dull and too much work.

 

[Griff Morivan]

Sex is perfectly normal. In fact, of the cultures most likely on this forum, chances are the US is the most stuck up about it. If they want to have sex, and they don't feel a need to settle down, let'em. What does it hurt you for? More over, why do you feel the need to be down on people who have a lot of sex?

The poll is absolute horse shit, as most everyone has said, and shows a level of intolerance.

 

[Exosus]

I love that there's no option which isn't a veiled condemnation fo their behavior. How about "More power to them" or "May we all be so lucky" instead of exclusively puritanical options?

 

[TakerFoxx]

I see it as irresponsible behavior, but hey, it's their life.

 

[vingtcinq]

I find it annoying and to be very apathetic (right word?), but I try not to judge. As said before, if they want to be a slut, that's their choice.

 

[Death God]

They're going to do what they want but to me, they are still sluts. All there is to it. Not to say they can't be good people, they just choose to whore around a lot. I've got a friend like that. She's a nice person... she just enjoys sex more than average for her age.

 

[moretimethansense]

So, it is likely that many here that sleep around and many that don't. The question isn't whether or not you have a lot of sex with different people but rather how do you view someone who does? The type of person isn't in question because they are how you would image someone that have sex with lots of people to be, whatever that might be. This thread is not meant to bash on those people but is analyze people's perspectives on sex.

To make this a little easier, I've included a poll that doesn't make real sense with the answers but for the sake of trying to be funny i added it.

It depends on their reasoning, personality and methods.

If they are honest about it and try not to hurt the feelings of those they sleep with I have no problem with them, whereas if they are the type of person to lie and trick people in to sex then treat them like shit afterward they can go fuck themselves.

Your poll sucks by the way, all of the options assume that we have a negative view of promiscuity, which frankly indicates your own bias more than anything else.

 

[SovietSecrets]

As someone I would possibly sleep with. Honestly as long as you do it safely, it doesn't matter. I don't want to be in a relationship, but that doesn't mean I don't want to stop having sex. Same for most people I would assume.

 

[Zhukov]

Where is the "those lucky sods" option?

If I had the necessary looks/charm/confidence/whatever I would be doing the exact same thing.

 

[Brawndo]

I look in the mirror.


(Although I've been going through a rather long dry spell as of late)

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Where are the options for "I am one of those people" or "Good for them, sex is great and being the well-wisher that I am, I wish everybody could have it all the time"? Judging by the poll, I'd say that a significant amount of The Escapist community has a severe case of sour poisonous grapes that manifests itself as a phenomenon known as slut shaming [http://collegecandy.com/2011/03/25/can-we-stop-the-slut-shaming-now/], which is a woefully outdated and irrationally hateful method of regarding those with fewer inhibitions and hangups than one's self by claiming that their sexual ambition (which is apparently very threatening to some people) stems from a lack of morality or a hollow approach to life.

I'm flattered that you'd be so acutely jealous of us sexually active folks, though. We do have it pretty swell.

 

[Cheesus333]

Sex means different things to different people. We don't all see it as an intimate, personal affair. And if someone doesn't I won't deprive them of an orgy if they want it. Live and let live, right? Promiscuity isn't my thing, but hey, diversity is what gives the human race that intrigue and variety that you just don't get with animals.

Rapists, on the other hand...

 

[game-lover]

Where are the options for "I am one of those people" or "Good for them, sex is great and being the well-wisher that I am, I wish everybody could have it all the time"? Judging by the poll, I'd say that a significant amount of The Escapist community has a severe case of sour poisonous grapes that manifests itself as a phenomenon known as slut shaming [http://collegecandy.com/2011/03/25/can-we-stop-the-slut-shaming-now/], which is a woefully outdated and irrationally hateful method of regarding those with fewer inhibitions and hangups than one's self by claiming that their sexual ambition (which is apparently very threatening to some people) stems from a lack of morality or a hollow approach to life.

I'm flattered that you'd be so acutely jealous of us sexually active folks, though. We do have it pretty swell.

Have you read the comments on that article by the way? Just curious.

You're assuming people label all sexually active people sluts. I like to think especially from the replies here that it's the kind of sexually active people and the activity that makes it particular.

Also, assuming everyone is jealous is incredibly obnoxious. Have you read all the replies or did you just skip over everybody.

I think you should read the rest. Or at least search for those who aren't as sexually open as you are.

 

[Vesamne]

People have varying reasons for sleeping around, so it's not quite sensible to put them all in the same category.

My personal opinion is that regardless of the reasons behind it, it's definitely a learning experience which can benefit you, as it makes your choice of partner more and more informed with every new lay. However, it takes a certain level of awareness to actually use that benefit.

Dragomir out.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Have you read the comments on that article by the way? Just curious.

You mean those pussyfooting "you're right but let me make a few moderate statements that nobody can disagree with so it looks like you missed some stuff and I'm the smart guy for noticing" comments? Yeah, I read them. The first twenty, anyway.

You're assuming people label all sexually active people sluts. I like to think especially from the replies here that it's the kind of sexually active people and the activity that makes it particular.

The Escapist, in my many years here, has consistently proven itself to be a hangout for socially incompetent niceguys that find women to be alien and frightening due to their lack of experience, and they are abjectly terrified by the idea that a woman might have bigger plans than eternally chaining herself to the first emotionally fragile guy that doesn't just screw her and leave.

I can't really cite any specific examples since I tend to use my memory for more pertinent tasks, so I'll concede that this isn't a fantastic counterpoint, but if you're willing to take my word for it: believe me when I say I've seen tickertape parades of insecure, possessive sexual frustration roll through here to raucous fanfare. If that's not good enough for you, you're more than welcome to chock it up to being a purely anecdotal precedent.

Also, assuming everyone is jealous is incredibly obnoxious. Have you read all the replies or did you just skip over everybody.

I've read the entire thread. Believe it or not, dissenting opinions aren't always born of ignorance, and implying otherwise is similarly obnoxious. You also don't seem to be quite sure of who exactly I'm addressing, so allow me to clarify: this isn't an open letter to everybody, ever, love SODAssault, PS get laid fags; it's the ones that get snotty (as Escapists are wont to do) and dismiss the promiscuous as being... well, how about this guy says it for me.

Pretty much sluts.


And I use the term for both males and females. I've met both, and they tend to be extremely weird and creepy people who lack morality and restraint.

Moving on.

I think you should read the rest. Or at least search for those who aren't as sexually open as you are.

I did and don't see the point, respectively. If the latter suggestion is to be taken literally: jackpot?