Poll: How do you see people that sleep around? (Updated)
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Yeah! Hell, i haven't done any. Also, why are all the options, negative ones. I mean, it's their choice, it doesn't have to be something bad.Nimcha said:
Whatever works for them works for them, assuming they are responsible adults that understand consequences and practicing safe sex with other responsible adults without drugs, abuse or sex addiction/mental problems in the mix.
The idea that people who lead atypical personal lives/lifestyles are abnormal, "slutty" or whatever else society tends to assume is ridiculous to me. While I do believe we go through phases (we're more sexual active when we're younger, and more inclined to have more partners during our "prime" years), but lifestyle choices (i.e polyamore) tend to be things we actively pursuit and find emotional/sexual satisfaction in that is not the same as being unfaithful, having a sexual addiction or being in an "open" relationship.
So no, having many sexual partners (thought not very safe even with precautions) is not morally wrong in my view, it's a set up that probably most parties involved understand. Open relationships (completely different from polyamory btw) can be beneficial to a (desiring) couple that has established a mutual agreement and ground rules.
Polyamory of course is a much bigger step and requires 200x more discipline, communication, stress ect. than that of a normal couple. Again, go for any of the above if you're willing to do the work to make these relationships function and flourish with all parties achieving a great deal shared happiness, and respect.
The idea that people who lead atypical personal lives/lifestyles are abnormal, "slutty" or whatever else society tends to assume is ridiculous to me. While I do believe we go through phases (we're more sexual active when we're younger, and more inclined to have more partners during our "prime" years), but lifestyle choices (i.e polyamore) tend to be things we actively pursuit and find emotional/sexual satisfaction in that is not the same as being unfaithful, having a sexual addiction or being in an "open" relationship.
So no, having many sexual partners (thought not very safe even with precautions) is not morally wrong in my view, it's a set up that probably most parties involved understand. Open relationships (completely different from polyamory btw) can be beneficial to a (desiring) couple that has established a mutual agreement and ground rules.
Polyamory of course is a much bigger step and requires 200x more discipline, communication, stress ect. than that of a normal couple. Again, go for any of the above if you're willing to do the work to make these relationships function and flourish with all parties achieving a great deal shared happiness, and respect.
Holly crap this pole isn't remotely biased. I like how all your options assume that I think sleeping around is a bad thing. It's not how I choose to live my life, but you know what I'm not in any position to judge, so long as they're taking protective measures, you know what, sleep around to your hearts content. It's only sex.
I think the author of this pole should examine his opinion, you ask people there opinion and then just give them 3 versions of the same answer, thats just lame, talk about projecting.
I think the author of this pole should examine his opinion, you ask people there opinion and then just give them 3 versions of the same answer, thats just lame, talk about projecting.
Also this, it's based on social conventions and traditional standards that still survive into younger generations despite claiming to reject said conventions.OptimusPrime33 said:
So says psychology, some sources I knocked up quicklyElcarsh said:
http://www.singleparentcenter.net/single-parenting/effects-on-your-childs-emotional-health.html
http://library.adoption.com/articles/single-parenting-and-childrens-academic-achievement.html
http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/family/single-parenting-affect-children1.htm
Obviously it's easily done to find contradicting studies, but out of the 5 google search pages I looked through not a single page disputed anything bought forward by those links.
Like many in this thread, I say it depends. If the person is up-front and honest about their desires (only does partners/groups who feel similarly), practices safe sex, and gets a checkup now and again... where's the harm in it?
Of course, people who get into a committed relationship, and then screw around behind their partner's back... well, they're either complete asses, or they've been screwed up by societal programming conflicting with their sexuality, and they need help.
Of course, people who get into a committed relationship, and then screw around behind their partner's back... well, they're either complete asses, or they've been screwed up by societal programming conflicting with their sexuality, and they need help.
Err.. yeah, if this thread isn't meant to bash people, where are the positive poll options? Also.. what does sleeping around even mean?
Maybe I shouldn't expect a forum of geeks (using the word with great affection) to be terribly sex-positive, but it seems you can't have a thread about casual sex or open relationships or alternative lifestyles or anything except long-term monogamy without it being suggested that the people involved are neurotic or childish or abnormal.
Because of course noone actually wants to have sex. It's not like people who have monogamous relationships are ever unfaithful or ever break off a relationship because they want to have sex with someone else. Human culture is all about true and eternal love between two people forever, and while we're on it love at first sight definately exists and you have a single special soulmate whom you are destined to meet one day and who will totally complete you.
Who is really neurotic.. the person who wants to possess someone for the rest of their lives, or the person who can have sex with people without being controlling, without demanding anything and without needing to pretend they'll never feelings for anyone else.
Maybe such people are just ready to admit what most people seem to realize too late, that true love doesn't really exist. At the end of the day maybe what works is more important than the fantasy of meeting your perfect magical prince or princess and living happily ever after.
Maybe I shouldn't expect a forum of geeks (using the word with great affection) to be terribly sex-positive, but it seems you can't have a thread about casual sex or open relationships or alternative lifestyles or anything except long-term monogamy without it being suggested that the people involved are neurotic or childish or abnormal.
Because of course noone actually wants to have sex. It's not like people who have monogamous relationships are ever unfaithful or ever break off a relationship because they want to have sex with someone else. Human culture is all about true and eternal love between two people forever, and while we're on it love at first sight definately exists and you have a single special soulmate whom you are destined to meet one day and who will totally complete you.
Who is really neurotic.. the person who wants to possess someone for the rest of their lives, or the person who can have sex with people without being controlling, without demanding anything and without needing to pretend they'll never feelings for anyone else.
Maybe such people are just ready to admit what most people seem to realize too late, that true love doesn't really exist. At the end of the day maybe what works is more important than the fantasy of meeting your perfect magical prince or princess and living happily ever after.
Claiming that people sleeping around have low self confidence or hate themselves is as stupid as saying that people who play video game have no lives because they can't go out and do real things.
Just because you like something, doesn't mean there is a deep freudian underlining hiding behind it.
Damn it, is it so difficult to grasp the fact that sex is a very nice thing? It feels incredibly good, it gives you intimacy from another person in ways no other intimacies can. To feel someone's skin against your own will always be better than to read on a piece of paper that you are beloved.
Stop picking on others just because your view of sex is completely retarded.
So to answer the question, I think these people are doing what they like to do.
If someone is doing it for the wrong reason, it is of another concern then.
More love, less hate!
Just because you like something, doesn't mean there is a deep freudian underlining hiding behind it.
Damn it, is it so difficult to grasp the fact that sex is a very nice thing? It feels incredibly good, it gives you intimacy from another person in ways no other intimacies can. To feel someone's skin against your own will always be better than to read on a piece of paper that you are beloved.
Stop picking on others just because your view of sex is completely retarded.
So to answer the question, I think these people are doing what they like to do.
If someone is doing it for the wrong reason, it is of another concern then.
More love, less hate!
I agree with this.holy_secret said:
I'd be interested to see if the division between people voting "sluts!" and the people voting "other" correlates to American sexual mores versus European. I'm not being sarcastic here, I'm actually wondering if there is a correlation.