I agree completely. The trick is striking that perfect balance. I think for a lot of people around 3 to 4 times a week works well. Once a day is probably excessive and once a week too little.Continuity said:
Poll: How important is sex to you?
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Personally I'm not bothered about it. Been celibate now for 6 years (really bad at the dating game) and I miss having a girlfrind for the companionship rather then the sex. Even when I dd have a girlfriend, I never found sex that enjoyable.
Having a super duper sex life is as important to me as any other aspect in a relationship. Having a perfect partner in every way apart from between the sheets just wouldn't work for me.
Not really important to me, great when you get some but otherwise doesn't bother me; i'd rather be in a relationship with someone without sex than out of one with lots of sex.
On a related note sex outside of a relationship is abhorrent to me, I can't get my head around the idea of sharing something so intimate with a relative stranger.
On a related note sex outside of a relationship is abhorrent to me, I can't get my head around the idea of sharing something so intimate with a relative stranger.
It'd be nice to have, but I'm not losing any sleep over it.
I mean, getting closer to your lover in the deep rooted, primal sense is interesting and likely brings you closer....But if all you're chasing is an orgasm, your good right hand can do the same thing with none of the work of keeping a relationship going.
I mean, getting closer to your lover in the deep rooted, primal sense is interesting and likely brings you closer....But if all you're chasing is an orgasm, your good right hand can do the same thing with none of the work of keeping a relationship going.
Since it's been far too bloody long since I've had any, sex is rather important to me at present. However I can usually live without it for a while in a relationship.
Well without it I wouldn't exist so it's sort of important to me.
I mean it sure is fun, but I'd rather be someone who has few meaningful sexual encounters than many meaningless ones.
I mean it sure is fun, but I'd rather be someone who has few meaningful sexual encounters than many meaningless ones.
yeah my option is a bit between in your poll...
first off, i don't care for one night stands really, if im drunk sure it might happen but besides that no thanks, been there done that.
even then i have to be dating the girl for a decent while before i will feel "up to it"
(note: do not mistake this, i am one horny as fuck bastard, i almost can't wear sports shorts some days because i get so many damn boners)
but after that, i definitely need a girlfriend who will want to have sex eventually (and eventually at least maybe once a week hopefully =] or whenever the mood springs up)
so yeah i don't NEED IT always but at the same time if she isn't going to want to do it ever or wants to save until marriage (as in 2-3+ years) then it's probably not gonna fly for me wanting to date them.
first off, i don't care for one night stands really, if im drunk sure it might happen but besides that no thanks, been there done that.
even then i have to be dating the girl for a decent while before i will feel "up to it"
(note: do not mistake this, i am one horny as fuck bastard, i almost can't wear sports shorts some days because i get so many damn boners)
but after that, i definitely need a girlfriend who will want to have sex eventually (and eventually at least maybe once a week hopefully =] or whenever the mood springs up)
so yeah i don't NEED IT always but at the same time if she isn't going to want to do it ever or wants to save until marriage (as in 2-3+ years) then it's probably not gonna fly for me wanting to date them.
The sex itself isn't what's important. What is important (in a relationship, anyway) is that you and your partner have compatible sex drives. When one wants it significantly more frequently than the other, you are headed for disaster.
hah QFTaegix drakan said:
but still, i think sex can really emotionall strengthen a relationship (when your both ready), the few times i've done it with actual girlfriends are relationship really got turned on after that (we broke up for reasons outside of sex so that wasn't the cause of the break up)
It generally depends on when you catch me. While in a relationship and in very regular contact with my girlfriend, I get all cocky and think I'm above that animal bullshit. If I'm in a relationship and we're separated for significant amounts of time, I'll concede a twitchy feeling sets in and when we finally see each other it'll take me about 10 minutes until I'm at full and inevitable mast. And when I'm out of a relationship and stuck with my true, socially inept self I can't really form opinions because of the tiny fragment of Neanderthal genome hiding in my darker corners drooling. Since I'm currently in a relationship I really wanted to go for the "It's nice but I can do without it" but I know if I went a month without anything it would very quickly become "very important". So in conclusion I guess, I consider it very important, because nothing that can affect me as much as sex, or the lack of it, is anything else.
Well, I'm in a relationship, so pretty important. If I were single, I probably wouldn't find it that important at all. I'm one of those sappish "THIS IS ALL BONDING AND SHIT" kinda guys I guess.
Not that I'd be in any way against casual sex if I were single. But then it'd just be a nice bonus.
Not that I'd be in any way against casual sex if I were single. But then it'd just be a nice bonus.
I'm not very sexually experienced. I only had it a dozen times, and only with one partner. So it hard for me to get a clear image about how I feel about the matter. Therefor I might feel different about this, if/when I get more experienced.
Anyway how important sex is differs from person to person, but I do think it says quiet a big deal about a person if he/she is on an extreme. Like never had sex (and being in your twenties) or frequently having more then 1 sexual partner in a week. I think both can say a lot about a persons confidence, and how he/she stands in life. It alone can't give a proper picture, a virgin in his/her twenties can either be very confident and secure about him/herself or the exact opisent, the same applies with the overly sexual active person.
For me sex should never be a goal, but a mean to enrichen the experience you have due having met the person you're having sex with. It's a bit hard to explain, but I feel you only should have sex if both you and your partner(s) (I'm open to anything except humilation) experience more personal growth due to eachother then when you wouldn't have had sex. This requirement could be fullfilled in a onenight stand as well in a long lasting relation.
Though I can very well imagine that you and your partner just have sex because you both want it, especially if you're already in a steady relationship with said partner.
As I final not I want to say, that I find it rather pathetic, anoying, and demeaning towards women(because lets face it only men do this) to complain about not getting any. If you're bothered so much by it, then fix it! And yes this ought to be as easy to be done as to be said. I personally found that all social interactions are rather easy when you just get over your own petty emotions.
Anyway how important sex is differs from person to person, but I do think it says quiet a big deal about a person if he/she is on an extreme. Like never had sex (and being in your twenties) or frequently having more then 1 sexual partner in a week. I think both can say a lot about a persons confidence, and how he/she stands in life. It alone can't give a proper picture, a virgin in his/her twenties can either be very confident and secure about him/herself or the exact opisent, the same applies with the overly sexual active person.
For me sex should never be a goal, but a mean to enrichen the experience you have due having met the person you're having sex with. It's a bit hard to explain, but I feel you only should have sex if both you and your partner(s) (I'm open to anything except humilation) experience more personal growth due to eachother then when you wouldn't have had sex. This requirement could be fullfilled in a onenight stand as well in a long lasting relation.
Though I can very well imagine that you and your partner just have sex because you both want it, especially if you're already in a steady relationship with said partner.
As I final not I want to say, that I find it rather pathetic, anoying, and demeaning towards women(because lets face it only men do this) to complain about not getting any. If you're bothered so much by it, then fix it! And yes this ought to be as easy to be done as to be said. I personally found that all social interactions are rather easy when you just get over your own petty emotions.
I think it's very important. True personally I could never have sex with someone I wasn't in a relationship with, that's just not who I am. Sex is a great way to be intimate with your partner and give more of yourself to them. Doing it with a total stranger just wouldn't feel right.
That aside, I have quite a high sex drive so not getting any makes me frustrated. Luckily my boyfriend also has quite a high drive so we're quite compatible in that department. The only down side is when he's gone away to university...thank heavens we evolved hands.
That aside, I have quite a high sex drive so not getting any makes me frustrated. Luckily my boyfriend also has quite a high drive so we're quite compatible in that department. The only down side is when he's gone away to university...thank heavens we evolved hands.