Poll: If Your Significant Other Cheated, Would You Help Raise The Baby
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Well after suppressing the very strong urge to hunt down and bludgeon the biological father to death I would probably leave. I might feel worried about the fate of the kid though because even though it is not mine it is still another human being who has done nothing to deserve my hatred or disgust. The infidelity would be the fault of the biological parents alone so I wouldn't hold it against the child, and this could turn into a nasty situation where the mother blamed the child for her problems instead of herself. (we are all humans and humans are assholes sometimes)
Would I leave? Probably. Would I leave because of the Kid? Nope the mother is to blame here. Would I try to help the kid if I was passing through town and the mother turned out to be unfit? I would probably try but I highly doubt I would raise the kid myself.
Would I leave? Probably. Would I leave because of the Kid? Nope the mother is to blame here. Would I try to help the kid if I was passing through town and the mother turned out to be unfit? I would probably try but I highly doubt I would raise the kid myself.
I'd stay if I really loved the woman, but I'd probably smack her around a bit for being so damned retarded and still crawling back to me, assured that I'd help a cheating *****. And don't even get me started on what I'd do to the other guy, it'll be a cold day in hell when he'll be able to make another baby...
No fuck 'em. Fuck the *****. Fuck the twat who banged her. Fuck the bastard child. Fuck 'em they deserve nothing from me and I don't deserve to do anything with people like that.
Other: Happen to be gay, causing the question to instead warp into one more about stances on absolute/partial/non monogamy. Fun.
That said I generally tend to believe that were I involved with women I probably wouldn't stick around after being cheated on, baby or no. Ultimately it's her responsibility since she should've been, you know, one the pill/having him wear condoms, if she gave a shit about avoiding the situation. If he's real human garbage then I'd consider finding a (legal, though maybe at bit immoral) way of getting him to go away, encouraging her to seek comfort among her family as I want little more to do with her.
I'd be more tempted to stay if it was a boy but still would probably still end up leaving.
That said I generally tend to believe that were I involved with women I probably wouldn't stick around after being cheated on, baby or no. Ultimately it's her responsibility since she should've been, you know, one the pill/having him wear condoms, if she gave a shit about avoiding the situation. If he's real human garbage then I'd consider finding a (legal, though maybe at bit immoral) way of getting him to go away, encouraging her to seek comfort among her family as I want little more to do with her.
I'd be more tempted to stay if it was a boy but still would probably still end up leaving.
I really find abortion to be the cowards way out. There are so many people out there who want kids and can't have them why not give the bastard child to them. Why waste the life? And don't give me any bullshit about who's choice it is. Where is the kid's choice in all this? It didn't ask to be conceived in one of the shittiest situations imaginable. Why does it pay the penalty for someone else's betrayal?
I'm a guy and I'd probably leave, I mean if she left to cheat on me with some other guy I'm not sticking around just because she was to much of a stupid ***** to use a fucking condom. I would how ever see if the guy is fit to be any sort of parent at all, and contact child services if he was not.
(Note: this is written under the assumption that the OP is talking about them consensually having sex with another person, if you want to try and talk about what I'd do under non-consenting terms we'll talk in PMs)
(Note: this is written under the assumption that the OP is talking about them consensually having sex with another person, if you want to try and talk about what I'd do under non-consenting terms we'll talk in PMs)
As a girl, I think it would be hella uncomfortable to take care of another woman's baby. It didn't come from me, after all. Should I really be expected to take care of a child I didn't give birth to? It would just be so...awkward.
That being said, I just wanted to say that this sort of situation happened with my grandparents. My grandfather told my grandmother that he didn't care what happened, the child was his no matter what. Strangely enough, after she divorced him and got remarried, her second husband was the one who ended up treating him like crap for being a child born to "another man".
That being said, I just wanted to say that this sort of situation happened with my grandparents. My grandfather told my grandmother that he didn't care what happened, the child was his no matter what. Strangely enough, after she divorced him and got remarried, her second husband was the one who ended up treating him like crap for being a child born to "another man".
Heheheee she can fuck right off.
Like hell am I raising another mans child, she made a mistake, she can fix it on her own. Goodbye!
Like hell am I raising another mans child, she made a mistake, she can fix it on her own. Goodbye!
You assume too much about my relationship. I use the fact that I did the dishes last as a trump when it comes to house cleaning. When ever one of use makes an action that benifits the common good they can use it as moral high ground for future disagreements. Helping care for a child that I have not legal obligation to just puts my high ground a little higher. You can not assume all people will react like the drama queens you see on daytime TV. I have not personaly experienced this situation, but I have met a few of people who made it work. I also acknowledge there are many people who create a hostile enviroment in this situation but I am pretty sure I am not one of them.ravensheart18 said:
If the true daddy can raise it, I am a goner. If he cannot or he will not, then I am gonna stick around.
I'm female
If he has so little respect to cheat on me; then I'm gone.
If I found out that the baby wasn't being looked after properly by him (on the grapevine), I'd be straight on the phone to Social Services; it isn't the baby's fault at all.
If he has so little respect to cheat on me; then I'm gone.
If I found out that the baby wasn't being looked after properly by him (on the grapevine), I'd be straight on the phone to Social Services; it isn't the baby's fault at all.
Well sense my girlfriend cant have kids (Dont ask, long story) I would be asking some questions...
I'm female, and I'd stay no matter what.
I believe in second chances, pride is less important than love, and child is innocent.
I believe in second chances, pride is less important than love, and child is innocent.
