Poll: If Your Significant Other Cheated, Would You Help Raise The Baby
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Depending on other circumstances, I would either stay or leave.
How much does this woman mean to me?
Under what circumstances did she cheat on me?
What is going to happen to her and the baby if I decide to leave?
All these questions would have an impact on my decision. I would think something pretty substantial had to be going on for me to stay with her though...
Oh and sex of the baby and the other guy's ability to raise the kid would have no influence on my decision at all, if she comes to me with this question it's between me and her to figure it out.
How much does this woman mean to me?
Under what circumstances did she cheat on me?
What is going to happen to her and the baby if I decide to leave?
All these questions would have an impact on my decision. I would think something pretty substantial had to be going on for me to stay with her though...
Oh and sex of the baby and the other guy's ability to raise the kid would have no influence on my decision at all, if she comes to me with this question it's between me and her to figure it out.
Honestly? As soon as I found out she was cheating on me, pregnant or not, I would be gone. It's what I've done the two times I've caught girls cheating on me, and it's what I'll do the next time or seven. Your indiscretion has nothing to do with me, and I'll be damned if you'll take me down with you.
Gender of the child has no impact, but I don't think I could stay. If I was on the other end having knocked a girl then I'd stay if her partner left. Then again it's one of those situations where you don't know unless it happens.
Of course I'd stay! A baby is a baby, it needs love and care and occasional smacks. Doesn't matter "whose it is." I'd ask why she didn't tell me who else she was sleeping with, but other than that, there wouldn't be a problem.
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What!?
This is an interesting question, when compared to a lot of the other "moral" ones.
That being said:
No fucking way.
I've never been cheated one, as far as I know, and if I ever were, I'd tell the ***** to fuck right out of my apartment.
If we lived together, I'd tell the ***** to move.
Sorry for the vulgarity here, but I can't imagine I'd like being cheated on.
I am kinda looking forward to giving some sort of speech like the chicks I've been with have done, after they'd found out.
I may not be the right person to ask here, double standards and all. Still, I stand by my answer
This is an interesting question, when compared to a lot of the other "moral" ones.
That being said:
No fucking way.
I've never been cheated one, as far as I know, and if I ever were, I'd tell the ***** to fuck right out of my apartment.
If we lived together, I'd tell the ***** to move.
Sorry for the vulgarity here, but I can't imagine I'd like being cheated on.
I am kinda looking forward to giving some sort of speech like the chicks I've been with have done, after they'd found out.
I may not be the right person to ask here, double standards and all. Still, I stand by my answer
If we end up separated, it will be because she left me. Otherwise, I'd do what I could to restore some semblance of our relationship and treat the child as my own.
I know staying together for the sake of the child can be harmful on the child (assuming strained relationship between "parents"), but why exactly would I hold the child responsible for her/his mother's indiscretion?
I know staying together for the sake of the child can be harmful on the child (assuming strained relationship between "parents"), but why exactly would I hold the child responsible for her/his mother's indiscretion?
Lots of different factors here.
If she opts to keep the baby, it's over. I'm not going to work my ass off providing for a constant reminder of her willful betrayal.
If she opts to terminate the pregnancy, her enormous fuck-up turns into a slightly less enormous fuck-up that I might be able to forgive.
Also, who is reaching/settling in the relationship? If I'm reaching, and she's settling, there's obviously a lot more incentive for me to forgive her. Sounds awful, but it's 100% true. Having been on both sides of this particular "push and pull", I can confidently say it impacts your behavior markedly.
If she opts to keep the baby, it's over. I'm not going to work my ass off providing for a constant reminder of her willful betrayal.
If she opts to terminate the pregnancy, her enormous fuck-up turns into a slightly less enormous fuck-up that I might be able to forgive.
Also, who is reaching/settling in the relationship? If I'm reaching, and she's settling, there's obviously a lot more incentive for me to forgive her. Sounds awful, but it's 100% true. Having been on both sides of this particular "push and pull", I can confidently say it impacts your behavior markedly.
Yeah, but that's not the child's fault and why should it have to suffer? Seems a bit selfish to me...Arisato-kun said:
This is a really tough question. I'm also shocked and disappointed in some of these answers. I would do what I could to help... but it should really be the guy who got her in the situation's responsibility. If he wasn't helping a bit, I would do what I could to help but I certainly wouldn't forgive and stay with her...
I'd give her a tiny bit of my paycheck. Like $50 or something. Or I'll just buy diapers for it.
But other than that, I'd leave her and the only time I'd speak to her is to remind her how pathetic she is that she had unprotected sex, or/and how stupid she was to not have aborted. When the kids old enough, I'll tell him how is mother is a whore and how his father never loved him.
This is assuming the guy doesn't stick around and help out either. If he does, I'll beat the shit out of him and pop one of his testicles with a wrench.
But other than that, I'd leave her and the only time I'd speak to her is to remind her how pathetic she is that she had unprotected sex, or/and how stupid she was to not have aborted. When the kids old enough, I'll tell him how is mother is a whore and how his father never loved him.
This is assuming the guy doesn't stick around and help out either. If he does, I'll beat the shit out of him and pop one of his testicles with a wrench.
The fact of the matter would be that she cheated. If someone's unfaithful to their significant other then that person they're unfaithful with should be ready for the consequences.ProfessorLayton said:
They're not my kid, I hold no obligation and I was betrayed. It may not be the child's fault but the child was not conceived because of me. If the real dad can't man up then it's her mistake that she'd have to live with, not mine.
To put it bluntly yes. It's not my fault if the other dad chooses to run out on her. There's a simple rule: you cheat, you're gone. What happens after that is of no consequence to me.ProfessorLayton said:
As much as I love kids and everything, raising the child of another man wouldn't feel right. Like others before me have said, the kid would be a constant reminder of bad memories and more likely build resentment then love, plus my girlfriend/wife in this situation cheated once, whats stopping her from doing it again? No, I'd definitely leave. Cut all ties and contact to her and let her fix her own problems. I'm pretty good at cutting people out I've proven.