Poll: Im in love?

[Shapsters]

Taking advice from the Master BonsaiK is always a good idea, go to him my child and find the answers you seek.

From what I have learn, don't start with "I love you, you are the wind beneath my wings" because that might freak her out. Tell her you like her, ask her out on a date and see where it goes from there. When the time comes, express your love with many wonderful and poetic words.

Either way, good luck my friend!

 

[Wildcard5]

Go for it, but beware of entering 'the friend zone'

If that happens, you're screwed.

Go for it! But be prepared to get back on the dating horse if you are bucked off.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

Go for it, but beware of entering 'the friend zone'

If that happens, you're screwed.

I just couldn't resist.

Oh snap, your video reply beat mine.

Now I will not earn the int3rnet c0m3dy credz .

 

[spartan231490]

Nothing can be lost by going for this. Just don't introduce her to your brother until you've sorted stuff out with him, because wow, what a jerk.

seriously, i would have maced him. the mideval kind.

Flanged. Make sure it's flanged.

kinda prefer spiked myself.

 

[Fappy]

Just be confident. Feign it if you have to. That's just about your best chance other than having the knowledge that she does in fact feel the same way.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

Nothing can be lost by going for this. Just don't introduce her to your brother until you've sorted stuff out with him, because wow, what a jerk.

seriously, i would have maced him. the mideval kind.

Flanged. Make sure it's flanged.

kinda prefer spiked myself.

Pffft. Kids and their spikes.

 

[spartan231490]

Nothing can be lost by going for this. Just don't introduce her to your brother until you've sorted stuff out with him, because wow, what a jerk.

seriously, i would have maced him. the mideval kind.

Flanged. Make sure it's flanged.

kinda prefer spiked myself.

Pffft. Kids and their spikes.

luls. what can i say, they're spikes!

 

[Aur0ra145]

Do it, make a move.

I said do it!

This. Here, say exactly this.

"Hey Susan, did you know I've got a terrible crush on you, let's go to (insert name of fun date here) so I can tell you all about my Love and affection I feel towards you."

Say this in a sarcastic fashion, if she asks if you're serious tell her, "I'm completely serious, you're one of the best people I've ever met and I want to take you out on a date if you'll allow it."

Not sure what you're getting at here, but that video was brilliant.

He's pulling that kind of sarcasm where you can't tell if they're being sarcastic, but you can guess by the tone of voice. Like Seth Green in Sex Drive.

Oh I see, I see. It all makes sense now!

[small]It really doesn't, but I'll probably never get it, so it's probably not worth the effort on your part.[/small]

This method is also a type of quick recon, you'll be able to tell really easily if the idea sounds good to her or not and it's rather easy to disengage if you must.

The trick to these, "pouring out your heart moments" is to have a safety release or someway out of the topic without doing any real damage to your friendship. Because let's face it, it would totally suck if after you say the "I love you" jazz they decided to never see you again.

Oh, I'm not the one with the dating problems here. I believe you want the OP.

I didn't believe you had, sorry if I came off that way. The thing is that this method I described above worked for me on the two occasions I decided to try and date a friend. One of the relationships turned out wonderful, the other not so much (but we did end up dating for a while, namely when you go from friend to lover a lot of things can change in a person.)

It sounds like the OP has got his heart set on this girl, so I wanted to try and help him attain that goal. But speaking from my own personal experience, I wouldn't date another one of my female friends. Every time I see someone attempt this it usually turns out for the worst.

Even looking at the Escapist with it's vast amounts of threads like this one, I can't ever recall one of these going well for the OP.

But I'm an optimist and I don't like indecision; and, the nagging thought of "What could of happened" can be a debilitating anxiety. Carl von Clausewitz once said, "When in doubt attack!" and I think this goes for these types of threads, but if the outcome isn't what you wanted, it's best to rally the troops and try a different strategy or disengage and move on down the line. Though you have to maintain your ability to disengage, otherwise you might lose it all.

 

[Eggsnham]

Do it, make a move.

I said do it!

This. Here, say exactly this.

"Hey Susan, did you know I've got a terrible crush on you, let's go to (insert name of fun date here) so I can tell you all about my Love and affection I feel towards you."

Say this in a sarcastic fashion, if she asks if you're serious tell her, "I'm completely serious, you're one of the best people I've ever met and I want to take you out on a date if you'll allow it."

Not sure what you're getting at here, but that video was brilliant.

He's pulling that kind of sarcasm where you can't tell if they're being sarcastic, but you can guess by the tone of voice. Like Seth Green in Sex Drive.

Oh I see, I see. It all makes sense now!

[small]It really doesn't, but I'll probably never get it, so it's probably not worth the effort on your part.[/small]

This method is also a type of quick recon, you'll be able to tell really easily if the idea sounds good to her or not and it's rather easy to disengage if you must.

The trick to these, "pouring out your heart moments" is to have a safety release or someway out of the topic without doing any real damage to your friendship. Because let's face it, it would totally suck if after you say the "I love you" jazz they decided to never see you again.

Oh, I'm not the one with the dating problems here. I believe you want the OP.

I didn't believe you had, sorry if I came off that way. The thing is that this method I described above worked for me on the two occasions I decided to try and date a friend. One of the relationships turned out wonderful, the other not so much (but we did end up dating for a while, namely when you go from friend to lover a lot of things can change in a person.)

It sounds like the OP has got his heart set on this girl, so I wanted to try and help him attain that goal. But speaking from my own personal experience, I wouldn't date another one of my female friends. Every time I see someone attempt this it usually turns out for the worst.

Even looking at the Escapist with it's vast amounts of threads like this one, I can't ever recall one of these going well for the OP.

But I'm an optimist and I don't like indecision; and, the nagging thought of "What could of happened" can be a debilitating anxiety. Carl von Clausewitz once said, "When in doubt attack!" and I think this goes for these types of threads, but if the outcome isn't what you wanted, it's best to rally the troops and try a different strategy or disengage and move on down the line. Though you have to maintain your ability to disengage, otherwise you might lose it all.

Oh I see now. Thank you for elaborating.

And that does sound like a pretty good tactic when I think about it.

 

[Billion Backs]

Love in the supernatural "meant for each other" sense doesn't exist.

 

[EboMan7x]

Sigh... maybe... um... maybe don't go asking strangers on the internet about this, huh?

 

[there is no spoon]

I may be harsh, but I don't believe in rushing into romance without becoming friends & staying just-friends for at least a solid year. Perhaps you're just in lust with her? Then again, I don;t even believe in romance; it's just friendship + attraction + business partnership. I wouldn't even date a guy I didn;t intend to marry (aka make him pay my bills & do my taxes for me in exchange for sex, food, & offspring).

...Umm, honesty for the win. Ya that's all I got.

 

[tassyk]

Yes, ask her out. I can think of a fair few guys who I was friends with, who I KNEW were at least a bit interested, who I would have given it a go with, had they asked. But they NEVER did.

When why the fuck didn't you ask? No wonder this guy is shitting himself.

Well, I live by the rule, "if he doesn't ask, he's just not that into you". I know it's a little archaic, but it saves a lot of heartache when the guy says yes just to get in your pants. And every guy I know, knows that about me. Besides, (OP take note!) I like my men to be real men! They should man up and ask!

 

[Mr Montmorency]

Yes, ask her out. I can think of a fair few guys who I was friends with, who I KNEW were at least a bit interested, who I would have given it a go with, had they asked. But they NEVER did.

When why the fuck didn't you ask? No wonder this guy is shitting himself.

Well, I live by the rule, "if he doesn't ask, he's just not that into you". I know it's a little archaic, but it saves a lot of heartache when the guy says yes just to get in your pants. And every guy I know, knows that about me. Besides, (OP take note!) I like my men to be real men! They should man up and ask!

Ditto, genders reversed.

I rest my case.

 

[Cody211282]

So fellow escapists. Im very certain Im in love with this girl I know, weve spent alot of time together over the past two years and Ive bought her lunch quite a few times we have alot in common(she doesnt like "nerdy" stuff though.) But even though Ive caught her looking at me with a weird kind of smile (The same kind I get when I look at her) but shes never really said anything with a clear message. I dont know if now is a good time to say something as she just got out of a relationship with a huge D-Bag and Im kind of emotionally crippled. (because the first girl I ever tried to have anything more than freindship with ended up blowing my older brother within ten minutes of meeting him and that prevented me from attempting that again for about two years.) But on that very same hand Ive never been in a relationship or even gotten to hand holding for that matter. Whereas she isnt as unexperienced (which Im fine with but Im not sure if she is.) I just want to know if any of you other people on the forums have relevent advice or opinions.

Ok here is what I would so, talk her out to dinner or something, talk to her, and whatever you do DON'T TELL HER YOU LOVE HER! You can say you like her and care for her, but telling her you love her might sounds a bit creepy/she might take it the wrong way.

All the best luck to you man

 

[tassyk]

Yes, ask her out. I can think of a fair few guys who I was friends with, who I KNEW were at least a bit interested, who I would have given it a go with, had they asked. But they NEVER did.

When why the fuck didn't you ask? No wonder this guy is shitting himself.

Well, I live by the rule, "if he doesn't ask, he's just not that into you". I know it's a little archaic, but it saves a lot of heartache when the guy says yes just to get in your pants. And every guy I know, knows that about me. Besides, (OP take note!) I like my men to be real men! They should man up and ask!

Ditto, genders reversed.

I rest my case.

You like your women to be real men?

Well, I guess our romance is doomed Mr Monty. Hope things work better for OP.

 

[JBojangles]

Go for it, but beware of entering 'the friend zone'

If that happens, you're screwed.

Seriously. Don't believe him? Then check this out.
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.205822-The-Friend-Zone?page=2

 

[Ekit]

Wait until you're sure that she has put her relatolnship with the duchebag behind her. Then go for it.