Poll: Im in love?
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Maybe a crippling fear of being shot fighting for the greed and ego of politicians dirtier than mud wrestling? then again, maybe not, i can only speak for myself.Sgt. Sykes said:
Can't hurt to tell her how you feel. It may turn into more, it may not, but at least you'll get it off your chest. At the very least, mention that you know she just got out of a relationship and might not be emotionally ready for another one.
Don't listen to the people telling you no. Let her know that now that she's single your interested and if she feels the same way then your in and if she doesn't then don't take it hard because there will ALWAYS be another girl
Not necessarily. JD and Elliot got married, yes? (Yes I know it was in a TV show, but I'm trying to make a point here.)Wadders said:Haha once you're there, theres no goin' backGralian said:Wadders said:He's known her for 2 years...Gralian said:
He may already be in the friend zone
I just couldn't resist.
This. Here, say exactly this.Eggsnham said:
"Hey Susan, did you know I've got a terrible crush on you, let's go to (insert name of fun date here) so I can tell you all about my Love and affection I feel towards you."
Say this in a sarcastic fashion, if she asks if you're serious tell her, "I'm completely serious, you're one of the best people I've ever met and I want to take you out on a date if you'll allow it."
Just remember to drag her by the hair and not the feet... you won't want her filling up with gravel.FallenJellyDoughnut said:
He's pulling that kind of sarcasm where you can't tell if they're being sarcastic, but you can guess by the tone of voice. Like Seth Green in Sex Drive.Eggsnham said:
Spending more 1 on 1 time with you?
Sidelong glances?
The 'half smile'?
All 3 of those together is the female equivalent of humping your leg. Go. Ask.
Sidelong glances?
The 'half smile'?
All 3 of those together is the female equivalent of humping your leg. Go. Ask.
This method is also a type of quick recon, you'll be able to tell really easily if the idea sounds good to her or not and it's rather easy to disengage if you must.Eggsnham said:
The trick to these, "pouring out your heart moments" is to have a safety release or someway out of the topic without doing any real damage to your friendship. Because let's face it, it would totally suck if after you say the "I love you" jazz they decided to never see you again.
I've signed up to the Escapist just to make a reply in this thread. (I've been a long time lurker, but a lot of the threads here look interesting enough, I've always wondered which topic would break me to sign up.)
I think you've already decided you'll try to evolve your relationship with your friend. There's proof enough that your trying to get psyched up to confess by creating a thread like this one.
I definitely suggest you should do it and there are a lot of positive and beneficial reasons for doing so!
By NOT confessing, you're not doing her any favors. You're actually withholding a greater love from her life. It's good to be honest. With her and yourself. Keeping these feelings from her isn't fair to either of you.
Every day you don't ask her, is her saying no. If you actually ask her and she says no, nothing changes. There's no risk involved.
The only real difficulty is that your emotionally invested in the response. If she says yes, you'll likely have to suddenly commit to a relationship (which is ultimately the goal anyway, right?). If she says no, you can stop rejecting other woman and invite the love and happiness you've been neglecting yourself from by waiting.
I also don't think there's any real chance that you'll lose her friendship by confessing either. If you can truly trust her and you feel she trusts you, even in the face of rejection, she won't feel an overwhelming urge to avoid you.
There's also the possibility that she's been waiting for you to admit your feelings because she maybe too scared herself to ask for more.
I don't have any relationship experience but these are the same things I've been telling myself in the past few months to work up the courage to ask out a beautiful woman I've been in slight contact with.
Earlier today, she happened to start talking about an upcoming event in such a way that I thought maybe she was trying to drop hints for me to ask her to go together - so I did. And it's the first time I've asked someone out. I'm still emotionally charged from building myself up just to put together a few simple words like 'go' and 'together' in a sentence.
It was pretty spur of the moment, I don't think I was really ready to ask her. I feel sick and excited and I can't seem to calm down despite being hours ago.
I didn't get a straight yes or no from her. Just 'maybe' and 'she'll get back to me'. What's worse is I don't even want to attend this event, I have no means of getting there. Her saying yes will probably be the best and worst thing that's ever happened to me.
I even need my own relationship advice (will consider the link mentioned earlier).
In the end; 10 years from now, you can either look back on this experience as the defining point of your life or a learning experience you can use again in the future. But nothing will come from doing nothing.
Most importantly, regret is one of the worst things in this world because it means you can never make that important decision from your past. Don't let your friend be 'the one that got away' because you were too scared.
The very worst thing (which is to the say the only bad consequence) will be an uncomfortable emotion that will eventually go away.
P.S. Parting words;
"The reward to risk ratio is so great, there's no reason to not to risk it."
I think you've already decided you'll try to evolve your relationship with your friend. There's proof enough that your trying to get psyched up to confess by creating a thread like this one.
I definitely suggest you should do it and there are a lot of positive and beneficial reasons for doing so!
By NOT confessing, you're not doing her any favors. You're actually withholding a greater love from her life. It's good to be honest. With her and yourself. Keeping these feelings from her isn't fair to either of you.
Every day you don't ask her, is her saying no. If you actually ask her and she says no, nothing changes. There's no risk involved.
The only real difficulty is that your emotionally invested in the response. If she says yes, you'll likely have to suddenly commit to a relationship (which is ultimately the goal anyway, right?). If she says no, you can stop rejecting other woman and invite the love and happiness you've been neglecting yourself from by waiting.
I also don't think there's any real chance that you'll lose her friendship by confessing either. If you can truly trust her and you feel she trusts you, even in the face of rejection, she won't feel an overwhelming urge to avoid you.
There's also the possibility that she's been waiting for you to admit your feelings because she maybe too scared herself to ask for more.
I don't have any relationship experience but these are the same things I've been telling myself in the past few months to work up the courage to ask out a beautiful woman I've been in slight contact with.
Earlier today, she happened to start talking about an upcoming event in such a way that I thought maybe she was trying to drop hints for me to ask her to go together - so I did. And it's the first time I've asked someone out. I'm still emotionally charged from building myself up just to put together a few simple words like 'go' and 'together' in a sentence.
It was pretty spur of the moment, I don't think I was really ready to ask her. I feel sick and excited and I can't seem to calm down despite being hours ago.
I didn't get a straight yes or no from her. Just 'maybe' and 'she'll get back to me'. What's worse is I don't even want to attend this event, I have no means of getting there. Her saying yes will probably be the best and worst thing that's ever happened to me.
I even need my own relationship advice (will consider the link mentioned earlier).
In the end; 10 years from now, you can either look back on this experience as the defining point of your life or a learning experience you can use again in the future. But nothing will come from doing nothing.
Most importantly, regret is one of the worst things in this world because it means you can never make that important decision from your past. Don't let your friend be 'the one that got away' because you were too scared.
The very worst thing (which is to the say the only bad consequence) will be an uncomfortable emotion that will eventually go away.
P.S. Parting words;
"The reward to risk ratio is so great, there's no reason to not to risk it."
