Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?

[DracoSuave]

Absolute answers for the question are fail.

Cheating is when trust and commitment are violated, not when a set of arbitrary rules set by outsiders get broken.

So the question is, do you feel as if your trust is broken? If yes: Cheating. If no: Not cheating. It's that simple.

However, someone brings up a good point: If you get married, and you don't know that your partner is bi or gay?! Either they found out after the marriage vows... or you got married too soon. WAY too soon.

 

[Dags90]

It's still cheating, but I mean...
It's hot.

What if it was a really butch lesbian? I wonder if that would change the OP's friend's mind. Coming home to your lady friend doing the horizontal tango with another woman who could beat you up.

Doesn't matter what gender they're doing, it's cheating.

 

[Daveman]

It's cheating PLUS having lied to you for the entire time that they've known you.

 

[weker]

it's cheating no matter what, tho I would prefer it to be with another woman, I guess mostly it's because A: Preference B: It's more to do with gender then me being bad.

 

[ProtoChimp]

Unless it leads to a 3-way with the other girl then no (even if she didn't intend for it to be a threesome I just walked in and she didn't want us to break up-a three way's a three way).

 

[Pimppeter2]

If I walked in on my fiance with another girl or guy I'd just be excited for the threesome she's got planned

We're awesome like that.

 

[Mikeyfell]

It's only cheating if it's actually cheating.

If my girlfriend said "I'm gay, I want a woman in my life." I'd be fine with it.
Conversely if she said "I'm in love with another guy, and you" I'd be fine with that too.

If she just cheated on me I'd be annoyed that she didn't tell me but depending on her reaction to me finding out I wouldn't care.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

No, being gay is not cheating on your straight partner. I don't know why a gay person would have a straight partner though. But being homosexual is not the same thing as having sex.

Though that wasn't really your question. Your question was 'is having a homosexual interaction cheating on your heterosexual partner'. And to that I would say yes, yes it is. You are having sex with another person other than your partner. That's cheating, no matter what the gender of the third person is.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Yes. Whether it is emotional or sexual, it is a bond between two people outside of the marriage and thus is cheating. Sexuality has nothing to do with it.

 

[SilentCom]

I would consider it cheating. Cheating in a relationship means they are doing it with someone other than you. Also, I would not consider them heterosexual if they are doing it with someone of the same sex.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

Like so many previous responses - cheating is cheating regardless of who your spouse is cheating on you with. But that depends on what you and your spouse/partner call 'cheating', since cheating is essentially a violation of trust. There can even be 'cheating' in relationships that are deemed 'open', depending on how the spouse/partner feels.

 

[Particulate]

This is the result of a conversation I had with some friends. One of them made the suggestion that if he got married and then one day came home to find his wife cheating on him with another woman he would be fine with it, or at least better than if she was with a man. We had some more discussion mostly being 'Cheating is still cheating' or 'It's not the same'. I ask you Escapist - mainly males but females can answer as well - if you came home to find your partner in bed with another person of the same gender how would you react.

It's still cheating regardless of gender. The concept of "cheating" is one that is not exclusive to homosexuality, heterosexuality, or any other preference. It's simply a matter of breaking one's commitment with their partner. Now I'm not demanding that if people are in a relationship they should be exclusive but they should at least be on the same page.

 

[masticina]

Well cheating is cheating and if you are gay and are with a female "because of society" ..well is that cheating? Not as long as you don't have sex with anybody else. But do you expect a relationship to last if you biologically desire something else?

So being gay or not doesn't has anything to do with cheating. But actual sleeping with someone else is cheating.

And if you are gay and into a hetero relationship to fit in you are lying to yourself and to your partner.

In the end fidelity can and does happen. Our human nature does includes "shopping out of town"

What I suggest is that the person in this situation accepts their sexuality and not only that. But also stops the lie!

 

[Grey_Focks]

If I came home to find my wife in bed with another women, my first reaction would be to join in.

Then I'd probably break up with her, because she's clearly quite the whore.

 

[game-lover]

Is it cheating if a person is with someone straight yet they are gay? No. It's sad for them especially if the straight partner has absolutely no clue as opposed to being in denial.


Now, if the gay partner has sex with someone of the same sex while married to the straight partner? Fuck yeah!!!


The vows are to forsake all others. ALL OTHERS. That means men and women. It doesn't matter who you were with. I didn't sign up to be in a relationship where I share.

This being said, I think I'm of the inverse of what some men have said. Where they would be willing to reconcile with their lover/spouse if she slept with another woman, it'd be a huge deal breaker for me if I saw my guy with another man or he said he wanted to be with another man.

Why? Because I didn't sign up to be involved with a homosexual. And quite frankly, that would tell me our whole relationship was a pointless lie. It's not happening.

 

[Sporky111]

I wouldn't really be too bothered, monogamy is just a bunch of stress in a relationship. I'd rather be able to trust my boyfriend to say "I'm seeing someone else" and then proceed to tell me about it, rather than keep it all a secret until there's a big fight over it.

That being said, I am gay so this topic be out of my territory. On topic; cheating is cheating. If someone is a closeted gay and they cheat on their opposite-sex partner with someone of the same sex, there's not some "I'm gay so it's alright" clause. Break up first, or at least explain everything.

 

[Lalo Lomeli]

Your friend pictured something along the lines of her wife cheating on him with a hot girl, and then inviting him to join, or something like that.

Point out the same situation but with a real lesbian, not a was-seen-in-porn lesbian. Some butch, chubby, masculine lesbian (yes, I know that not all lesbians are like this horrible stereotype, just the only i have met, and see how happy he would be in that case.

 

[CptCamoPants]

That question had the worst phrasing of all time.

 

[Sylvine]

That depends on what set of rules You agree upon when You start the relationship, no?

By default, cheating is breaking the rules. Usually, the universal rule is being "faithful" to Your partner.

It's probably best to talk about stuff like that before commiting to a relationship. You never know what other people view as normal. Communication is a good thing.

~Sylv

 

[fenrizz]

Sex is sex, even if it is between members of the same sex.
Sexual relations and intimacy is to be reserved for me, and me only (if it were my girlfriend, obviously).

So yes, in my opinion it is cheating.