Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?
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Of course that is cheating. It's just that it's also a very common male fantasy so... yeah. I'd be pretty pissed off if that happened. But at the same time maybe it means the start of a whole new crazy awesome path for your relationship. So yeah. It's cheating but not necessarily is it terrible.
so... is tomato sad the vegetables disowned him? i'll buy him some pizza, cheer him up.TiefBlau said:
OT: its cheating.
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Hm...Dags90 said:Sorta like the drummer from The Gossip.Jonluw said:
Yeah, I could dig that.
Looking only at that picture without being told it's a girl I would perhaps be reluctant, but if I cought her in bed the whole 'nudity' thing and being able to see her whole body would sorta counter the androgyny.
My point is that her looking butch doesn't bother me so long as she's recognizably female.
And if she doesn't have pecs like a guy and has certain gender traits (they don't need to be particularly pronounced), I'd say she goes as recognizably female.
I think for me to be turned off by a butch girl she would probably have to look like a muscular guy someone performed impromptu gender reassignment surgery on.
Of course, there's still the option that I just don't find the girl attractive; regardless of butch levels. But I trust my prospective partner to have decent enough taste for her lovers to work for me as well.
Edit: Wait...
Were you presenting her as an example of 'butch done right' or were you asking if she was too butch for me?
Because if it was the former, I've just been rambling on meaninglessly.
Funnily enough, I asked my boyfriend this the other week. I asked what he'd do if I had sex with another girl. I expected an answer such as "Well, I'd be hurt but I'd want to work through it and slowly trust you again..." instead he said, "Do I get to watch?"
So, I don't think men see it as a serious thing. Of course it is! Just because it's your fantasy, doesn't mean it's not real.
So, I don't think men see it as a serious thing. Of course it is! Just because it's your fantasy, doesn't mean it's not real.
Morally, if they're really a homosexual, there's nothing wrong, but in the eyes of most Western family courts, the gay person cheated.
Well yes, it's still cheating, but I honestly wouldn't be nearly as hurt by it as I would be by the other kind.
If I walk in to find my girl with another girl, I'd be kind of annoyed by her not telling me, but I'd know exactly what the other girl has that I don't. She can't get that from me, so it at least makes sense from a logical standpoint. Whereas if it's with another guy, it turns from a case of "I want something you can't give me" to "I want something you *can* give me, but would rather get it from someone else". Big difference, that.
I'd honestly be perfectly fine with my gf being with other girls as long as she didn't hide it from me, but I wouldn't be okay with her being with other guys.
If I walk in to find my girl with another girl, I'd be kind of annoyed by her not telling me, but I'd know exactly what the other girl has that I don't. She can't get that from me, so it at least makes sense from a logical standpoint. Whereas if it's with another guy, it turns from a case of "I want something you can't give me" to "I want something you *can* give me, but would rather get it from someone else". Big difference, that.
I'd honestly be perfectly fine with my gf being with other girls as long as she didn't hide it from me, but I wouldn't be okay with her being with other guys.
Screwing around with someone you're not married to while in a traditional relationship is cheating no matter if its same gender or different. Of course there are some people who have more open sexual relationships and to them it's not cheating (they're playing by their own rules) If anything I think hiding behind a partners back having sex with someone of the same gender is worse than just straight up cheating, you're actively lying not only about having sex but also a huge part of your identity, no matter how you slice it gender preference plays a big role on your lifestyle.
Cheating is cheating, whether same-sex or not. There's no "free-pass" to this, you either are monogamous or polygamous. And if your partner isn't into that second option, you're cheating.
If you're looking for loopholes in a marriage or a relationship, perhaps you should just buck up and admit you've got commitment issues and either deal with them or end the relationship/marriage.
Hurting someone else because you're too self-absorbed to be faithful is a douchebag move, whether you're man/woman, straight/gay, whatever. Also perhaps one should carefully examine one's sexuality before tying the knot...
If you're looking for loopholes in a marriage or a relationship, perhaps you should just buck up and admit you've got commitment issues and either deal with them or end the relationship/marriage.
Hurting someone else because you're too self-absorbed to be faithful is a douchebag move, whether you're man/woman, straight/gay, whatever. Also perhaps one should carefully examine one's sexuality before tying the knot...
I do not find the two choices, 'Cheating is still cheating' or 'It's not the same' to be exclusive.
Clearly any straying from a relationship is cheating, and if it was an intimate, monogamous relationship, then the trust necessary to maintain that relationship has been broken. I have never known any couples who successfully restored the same trust after something like this
That cheating happened with someone of the gender that I am not makes it different. That is, if my lover were with a man, I would wonder what he was providing that I was not. With a woman, I would know exactly what she was providing that I COULD not.
So, if I discovered that my lover, someone whom I care for deeply, was gay, I think I could be friends with her after the break up. Although discovering it by finding her in bed rather than through conversation would be a tough obstacle to overcome.
Clearly any straying from a relationship is cheating, and if it was an intimate, monogamous relationship, then the trust necessary to maintain that relationship has been broken. I have never known any couples who successfully restored the same trust after something like this
That cheating happened with someone of the gender that I am not makes it different. That is, if my lover were with a man, I would wonder what he was providing that I was not. With a woman, I would know exactly what she was providing that I COULD not.
So, if I discovered that my lover, someone whom I care for deeply, was gay, I think I could be friends with her after the break up. Although discovering it by finding her in bed rather than through conversation would be a tough obstacle to overcome.
Unless the people involved are in an open relationship (the OP suggests that this hypothetical case is not), yes, it is cheating.
In Western society, for the most part, a couple is just that, a couple. Two. 2. Unless it has been discussed beforehand, both individuals are most likely of the mind that there are no third parties, just them and their SO.
Lying by omission is still lying, is still cheating, is still dishonest.
In Western society, for the most part, a couple is just that, a couple. Two. 2. Unless it has been discussed beforehand, both individuals are most likely of the mind that there are no third parties, just them and their SO.
Lying by omission is still lying, is still cheating, is still dishonest.