Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?

[MaxwellEdison]

It's on two levels, I think.

Intellectually, it's the same, and I'd definitely dump them in either situation.
Emotionally though, it's different. If she's cheating with another man, I feel threatened and insulted. If it's with a woman, well, I'm just not her thing. It's not like she's better than me, my wife's just attracted to people who are not my gender.

 

[A Weary Exile]

That's...kinda stupid of him to say to be honest. Cheating is a violation of trust, doesn't matter what gender they are.

 

[Necroid_Neko]

The reason a lot of guys don't see their partner's secuality as cheating is to do with sexual strategies. A guy's successful reproduction chances with their partner are only threatened if she chooses to sleep with a man, which could lead to her being impregnanted by that man rather than the partner. Since a woman can't impregnate another woman, men don't care as much about their sexual activity together.
On the other hand, if you were to ask women this question about their husbands being homosexual the response would be almost 100% 'yes it's cheating', to ensure the survival of their children women look for men who'll be emotionally faithful and will help support their child. So, even though their husband can't have another child with a man, the woman would still be upset because his infidelity implies he could leave her at any time, abandoning the children she needs to ensure the survival of.
OT: Imo, if I was to sleep with a woman while in a relationship I'd call it cheating

 

[Goldeneye1989]

Im honestly not sure, I mean if she was Bi or gay and she hadent told me i would feel bad that she had to repress her own desires in order to be with me, on one sign, and if she does enjoy having sexual relations with a woman, well, im not personally able to provide that,

HOWEVER, i would be ok with it i think if she had asked me before hand or discussed it with me on some level. I dunno.

 

[mjc0961]

Of course it's cheating. But just like if your partner was cheating on you with someone of the opposite sex instead of the same sex, it's up to you to decide what that means for your relationship.

 

[Lyri]

If you're allowed to join in, no I guess.

It's still cheating, she's still schlicking with another women without your knowledge or consent.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

uhh....What?

Sexual preference doesn't matter. If your partner is having sex with someone else behind your back, it's cheating. If her sexual preference mysteriously changed and she needed girl-on-girl in order to be happy, she should have brought it up! At that point, either a compromise of some kind is made (unlikely, but possible), or the relationship is ended so that both parties are free to pursue other relationships.

As for "is just being homosexual cheating?"...no. As I said above, it's only cheating if you enter into another relationship while you are already in one. If she's lesbian and not pursuing other women behind your back, she's not cheating.

 

[Ilikemilkshake]

I'd still consider it cheating... but for some reason i'd prefer it to being cheated on with another guy

 

[somonels]

All forms of intercourse is repulsive, unless it is girl on girl, in which case I want pictures. The question is whether a person, the cheated, finds penetration, not artificial or stimulatory, to be the limit of acceptable misbehavior. That also makes it a question more aimed for men, not women, unless lesbian.

 

[JaceArveduin]

Many guys would probably say something "It's fine so long as I can join in once I catch you"

 

[Sagacious Zhu]

If you have sex with someone else outside the relationship that you're currently in, it's cheating.

 

[Emperor Nat]

Is it cheating? Yes.

The reaction of the partner is something different.

However, simply -being- gay or bisexual isn't cheating if you're not actually sleeping with other people.

 

[Smooth Operator]

I'd break up, s/he had been cheating on me after all. How the hell is it any difference depending on the gender? Of the person s/he cheating with?

It seems the male subconscious has a hard time finding other women threatening to the relationship.
I can't explain it otherwise just that the mere thought of finding another man with my partner infuriates me while I can't feel that in the slightest if it was a woman, I may even end up wanting to watch.

OT: Yes it is cheating, but if you care or not is a whole new bag of dice.
Do be warned guys, as nice as the imagery looks in your head if your girl is out looking for "strange" you need to seriously rethink the relationship.

 

[Dark Prophet]

Yes regardless of gender regardless of the sexual orientation of the couple it's still fucking cheating.

 

[TheVioletBandit]

Of course it's cheating. Maybe I don't understand the question, but how could it be otherwise?

 

[Jonluw]

It's still cheating, but I mean...
It's hot.

What if it was a really butch lesbian? I wonder if that would change the OP's friend's mind. Coming home to your lady friend doing the horizontal tango with another woman who could beat you up.

Doesn't matter what gender they're doing, it's cheating.

Depends on the butch level.
I'm sorta into butch girls if done right.

 

[Charles McGuffin]

You should change the headline, because being homosexual isn't cheating. Cheating is cheating.

 

[zelda2fanboy]

I don't know how I'd feel. It all depends if she "loved" the person and didn't want to be with me anymore. I'd rather have a policy if I were married to have a completely honest and open relationship and that if she wanted to have sex with a woman that she would tell me first. And maybe let me join in.