The difference from my wife cheating on me with a man and my wife cheating on me with another woman is the difference of covering yourself in honey and shaking a hornets nest, and trying to fight 15 rabid rottweilers, while wearing a meat suit.
Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?
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cheating is cheating, simple as that.
I'm a bisexual male.
If I'm dating a girl and cheat on her with a guy, that's cheating.
If I'm dating a guy and cheat on him with a girl, that's cheating.
If I'm dating a guy and cheat on him with another guy, that's cheating.
If I'm dating a girl and cheat on her with another girl, that's cheating.
It's all the same thing as far as I can see.
I'm a bisexual male.
If I'm dating a girl and cheat on her with a guy, that's cheating.
If I'm dating a guy and cheat on him with a girl, that's cheating.
If I'm dating a guy and cheat on him with another guy, that's cheating.
If I'm dating a girl and cheat on her with another girl, that's cheating.
It's all the same thing as far as I can see.
When you enter a serious relationship at some point it should be obvious who you are and aren't allowed to sleep with. I have an ex who claimed because she was bi she was entitled to keep a female lover and was exasperated when I didn't agree.
In hindsight I should have said screw it and negotiated a 3some because if we couldnt agree on something as simple as that then I didn't have to worry about emotionally investing myself in that flake anyway. Live and learn.
In short there is no answer that's right for everyone. If you sleep with someone that your significant other doesn't want you to sleep with, you're cheating.
In hindsight I should have said screw it and negotiated a 3some because if we couldnt agree on something as simple as that then I didn't have to worry about emotionally investing myself in that flake anyway. Live and learn.
In short there is no answer that's right for everyone. If you sleep with someone that your significant other doesn't want you to sleep with, you're cheating.
Of course it's, you idiot! It doesn't matter the sex but the action, and I think is Worst (DISCLAIMER: I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING AGANIST PEOPLE LIKING WHATEVER GENDER THEY LIKE, MY PROBLEM IS WHEN THEY DON'T TAKE THE MATTER SERIOUSLY AND HURT EVERYONE IN THE PROSESS, FUCK IF I KNOW!), now when a woman/man cheat his/her spouse with someone of the same sex it's mostly because one of two things: Either he/she wanted to experiment with his/her sexuality (no problem, if the other spouse or partner agreed), or he/she was denying his/her true self all this time and... well, you know.
This is my opinion, although I don't think if it's the most arbitrary one. I once had GF that previouslly she've had a relationship with a girl... I still don't know why I didn't paid atention to that fact, anyway after 5 excrutiating months of relationship we broke up as ''friends'' and moved on, untill one day she told me that she found another partner... so yeah... my mind went white and made the next relation of data: girl>me>girl... RESULT: She was a lesb al the time, she wasn't experimenting back then, was doing so with ME... ugh...
So yeah, have that piece of data at hand the next time you see your spouse on top of your maid... it might not end as good as you think it will.
This is my opinion, although I don't think if it's the most arbitrary one. I once had GF that previouslly she've had a relationship with a girl... I still don't know why I didn't paid atention to that fact, anyway after 5 excrutiating months of relationship we broke up as ''friends'' and moved on, untill one day she told me that she found another partner... so yeah... my mind went white and made the next relation of data: girl>me>girl... RESULT: She was a lesb al the time, she wasn't experimenting back then, was doing so with ME... ugh...
So yeah, have that piece of data at hand the next time you see your spouse on top of your maid... it might not end as good as you think it will.
It's still cheating. When I first found out I was bi, the guy I was dating at the time said that he wouldn't mind if I had a gf on the side. I just looked at him with the most confused/disdainful look ever and just said "I'm monogamous"
OK, thanks for clearing up the fact that you didn't understand the first thing thing about my post so let me explain it so you can understand it.bahumat42 said:
You enter a relationship with a person that you really like. After being together for some time you either lose interest or find out that you're not straight. How in any sense of the word of cheating does this fit into cheating?
Absolutely no difference whatsoever. In fact, some people take it even harder, as if they aren't good enough, that they were the reason they're partner "became", so to speak, gay.
It actually reminds me of when I did A Level English Literature and we were studying A Streetcar Named Desire. Blanche walked in on her husband having sex with another man, ignored it, later told him that he disgusted her and he killed himself. She never forgot that and it pained her always and is believed to be why she's such a flirt - so she feels as though she's good enough. Does that make sense?
My tutor who was teaching us this also described an incident with somebody she knew. Her boyfriend came out - while he was dating a girl. She denied it completely. I felt really sorry for her because it seemed as though he only dated the girl as a sort of defensive means of "showing" others that he wasn't gay. Honestly? No matter what sexuality or whatever other reason, I think that's disgusting. That's horrible, toying with somebody like that. Perhaps not intentionally but that can have some serious psychological effects on somebosy and it's most certainly not exclusive to people who come out. Anybody who does that for whatever reason... jeez. It's quite selfish when you think about it but I suppose at the end of the day, nobody knows how their mind sees it, if that makes sense? All the same though, it's an awful thing to do to someone. In general, cheating is an awful thing to do, gay or not.
It actually reminds me of when I did A Level English Literature and we were studying A Streetcar Named Desire. Blanche walked in on her husband having sex with another man, ignored it, later told him that he disgusted her and he killed himself. She never forgot that and it pained her always and is believed to be why she's such a flirt - so she feels as though she's good enough. Does that make sense?
My tutor who was teaching us this also described an incident with somebody she knew. Her boyfriend came out - while he was dating a girl. She denied it completely. I felt really sorry for her because it seemed as though he only dated the girl as a sort of defensive means of "showing" others that he wasn't gay. Honestly? No matter what sexuality or whatever other reason, I think that's disgusting. That's horrible, toying with somebody like that. Perhaps not intentionally but that can have some serious psychological effects on somebosy and it's most certainly not exclusive to people who come out. Anybody who does that for whatever reason... jeez. It's quite selfish when you think about it but I suppose at the end of the day, nobody knows how their mind sees it, if that makes sense? All the same though, it's an awful thing to do to someone. In general, cheating is an awful thing to do, gay or not.
Gee, he sounds like a real gem, huh?Rin Little said:
I didn't bother with the poll, since I cannot tell what it is asking. It looks like it means, "Does being gay equal cheating?" which obviously it doesn't, but your post suggests that it means, "Is it cheating if your partner cheats on you with someone of their gender?" Cheating is cheating. I would probably be less hurt if my partner left me after discovering he was gay, because I would be less likely to blame myself, but it's still cheating.
Cheating is an overrated word. People are so shallow that they demand complete sexual domination of their partners and can't handle the thought of it not being given. People too often equate sex and love, and that all love is exclusive (you can only love one person at a time). Meaning, if you love someone and they have sex with someone else, then this clearly means that A) they love that other person and B) they don't love you. I believe both of these assumptions are wrong. The question shouldn't be "Is it cheating" so much as it should be "how much should it matter either way?"
As hot as it would be to have a significant other who digs others of the same sex, it would be a real blow to my manhood if she decided to cheat on me with another woman instead of merely engaging in mutual threesomes. I mean, seriously, if being with me is what makes my significant other to explore relationships with the same sex, I feel like I haven't done my job right as both a man and as a person in a relationship.
Slightly aroused but still very much betrayed. Cheating is cheating, no matter how sexy it is (as much for the lack of my fat ass as for the lesbians).
Yes, it is cheating. Factually. It is not a discussion or up to interpretation. It is cheating, period.
However, all couples do mean things to each other from time to time. All couples have to forgive each others shortcomings, and all couples behave selfishly now and then. Its not exactly enlightened, but its easier to forgive a sexual escapade with another female because it is hot, we don't feel like another female is a threat, and no risk of being cuckolded. The question is not if its wrong, its is both couples idiosyncrasies properly align with their partners failures and result in a tolerable situation.
However, all couples do mean things to each other from time to time. All couples have to forgive each others shortcomings, and all couples behave selfishly now and then. Its not exactly enlightened, but its easier to forgive a sexual escapade with another female because it is hot, we don't feel like another female is a threat, and no risk of being cuckolded. The question is not if its wrong, its is both couples idiosyncrasies properly align with their partners failures and result in a tolerable situation.
Yes, it is still cheating if it's with the same sex. You are having relations with someone other than your partner.