Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?

[OldKingClancy]

This is the result of a conversation I had with some friends. One of them made the suggestion that if he got married and then one day came home to find his wife cheating on him with another woman he would be fine with it, or at least better than if she was with a man. We had some more discussion mostly being 'Cheating is still cheating' or 'It's not the same'. I ask you Escapist - mainly males but females can answer as well - if you came home to find your partner in bed with another person of the same gender how would you react.

 

[Roofstone]

I'd break up, s/he had been cheating on me after all. How the hell is it any difference depending on the gender? Of the person s/he cheating with?

 

[TheBanMan_v1legacy]

Adultery - voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.

I don't see any reference to the gender of the "someone other" there.

Whether someone is okay with it is another matter entirely; it's still cheating.

 

[TiefBlau]

This question rivals "Is tomato a fruit or a vegetable?" in complete and absolute inconsequentiality. You can call it cheating. You can call it whatever you want. It's just gonna be an awkward breakup and that's about it.

 

[AnarchistFish]

The title seems to imply that being homosexual/bisexual w/e is cheating in itself. Might wanna change that.

But yeah, it's still cheating.

 

[lacktheknack]

wat?

Um, look at it this way... if you found out that your partner ran off and had steaming hot screaming sex with someone else, how much does gender matter to you?

EDIT: Actually comprehended OP. Apparently, I still don't understand people.

 

[NegaWiki]

Depends, is the person gay but in a straight relationship? If so, that's not cheating, that's lying to yourself or lowering your standards.

 

[HalfTangible]

This is the result of a conversation I had with some friends. One of them made the suggestion that if he got married and then one day came home to find his wife cheating on him with another woman he would be fine with it, or at least better than if she was with a man. We had some more discussion mostly being 'Cheating is still cheating' or 'It's not the same'. I ask you Escapist - mainly males but females can answer as well - if you came home to find your partner in bed with another person of the same gender how would you react.

I like the way NCIS put it: It's less shocking for the partner because you know almost instantly what the other partner has that you don't.

Is it cheating?... Probably, yes. But whether or not the person is angry will be the deciding factor on whether they will treat it as such.

Especially since if it's a straight male the first thought in his head after 'oh my god, she cheated on me...' will be 'WHOOHOOO! THREESOME!'

 

[Jonluw]

It's still cheating, but I mean...
It's hot.

As much as I would like to be all righteous and stuff - equality and all that - and say that it's just as bad; I'm just not wired that way. Nor are most men, I'm guessing.

Rather than leaving my wife, I'd be inclined to explore the possibilities of polygamy.
Of course, I don't really know how it feels when you love someone though.

 

[DragonFae]

Sleeping with another person, same sex or not is still cheating. End of story.

 

[Ham_authority95]

This is the result of a conversation I had with some friends. One of them made the suggestion that if he got married and then one day came home to find his wife cheating on him with another woman he would be fine with it, or at least better than if she was with a man. We had some more discussion mostly being 'Cheating is still cheating' or 'It's not the same'. I ask you Escapist - mainly males but females can answer as well - if you came home to find your partner in bed with another person of the same gender how would you react.

If we didn't agree for her to have sex with other people, it's cheating. Maybe if she talked it over with me and wanted an open relationship, but she didn't, so it's cheating.

It would be the same if she found me in bed with another dude.

 

[mireko]

Poll: Is Being Gay Cheating On Your Straight Partner?

No.

As for the question in the OP itself: Yes, this is cheating. I would feel betrayed and sad if I walked in on my girlfriend with someone else, regardless of gender. At the same time, I can't deny that I think and feel that it would be hot if she was having sex with another woman. People are weird like that.

It's the difference between fantasy and reality, I guess. Whenever there's an article about an attractive female sex offender, you always see thousands of comments with "boy, I wouldn't mind getting molested by her!". Although it shames me to say this, I always think the same thing. Intellectually, I know it's wrong. I know that even with my particular kinks, getting raped or molested by a woman would be quite upsetting.

I just don't fully understand it. I can't reconcile the facts I know with any simulation I can run in my mind. If I try to picture the heartbreak and sadness of my girlfriend fucking some woman, I get distracted by my girlfriend fucking some woman. It becomes a fantasy, and it ends up sounding hot. Then again, I would probably be okay with my girlfriend having sex with a woman if she asked me if I was okay with it first. Sounds like a small difference, but it really, really, really isn't.

So to answer your question, yes. It is cheating to sleep with someone other than your partner unless they've told you they're okay with it.

 

[DanielBrown]

Yes.
Next stupid question, please.

 

[sage42]

Yes, Yes it is. Not the sexual preference it's self but even so much ass kissing, not a peck mind you full-blown making out, can be considered cheating no matter who it's with.

 

[Hoplon]

Yes.
Next stupid question, please.

Would it be a bad idea to teabag a crocodile?