Poll: Is this ok?
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Well, here's the conundrum; you two are no longer dating, so you really have no say. You're upset because you have feelings for her. But think about it; you two aren't together any more. I'm not saying what he did was entirely kosher (3 weeks ~IS~ kinda jumping the gun), but it's not like you have any negotiability.
Don't let this ruin your friendship. At least she wasn't cheating on you with him. You're very young, and will find other girlfriends, forge bonds, and get dumped/do the dumping. it will happen well into your 20's, and depending how long you aim to maintain bachlorhood, into your 30's even.
Just try to move past this chapter of life.
Don't let this ruin your friendship. At least she wasn't cheating on you with him. You're very young, and will find other girlfriends, forge bonds, and get dumped/do the dumping. it will happen well into your 20's, and depending how long you aim to maintain bachlorhood, into your 30's even.
Just try to move past this chapter of life.
If you love your ex, why did you divorce her? Divorce never solves anything. It only makes your life worse. I know a lot of divorced people and none of them are any happier nor any better off now that they are divorced than when they were married. Get back together with your "ex"!
I usually assign a 1/3 rule to things like this. Take the time you dated, divide it by three, that's the 'If you ain't over it by now, get over yourself' period at which point she is fair game.SirDeadly said:
Now, 3 weeks is considerably less than that. You've still not even determined if it's over-over, rather than just over-I'm sorry let's get back together-over. Your bud shouldn't even be -looking- unless:
A: You've found another girl, at which point, screw you, you were over it already you're just stupid.
B: You really don't care.
C: Four months is up and you should have moved on.
Seeing as none of these apply your friend is a douchebag.
Problem is, whether you say yes or no, he's probably going to go ahead and see her anyways, and do it behind your back, and resent you for being a barrier to 'his feelings.'
I have no advice for that. But there is also a chance she'll say no. In which case, laugh at him and remind him he was being a vulture. (picking up scraps from dead relationships)
I don't see a problem with his honest admission, but I think the timing to go out with her would be disrespectful. If it happened to me and my feelings about it were disregarded it would equal a terminated friendship.
EDIT: Ever think something may have been happening between these two during your relationship?
EDIT: Ever think something may have been happening between these two during your relationship?
Well did he KNOW you still had feelings for her? If it seemed to him like you where over her and then you just arbitrarily blew up at him, then you sort of seem like more of a dick in this situation. Your friend was actually quite courteous to tell you beforehand and three weeks is a pretty generous time period to restrain himself. Personally I would've just fucked your ex, being as she isn't your property and neither am I. I can definitely see where you're coming from, but frankly I view you as a bit of a tightwad. My personal opinion: Your relationship with her is over. Big whoop. Move on. Who cares if your friend is into her? It's not really your business at this point.
We? OMFG U HIM! OLOLOL! (joking) But seriously I agree, 3 weeks is awhile and how would you feel if you where in his shoes?blank0000 said:
according to in subchapter 3b of man law, "if it's your bros ex, you should back off until he says it's over, "fuck the *****" in any given sentence."
lol....wordforge
lol....wordforge
If you dumped her it'd be fine. However it appears you didn't want to so therefore you mate should wait a fair long while; especially if their going out means you'd see her much more often. Although once you yourself get another relationship he has no reason to feel guilty and I don't see why he can't go for her.SirDeadly said:
