Poll: Is this sexist?

[Stalk3rchief]

Just point out to them that some girls say the same things about men. It's just a chivalry thing, a pride thing.
No harm could be meant by that, and in my eyes they're trying really hard to be feminist like when they really aren't.
*sigh*
Women get offended by silly things sometimes, just try and make it up to them.

 

[Milkatron]

The statement kind of was, but sexism to me is more intent than content, so if you didn't really mean it to be sexist, then I can't really say it was with full conviction.

 

[Deadman Walkin]

Nope, not in my opinion. I refuse to let my girlfriend pay anything for me if I forget to bring my change/wallet.

 

[Deleted]

You should have known women get emotional over everything, and I'm gonna be a hypocrite and call you not sexist.

They just thought that you meant girls don't pay for food on activities which is really nothing to get worked up over.

 

[Bat Vader]

It sounds sexist, I believe they took it as; if they were guys you would have had no problem with taking their money.

I have no problem taking anyones money. Unless of course the money belongs to The Mafia, The Law, or a homeless person.

 

[L3m0n_L1m3]

The way you said it is what messed you up. Nice thought, bad execution.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

GET A JOB.

just kiddin

I'm in the market for a job. I'm only 14 though so it's kind of hard.

I share your problem

 

[Aqualung]

You should have known women get emotional over everything.

That's not truuuue! D: [/runs off to cry]

OT: That could be easily interpreted as sexist, but it sounds like you clearly didn't mean it. They must all just be at that time of month... At the same time.

Triple threat!!!

 

[Firia]

You may not have intended to come off as sexist, or hurt their feelings. You did however base your choice on sexist practices. That makes it "kind of." Just remember that if you're trying to avoid sexism, male is on the same playing field as female, and they can help pay your way through a meal, movie, loan, every bit as much as you can for them.

 

[Nouw]

What do you mean by polite ? Three girls were asking to pay your admission and you just blurted out no because you're girls. I understand they might screw up like normal people but I wonder why you added girl into it.

Sexism is discrimination based on gender, so yeah I guess you could say that being chivalrous can be sexist. But for me there the lines get a bit blurred since it's normally positive discrimination, and I have nothing against that.

You could of just said "I'm not letting someone else pay for my admission fees" though, which would of been better all round really. So next time just do that, since noone will get offended.

This poster speaks the truth. In a very polite way I might add.

If what bodyklok said is true don't put genders into it.

Think before you act.

 

[Slayer_2]

If you'd have taken the money from a bunch of guys, then yes. If you'd have said "I'm not letting a bunch of guys pay my admission", then no.

 

[Burck]

So they offered to pay my admission fee. Without thinking I replied "I'm not letting a bunch of girls pay my admission." ...only trying to be polite, chivalrous even, but they wouldn't take it.

Based on this definition, provided by The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition:
"Attitudes, conditions, or behaviors that promote stereotyping of social roles based on gender."
At a technical level,
Yes, as your statement "promotes stereotyping of social roles", i.e., that males pay for expenses.

At a practical level, still yes. It would be fine if you told them not to pay for you without being gender specific, you'd be clear. I'm not saying what you did was something to go mope about for, but reconsider any similar concepts you have.

 

[rhino600]

Based on what you said your thoughts on the subject were not sexist, however the way you said could easily be interpretted as sexist.

In short: What you meant to say wasn't sexist and what you did say did sound incredibly like it.

 

[Thamous]

It wasn't sexist it was, you simply didn't deliver your point very... eloquently, need some better word choice.

 

[ZeoAssassin]

was kind of just the WAY you said it that made it seem sexist is all even thou you didn't mean it like that

 

[Arcane Azmadi]

It wasn't what you said, it was the way you said it. Really, that should be obvious. The idea was that you don't want your friends paying for you. Which is fine and quite admirable. On the other hand, you described 3 of your friends as "a bunch of girls". Yes, that was a sexist way of putting it, basically implying that you're too proud to let wimmin do anything for you. A better way of phrasing it would have been "a gentleman never allows a lady to pay his way for him". Of course, they could still interpret that as being sexist if they really wanted to, but they couldn't interpret it as being rude at least.

 

[flare09]

Kind of I guess. But what can't be taken as sexist/racist/anything else.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

If there's one thing I've learned over the course of a couple of relationships, it's that women actually do like to pay sometimes. I think this can be hard for us guys, we're brought up in a society where we're taught that the manly thing is to always pay, and not to let girls pay for you. But times are changing, and we men must learn to suck it up. I know it can actually feel embarassing (though it shouldn't) to let a girl pay for you, but women like it if you don't make a big stink about it when they offer to pay.

 

[irishdelinquent]

It was kinda sexist, because of your emphasis on the fact that you didn't want girls to pay for you. However, I sympathize with you, since I'm willing to wager that you just meant you didn't want someone to pay for you.

Still, way to go buddy. Pissing off three women simultaneously is no mean feat....well done