Poll: Is this sexist?

[TheLefty]

You should have known women get emotional over everything.

OT: That could be easily interpreted as sexist, but it sounds like you clearly didn't mean it. They must all just be at that time of month... At the same time.

Triple threat!!!

I thought about mentioning that in my opening post but decided the Admin might not agree with my choice of words.

If you'd have taken the money from a bunch of guys, then yes. If you'd have said "I'm not letting a bunch of guys pay my admission", then no.

I have to admit that I might have. In this case the girls were an ex, a girl who I'm trying to make my girlfriend and a friend, while if it had been some guy friends they probably would have owned my money anyway.

Still, way to go buddy. Pissing off three women simultaneously is no mean feat....well done

I try my best.

 

[Danglybits]

Yes because going from how you said it, the emphasis is on their sex. That you are upset that they want to pay your admission because of their sex. If you said it how you typed it out; I don't see any other way it could be interpreted. That may not be how you feel or why you said it but what you said is sexist. Pretty shitty too; teach them to try and do something nice for you. You could have just said, "Sure but I insist on paying you back" and avoided the whole thing.

 

[mshcherbatskaya]

If you didn't want to let them pay because they are girls, yes, that is sexist. People get the idea that sexism is something only evil, ignorant assholes do, that sexism is only for Bad People, but it's not. You were discriminating on the basis of sex. That's the simple definition of sexism. I would say the same thing if the situation was reversed and one of the girls just expected you to pay her admission because you are a guy.

So you did a sexist thing. Oh well. You and a lot of other people, all the time. It's something to think about, something to keep in mind for the future, but not something to get in knots over. I think you should apologize to your friends, for being rude rather than sexist, because that's what it comes down to.

 

[manaman]

The fact that you pointed out that they where female makes it sexist. Was it a big deal, no way, especially since you probably didn't mean it like that. I find alarmists to be tiring. People should just learn to let the small annoyances slide off their backs, what is the point in getting up in arms over the slightest perceived offense.

No. In fact, I never place debts on chicks mostly because I'd hate to...I dunno, akshually.

Lemme think about that one..

BUT I'M NOT SEXIST! D:!

And inb4 like 70 feminists come in complaining about how sexist you are..

I got your back, brah.

I really hope you are not serious. That really seems like a troll post it there ever was one, and maybe you should edit it to not be so blatantly antagonistic and ignorant before you get a probation.

Sexism is attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of sexual roles. Stuff like opening the door for your date, standing up when a lady walks onto a crowded bus, paying for dinner, etc is sexism. However I doubt anyone will call you it, unless they want to say thanks. Why? Cause the difference is being rude, or not. Just recognize it for what it is, and stop being so... well you get the idea.

 

[101194]

"I am 101194, Please insert Gurder."

But seriously, I have no clue but I think you where a little hasty on your wording.

 

[LeonLethality]

if you did not mean it to be sexist it's not sexist

 

[bodyklok]

Think before you act.

Indeed.

Remember, only YOU can prevent yourself from SAYING STUPID STUFF.

 

[CargoHold]

No sexist intention there, but it was delivered in a way that would suggest that it was. Heh.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

Well...yeh, you cited the fact that they were "girls" as a reason for not letting them pay for you. Which implies that if they were male, you might accept it...this is ridiculous, you were being a jerk...accept it.

 

[manaman]

Well...yeh, you cited the fact that they were "girls" as a reason for not letting them pay for you. Which implies that if they were male, you might accept it...this is ridiculous, you were being a jerk...accept it.

Says someone with the name "Sexual Harassment Panda". Maybe you should listen.

Or is Panda just the safe word?

PANDA!!! I SAID PANDA!!! OH GOD PLEASE PANDA PANDA PAAANDDD...

 

[Slayer_2]

I have to admit that I might have. In this case the girls were an ex, a girl who I'm trying to make my girlfriend and a friend, while if it had been some guy friends they probably would have owned my money anyway.

Well then technically, you were being sexist. The only real problem here is how you phrased what you said. If you said "No, no, I don't want to owe anyone any money" then there would have been no problem. It was the "a bunch of girls" thing that caused the trouble.

But always remember how illogical girls can be. A few days ago a girl said I looked cute in a certain shirt. One of my other female friends asked me to wear the shirt today, so I did. The first girl flips out for reasons I cannot comprehend. Sometimes it's like walking through a minefield... blindfolded :|

 

[Emperor Inferno]

Sexist, no.
Stupid, yes.
Insulting, yes.
Dickish, yes.

right
right
wrong
wrong

There was nothing wrong with what you said, they misunderstood you. From my experience with women, once they are offended or mad at you, nothing but time can change that. You didn't say it very tactfully and you offended them. At that point, there was officially nothing you could do about it. But don't worry too much, women can be more reasonable than some people give them credit for. With time they will forgive you and you can go back to being friends.

 

[Thurmer]

Yes it is sexist. In my opinion it was because you treated them differently based on the stereotype that a man shouldnt have to lower himself to being looked after financially by women, its as simple as that.

 

[Boxinatorizore]

I don't blame you if you were on a spawn timer.

 

[skywalkerlion]

The fact that you pointed out that they where female makes it sexist. Was it a big deal, no way, especially since you probably didn't mean it like that. I find alarmists to be tiring. People should just learn to let the small annoyances slide off their backs, what is the point in getting up in arms over the slightest perceived offense.

No. In fact, I never place debts on chicks mostly because I'd hate to...I dunno, akshually.

Lemme think about that one..

BUT I'M NOT SEXIST! D:!

And inb4 like 70 feminists come in complaining about how sexist you are..

I got your back, brah.

I really hope you are not serious. That really seems like a troll post it there ever was one, and maybe you should edit it to not be so blatantly antagonistic and ignorant before you get a probation.

Sexism is attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of sexual roles. Stuff like opening the door for your date, standing up when a lady walks onto a crowded bus, paying for dinner, etc is sexism. However I doubt anyone will call you it, unless they want to say thanks. Why? Cause the difference is being rude, or not. Just recognize it for what it is, and stop being so... well you get the idea.

Wow, nice way to go up in arms about my post, jeez.

I guess you can say I'm a tad bit sexist by your logic, but what are you ranting about? By your logic EVERYONE is sexist, and if that is true, I don't see what the big deal is. I was just raised this way, and if you really wanna call this 'sexist', than you're a really touchy person, mah friend.

I made a laid back response to a thread and you're like 'OH WTF YOU CAN'T BE SERIOUS YOU SUNUVABITCH!' (okay, I'm exaggerating a bit..).

And I'm pretty sure this guy just had it come out wrong. But there's no need to call me agnotistic (How am I being this..?) and ignorant. Even though I bet I could use editing my post a bit so it doesn't seem like I'm retarded.

 

[Reep]

I saw it as more gentlemanly than sexist. Its like paying for dinner or giving up your seat.

 

[yosophat]

It sounds like me that you're one of those people who complains about stuff and when someone actually tries to help you, you would rather decline because.... well... chivalry? Now I say this because I actually know someone who does this on a regular basis and just turns out to be an ass. Now here is the clincher would you accept if your male friends paid your admission, if they actually had an ounce of the compassion your female friends have of course.

 

[Thurmer]

Sexist was if you told them to give you the money and make you a sandwich. What you did was simply kind, and your friends need to stop being so easily offended.

it would of been simply kind if he had said, I'm not letting my friends pay for me, he didnt say that instead he said, im not letting a bunch of girls pay for me, which does make it sexist.

Think about this differently if he had said 'im not letting a bunch of blacks/mexicans/jews/homosexuals pay for me' would that be racist/antisemitic/discriminatory/prejudice?

 

[Monkeytacoz]

not sexist at all