Poll: Is this sexist?

[dmase]

First off i condsider you a dumbass, a women willing to pay for a date with you.... I take that back three women. I've spent probably over 1000 in dates, gas, and gifts for a girl that pisses me off, i've dated, have a lot of interest in, but don't love, not a lot i know for you old guys, I'm 18 and have dated her for 8 months yeah i've been working my ass off this summer.

Thats like a women saying your sexist for paying for them thats just how you wanna do things if you feel imasculated for taking money i think thats better then saying i don't wanna feel like I owe you something, because its different. People that i give something and don't take it because they don't wanna owe me piss me off because i would tell them if they owed me. Anyways your not sexist... chivarly is dead its the new fad come on dude.

Didn't mean to sounds balergent if i did.

 

[Daniel Cygnus]

Being from the South, I'd say nope. It's pretty much standard around here for guys to do this kind of thing (opening doors, paying for dinner, etc.), and women love it.

 

[twistedshadows]

Well, if you're refusing to allow them to pay for you because they're girls, that is technically sexist. It would not be sexist if you just don't like letting other people pay for you, regardless of gender.

 

[kotorfan04]

I am gonna say most likely. If three guys offered to help pay your way, and you would have taken them up on the offer, then yes your behavior was sexist, as you would hold two sexes to a different standard, which is pretty much the definition of sexism. If on the other hand you would have turned down the guys as well then nope, not sexist, same standard is applied. Unless you turned down the guys for fear of them thinking you were gay, then you are a sexist homophobe and goodluck getting your groove on with anyone.

 

[Flying-Emu]

I'm gonna say no because its the "Chivilous thing to do". But on a more realistic level, GET A JOB.

just kiddin

Chivalrous.

Sorry.

@topic

It was sexist, but then again, so is holding open a door for a woman and not for a man. It's only sexist in the fact that you're giving preferential treatment to women as compared to men.

Which... last time I checked... was what they wanted.

See, this is why women are simple. They want you to treat them as superior to men (thereby being sexist) but the second you actually say it, you're an evil bastard who ought to be castrated.

Solution: *****-slap.

And or chocolate. Lots of chocolate.

 

[Gimelbub]

I don't think it's sexist, but that was a very poor choice of words.

 

[LimeJester]

It was sexist, but then again, so is holding open a door for a woman and not for a man. It's only sexist in the fact that you're giving preferential treatment to women as compared to men.

Which... last time I checked... was what they wanted.

See, this is why women are simple. They want you to treat them as superior to men (thereby being sexist) but the second you actually say it, you're an evil bastard who ought to be castrated.

Unfortunately I will have to agree. I won't generalize and say all women do this, but many who I know enjoy preferential treatment (and I know some who also reject this notion, seems to slowly be growing). They want to drive, vote, and wear pants while being treated like a "lady" and not have to ask guys out, make the first move and pay for the cheque. Accepting the double standard is sexist ladies, against yourself I am afraid. Want true equality? Next time you are interested in a guy, ask him out. Again not generalizing but just putting it out there for a subset of the female population.

OP will have to ask himself a tough question: If you would let your guy friends pay for you and not your female friends then it is sexist, if you wouldn't let anyone pay for you no matter the persons gender and you just so happened to slip that "bunch of girls" in there, then it's unfortunate stupid phrasing that can easily be interpreted as sexist. Which is just as bad in the scenario. Learn from your mistake young padawan.

 

[Erana]

It is sexist, but I think you already know that you weren't trying to be.
If someone said that to me, I'd shrug it off as part of the argument.

But you already knew that; is there any reason to have brought this up other than that you wanted people to tell you that you were in some way justified?

 

[Unmannedperson]

Sexist: No
Bad decision: Yes
Poor choice of wording: Yes

However, like some former posters, I am of the opinion that chivalry is dead because of women. Too many times have I done something along the lines of opening a door only to get told to stop being so archaic or some shit.

Hell, I even took a girl out once and politely opened my car door for her and helped her out. She instead bashed my knee with my own car door, then refused my outstretched hand by cramming it back into my chest in an act of "I don't need that". I don't bring it up because I went and cried to my mom while eating homemade soup in her basement, but rather because such a simple act of chivalry and politeness regardless of gender was so rudely dejected.

Needless to say, she didn't get a call the next day.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

It's not sexist unless intended as such. Perhaps your morals should be different though.

 

[magnuslion]

My girlfriend and I both Voted kind of. she says you are retarded for not just saying you didnt want to go, because you wanted to play video games. for my part, WTF dude? hang out with chicks, or play video games which you can do any time. WTF?!

 

[KarumaK]

Technically no.

You never said the reason you wouldn't let them pay was because they were girls, you just used girls as a noun to group them together. So technically no.

But what kinda person turns down free stuff?

 

[cobra_ky]

I just got in a heated argument with some female friends of mine about not having money to go to s local haunted house. So they offered to pay my admission fee. Without thinking I replied "I'm not letting a bunch of girls pay my admit ion." That was a mistake. Now I have three angry girls riding my ass about how sexist I am.

if someone said "I'm not letting a bunch of blacks pay my admission", would that be racist?

 

[Mozared]

Nah, that's not sexist, anyone telling you it is is an overzealous feminist. But as has been pointed out, the way you (according to your post) said it does make it seem kind of sexist.

 

[Whitefeather]

Not in the least, it was chivalrous though not well executed.

 

[Kiefer13]

While I'm sure the intent was strictly being polite, the way you worded it does come off as sexist, so I'm going to have to go with "kind of".

 

[Altorin]

it was mostly your tone I think.

you SOUNDED sexist, and I'm assuming they're teenage girls who don't know the difference

so you're sexist.

 

[Shapsters]

>>;

I'm going to be perfectly honest, mate. YES. It is sexist. The gender of the person should not matter when they are offering to bring you somewhere.

As far as it goes for me, I don't like anyone paying my way, so I refuse period.

Well it wasn't really sexist though. If you think about it, he was being gentlemanly. If you cant be gentlemanly, and you cant be a dick, then what can you be to women?

 

[Xrysthos]

Saying it that way would make it sound a bit sexist, but it's not half as bad as insisting on paying for their ride due to how housewives don't really have a solid source of income. Kidding. Might sound a bit sexist though. Just a bit. But it should be obvious to them that you didn't mean it like that...

 

[TheDoctor455]

Your friends clearly haven't met a real misogynist yet. If they had, they would have just treated your outburst as being a bit rude and untactful, but not sexist. A real sexist automatically does not and refuses to respect women because they are women. What you said may have been a bit rude, but I'm willing to bet that if you had said something along the same lines but more politely, I don't think there would have been a problem.