Poll: Love or Lust?

[burningdragoon]

Well I've turned down the few chances at lust that have presented themselves and I (sadly) haven't had the pleasure of a shared experience of love. But in my absolutely expert experience I would choose love without question. I consider lust to be temptation and love to be... I dunno, something to strive for I guess.

 

[pigmypython]

Lust is sooo much more fun....causes more interesting problems too

 

[RatRace123]

I've never felt love, and lust seems much easier to comprehend... So, lust.

 

[LeQuack_Is_Back]

How about niether? Makes this whole life thing a lot less complicated that way. But then, that's just how my priorities are... I'd hope most people would go with love.

 

[Samcanuck]

There is something to be said about not having to worry about the true heart ache a lost love can cause you. With romantic attachment resorting to simple and yet awesome feeling primal release one can have the temporary highs of lust and cast off the emotional baggage. However, as much pain as failed love will cause...I still choose love as my main goal. At no time have I reached the highs and low's of my life than when I first fell in love and later fell out of love (well, more a tearing and raking of the heart than falling).
Not to mention much later, after learning what love actually is to me and finding a women (my wife) that encompasses my understanding of love.

Long term relationships are awesome in a way that is all consuming of your life (with the right partner, love and desire to succeed...etc). All a long term goal of lust is going to get you is a costly divorce and a loss of sponsership, am I right Tiger Wood's? Hiyo.

 

[drdamo]

We all want lust, its human nature, yet that doesn't mean you can't express it in a loving way.
Pure lust is practical at best and so is my right hand and i find it rather boring and therefore not worth the effort anymore.

I'd rather have love-based lust once a year than simple lust each day.
Luckily for me i'm having something much better than that *grins*

 

[Not-here-anymore]

I've even been called 'Victorian' at one point for my ideals of love and how i value it above all else

And yet it was suggested to me that I was a pussy for having much the same opinion...

I value love more highly than lust, but that's not to say I'll entirely avoid lust's input on my life.
Or, more simply, whilst I'm far more inclined towards settling down into a long-term relationship than many people my age, I'm not all that likely to say no to something shorter term if the chance arises.
One can exist without the other, and both can lead to the other.

 

[Jack_Uzi]

It all depends on what you expect from your time being with another person. Both could be good if it is known to both what the name of the game is. Lust and love are both mindsets in moment and time that can equally last as long or short as you believe or want to make of it.

 

[AMMO Kid]

Everyone wants love from another person. If person 1 stopped loving person 2 that person 2's love would deplete for person 1 also. That is conditional love, which starts with lust. If you date a girl or guy because of how they look or likewise it is built on lust most of the time. Real love is when you don't really care about how the person looks, and just care about who they are on the inside. It still can be conditional, but any relationship built on sex or caring about the other person's looks is always built around lust, and no matter how small that seed of lust is it can destroy relationships very easily. This topic is actually why I believe Christianity. Jesus had unconditional love for us no matter what we do, and he even sees the darkest corners of our hearts. I know that my parents rarely argued as a a child because they always thought of this picture of unconditional love and would forgive each other, and they are still a happily married couple who get along very well and just passed their 25th anniversary. This goes back to the person 1 and person 2 scenario. If person 1 stopped loving person 2 then he/she would just look at Jesus' love, and remember that whatever person 2 did to get person 1 to stop loving him/her temporarily was worth forgiving and forgetting, and then a relationship can continue unharmed.

Lust is temporary and conditional. Love is possibly eternal, if you do it right

 

[Shock and Awe]

Love, because lust often follows anyway.

 

[Amardor]

Love, Found it with my partner after years of dating that went awry, it was the same for her, we both had to go through so many bad relationships before we found one as explosive and constant as ours.

 

[Polaris19]

The Beatles said it best.

"All you need is love".

 

[Caligulove]

I think they're both present at the same time- or can be.

And while I don't know how I could go on without some love for the significant people around in my life, I cannot doubt that the sheer, uncontrollable ecstasy of lust is something that everyone goes after. Love is content, knowing your feelings about another person firmly, while lust has a little bit of mystery to it. A little bit of unknown that makes it so fun, yet also makes you scared of losing it.

 

[Thaius]

I value love much, MUCH more. In that there is absolutely no value to lust. At all. I mean sexual desire is an important part of a loving relationship, but lust without love means nothing (except maybe depravity).

 

[Sporky111]

I'm more in the middle. I would rather find love than just live with a collection of one-night stands, but I don't think I'd ever appreciate sex with a stranger anyway.

I believe that there is a type of love you share with your friends, and I value my friends more than anything else. I'm the type of person that would be open to a friends-with-benefits deal, and I think I'd be very happy with that type of relationship.

 

[Ace of Spades]

I would like to say I value love more, but sadly I'm a bit jaded since all my attempts at kindling relationships have met with disastrous results and more evidence that it really isn't worth the effort. That said, I still believe that there is great potential in love, or at least more so than lust, but it's good to remember from time to time that lust will yield results quicker, and is good to tide you over while love is developing.

 

[mega48man]

lust, totally lust, that shit turns me on

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I think they're both present at the same time- or can be.

And while I don't know how I could go on without some love for the significant people around in my life, I cannot doubt that the sheer, uncontrollable ecstasy of lust is something that everyone goes after. Love is content, knowing your feelings about another person firmly, while lust has a little bit of mystery to it. A little bit of unknown that makes it so fun, yet also makes you scared of losing it.

I know how heady and potent a mixture having both is.

I've found lust without love before, and love without lust. But the passion in my relationship with my boyfriend, combined with the love we feel for each other, just makes the whole thing so fantastic.

 

[Jake the Snake]

Love for this specific reason: I know what Lust feels like. I still have absolutely no idea what Love feels like or even is. I must know. I like knowing everything.

 

[assassinslover]

I've had both; I've been in love, and I've had my share of one night stands. Personally, I think both are alright, depending on a person's mindset. Currently, I don't really want to commit to anyone. I don't want to fall in love. So I'm fine lusting after people.