Poll: My life: Why it is sub par

[KurtzGallahad]

I am quite smart, I'm above average for pretty much everything, and I am spectacular at anything involving english. I want to be an actor and am an excellent orator.

Now, I have ADHD and over the years have learnt to manage it almost completely, to the point where most people don't notice. Now I am well liked, generally popular and happy.

I have a twin brother (Non-identical) who has ADD and is useless at english but great at maths and science, he is very rude to people (Especially his friends) and has made alienating people into an art form.
He has self control/anger management problems, and has always blamed me for his childhood unpopularity (Because I was popular) often claiming that I "turned everyone against him" when in truth he turned them against him.

At least 3 times a year my brother throws a rage tantrum where he tries ineptly to kill me (last year he tried to strangle me but didn't isolate the windpipe) this wouldn't b e so bad but there's nothing I can do about it. You see, since I am talented with insults and witticisms, as a child if my brother was mean to me I was told off for retaliating, to the point where I now, psychologically cannot retaliate.
My brother prefers to try to operate without his medication (he's quite intelligent and doesn't want to build up a resistance) but this makes him a complete dick.


3 weeks ago he started screaming and crying at me. Saying "This is for everything you've done to me, you've pushed and pushed and pushed and I've never done anything (Forgetting the murder attempts) now you will feel my wrath" (The tears made it less intimidating)

He kept on swinging at me (In terrible attempts at punches) and every time I got ready to knock him flat (I have martial training, he doesn't) I found myself compelled not to hurt him, so I slowly backed out until I reached the door, then I tried to leave the house (Avoiding his blows) and grab my wallet on the way out (I don't trust him with my money ) at which point he slammed the door on my arm screaming that He was finally going to get his revenge "I'll break your fucking arm for what you've done to me" at this point he started screaming some indistinct shit about how I"d mentally fucked him up.

He couldn't have broken my arm because my elbow and shoulder were both levering myself free of the door.


And he was let off with a warning for that shit.


I hate him so much

 

[Marter]

You should definitely try and get him some help. He needs to be taking his medication to help him deal with his problems. Maybe get him to see a therapist so that he can let his anger out in a non-violent way.

It's always difficult dealing with someone who has a mental illness, and punishing them can make them act out even more.

 

[tipp6353]

yeah you should see about getting him some help, i had a friend with ADD and even when he was off his meds he wasn't as crazy as your brother.

 

[Zarokima]

It sounds to me less like your life is sub-par and more like you just have a shitty brother. I realize he's family and you're supposed to stick together and all, but seriously...that's just fucked up. I would tell him that since he has so many problems with you, you're leaving. Then just sever all contact with him. Report him to the police. Move if you have to (and can). Family is important, but this really sounds like justification for disowning, or at the VERY least a long stay at an institution.

 

[Jfswift]

Wow.. I'm really, genuinely sorry you have to deal with him. I respect your non-violent approach. I don't know if I could have restrained myself that long. I agree with Marter above, I think he needs to see a therapist or at least take pills.

 

[manaman]

Do I doubt this? Most defiantly.

It's hard to take something like this at face value. By your own account you are so wonderfully perfectly balanced and your brother is a psycho loser, but nobody believes you... Seriously?

I don't doubt that there is hostility between you two, but I have a hard time believing your version here is unaltered truth.

Edit: Yeah I also wanted to add that I am a person who had a fairly bad case of ADHD as a child and still has a moderately bad case of adult ADD. Why do I bring that up? Because ADHD and ADD don't work that way. It's not a sign of intelligence, it doesn't make you violent, mean, or rude.

 

[Siuki]

I can't believe perfectly normal people have to be stuck with horrible siblings. I suggest trying to make a few friends for your brother, and maybe take his mind off of murdering you for a while. If that doesn't work, hook up a security camera where you can see him trying to kill you, get it recorded, and get a restraining order.

 

[Lyri]

It sounds like half a story to me.

You mention there is nothing wrong with you but everything wrong with your brother, yet he finds some reason to be physically violent with you.

Maybe everything is like how you say it is, but frankly there will be more to the situation than your little story can ever tell.

 

[Zomni42]

It's not that I don't believe you (I'm very gullible)and I'm terrible at English, but... you didn't capitalize "English" twice. Thats still a proper noun right?(Don't lie to me... I'm really quite gullible). Also, being and actor and pointing out HOW your brother is inept at killing you makes you come across a tad pretentious of the "too cool for school" variety, it seems like you feel your "above being strangled ineptly" or having your arm broken. Please don't take this as an excuse for you brother's behavior, just letting you know why I'm not pitying you.

 

[Veilside]

My best friend had the same exact issue with his little brother. As he got older he started to mellow and became a lot closer with my friend. I think a lot of it comes from lack of maturity and life experience.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

Dude beat the shit out of him and then force him to take his meds.

 

[VeX1le]

snip

Just to inform you, you posted this thread twice.

Also yes you should check your brother into an institute.

 

[Veilside]

It's not a sign of intelligence, it doesn't make you violent, mean, or rude.

This is true. I don't see how the ADHD could effect him in this way other than it can make it harder to build social skills due to the inability to focus. I should know because I have it too and never took any meds for it.

 

[xdgt]

Had a few fights over the years with my brother, never bothered restraining myself - when somebody hurts you ,you hurt them back then and only then do you take the subtle approach, whether it is figuring stuff out with him - what seems like maniacal and unprovoked attacks to you, might seem completely justified aggression on his side, i've been known to be overly aggressive growing up ,sometimes over things that meant the world to me but absolutely nothing to anyone else ,and vice versa. The other way is even simpler - get your own damn place and forget he ever existed. This can't be this hard to come up with, can it?

 

[The Rockerfly]

No you don't deserve pity, yeah your brother has a mental illness it sucks but it's not exact like he can't do anything at all. At least he can still walk, talk and eat

You say you're smart, good at English and you're popular. So this is the only thing? Really? I'm going to be honest you either don't deserve pity, you're lying or you aren't giving us the full story

Sorry if I sound harsh but a lot of my family has a mental illness or another, I know people who have horribly mentally crippled family members. You know what though, neither me, anyone from my family or any other person that I know ask for a bit of pity

So sorry, no. No you don't, don't mean to sound like a bastard but everyone has problems, be grateful that they aren't that bad

 

[Phoenixlight]

He's obviously not intelligent acting in that way. Just defend yourself if he attacks you again and teach him that it's wrong to do things like that.

 

[conflictofinterests]

Starving children whose parents died of AIDs in Africa and their current caretakers are alternatively too physically degraded to actually care for them or are pedophiles? Or get drafted into the genocidal militia?

 

[slipknot4]

Do I doubt this? Most defiantly.

It's hard to take something like this at face value. By your own account you are so wonderfully perfectly balanced and your brother is a psycho loser, but nobody believes you... Seriously?

I don't doubt that there is hostility between you two, but I have a hard time believing your version here is unaltered truth.

Edit: Yeah I also wanted to add that I am a person who had a fairly bad case of ADHD as a child and still has a moderately bad case of adult ADD. Why do I bring that up? Because ADHD and ADD don't work that way. It's not a sign of intelligence, it doesn't make you violent, mean, or rude.

I agree, and why did you make this post in the first place (op)? To tell everyone how much you hate your brother, or just to brag about your "Innocence"?
This thread is more or less pointless [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/groups/view/Escapists-Against-Pointless-Threads] and I can't seem to find the discussion value here.