Poll: My Love Triangle Help!!!

[Marble Dragon]

]I suppose you have a point. Even if he had dumped her only because he knew that he was having thoughts about other girls and he didn't think that he could be good enough to her, it would seem like he was simply rejecting her.

Okay, that's one more hour I'm going to be sitting around, thinking about this thread.

When I dumped my ex, for the right reasons, she still got hurt.

The fact that you have actual experience in things like this makes your argument slightly more valid, I will admit. I'm a girl, but then, I'm not 19 years old, so I wouldn't know the kind of thoughts his particular girlfriend would have. I guess it's sort of stupid to even try to think up a really good solution without every fact about every girl. Since we don't know his girlfriend's personality, we don't know how she would react to anything, and nobody can really say what's a good move when it comes to her. We don't know the full stories behind everyone either, so now that I look back on it, it seems a little stupid of me to even post on this thread. (Especially with notable lack of experience in romance and everything related.)

 

[UpSkirtDistress]

Man, that was almost the weirdest thing I have ever read. The part where you are talking about being really close and in each others families and stuff... I had to do a double take... Probably my fault, its 4:00am and I am bloody tired!

Weird how? (i'm up too insomnia it sucks ass)

 

[letsnoobtehpwns]

I'll give you advice, don't come to the Escapist for relationship help. This is a gaming website, most guys here aren't what you would call a playa.

 

[Dahemo]

You have to be honest with both of them. first, talk to your girlfriend, tell her how you feel, and remind her how you feel about your current relationship, you have responsibilities to her primarily as your girlfriend. If she understands, you have a great girlfriend, respect her wishes, especially if she asks you to cut back on talking to the other girl, which probably isn't helping how you feel. If she understands and trusts you to behave without any change, you have an exceptional girlfriend, and should be punished should you ever betray her. Talk to this other girl and explain how you feel, let her know the situation and I'm sure she'll understand that you already have a girlfriend and need to focus on her.

This could go another way though, and your girlfriend dumps you, in which case you could try with this other girl, but at least have the decency to wait until the bed is cold. I've found in the past that honesty is the best policy, and while it is often hard and can cause blazing rows, the phone call the next day, and the honesty in that, will define your relationship...

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Furthermore, if you later choose #2 over #1, you should be sure to break up with #1 under harsh, stressful circumstances not connected to your relationship, so that if you decide you want to to get back with #1 after hooking up with #2 you have some material to bullshit your way back into her life with. "I lost my job and my dog died and I was addicted to Heroine pity me!" will do a lot more for your chances than "Yeah so the sex got boring."

If you're really slick, you can just marry each one and then move to Indonesia.

Your post is highly constructive and well thought out. (Beats the your an asshole posts,if someone knew the full story and wishes to say so that would be a different matter) I think your right i'm just feeling weird bout being in such a long relationship if its meant to be its meant to be only time will tell.

Don't think I didn't think of just staying with my ex, waiting for things to blow up. I moved away for school, my parents were having issues, times were rocky - but that wasn't the reason broke up with her. And I owed her - someone I thought I loved, acted like I loved - better than a lie.

Sure, it seems the easy way out, but it's dishonest - in a bad way. If you're going to break up, take it like an adult.

Also, man, I don't think you're an asshole. I'm just trying to give good advice.

 

[Kinguendo]

Man, that was almost the weirdest thing I have ever read. The part where you are talking about being really close and in each others families and stuff... I had to do a double take... Probably my fault, its 4:00am and I am bloody tired!

Weird how? (i'm up too insomnia it sucks ass)

The part about being in each others families would appear that you are rekated if you do a quick scan of the text... hence the double take... although, in Britain it is technically legal to marry your first cousin... I dont advise it but its not illegal... but yeah, i took a double take and that is why it was nearly the weirdest thing I have ever read.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Since we don't know his girlfriend's personality, we don't know how she would react to anything,)

Of course we don't. But it still hurts, even when you're in the right.

Back on track: I think, regardless of the consequences, you have to decide what type of person you want to be. It's so easy to be a scumbag - it takes no effort - but if you want to be someone worth respecting, a "good" person, you're going to have to make hard decisions.

You can only do what you can live with.

 

[slyywiskers]

stay with your girlfreind but be "freinds with "benifits"" with other girl

 

[UpSkirtDistress]

Man, that was almost the weirdest thing I have ever read. The part where you are talking about being really close and in each others families and stuff... I had to do a double take... Probably my fault, its 4:00am and I am bloody tired!

Weird how? (i'm up too insomnia it sucks ass)

The part about being in each others families would appear that you are rekated if you do a quick scan of the text... hence the double take... although, in Britain it is technically legal to marry your first cousin... I dont advise it but its not illegal... but yeah, i took a double take and that is why it was nearly the weirdest thing I have ever read.

"We get on great ,we are like part of each others families." thats copied and pasted from the original post. i said "like part" as in practically. We are not related ,not in the slightest i'm an Irish Suburbian not a country farmer.

 

[Kinguendo]

Man, that was almost the weirdest thing I have ever read. The part where you are talking about being really close and in each others families and stuff... I had to do a double take... Probably my fault, its 4:00am and I am bloody tired!

Weird how? (i'm up too insomnia it sucks ass)

The part about being in each others families would appear that you are rekated if you do a quick scan of the text... hence the double take... although, in Britain it is technically legal to marry your first cousin... I dont advise it but its not illegal... but yeah, i took a double take and that is why it was nearly the weirdest thing I have ever read.

"We get on great ,we are like part of each others families." thats copied and pasted from the original post. i said "like part" as in practically. We are not related ,not in the slightest i'm an Irish Suburbian not a country farmer.

Like I said I had to do a double take, its was ALMOST the weirdest thing I had ever read and I am bloody tired! LEAVE ME BE, I want to sleep and no one is dating their cousins!

 

[MBFCPresident]

I think I smell the Banhammer.

 

[twistedshadows]

Stay with your girlfriend. I've had friends in the same position; when they leave their girlfriend for the other girl, they inevitably regret it and try to get back together with their old girlfriend (which often doesn't go over well). Also, long distance relationships suck.

Unless you won't be happy until you're with the other girl. In which case, it's sort of unfair to your girlfriend to pretend everything's alright if you're just dreaming about someone else.

although, in Britain it is technically legal to marry your first cousin... I dont advise it but its not illegal...

Seriously? Does it happen often?

 

[MBFCPresident]

Never mind this post.

 

[MBFCPresident]

Let me fix that for you

Wow, that was pretty helpful.

thanks

Welcome, dude.

 

[Leorex]

stick with the current, but offer to be fuck buddys with the other.

 

[Fenring]

Stick with your current girlfriend. You've got something good, why ruin it?

 

[Ushario]

If you need to ask, then its time to go for what you want.

Which is obviously not your girlfriend.

 

[MBFCPresident]

I think I smell the Banhammer.

Told ya.

 

[darthzack79]

Go with the other girl. She seems like she is more fun and can more adequately be a part of your life (with your friends and such). Not to mention you make it sound an awful lot like you share more of your thoughts and feelings with her than with your current girlfriend.

It seems as though you've got those seeds of doubt taking root in your head about your current woman. Once those doubts start tickling the back of your mind, they don't go away.

 

[asinann]

The girlfriend. So what if she does not get along with your friends? Unless you are 100% of the time with friends. Do you hang out with hers?
Besides, friends are fickle. I did not get along with my boyfriend's friends either. They however all betrayed him, but I still very much love him and support him.

Reading between the lines here but what I hear is "I chased off all his old friends because I didn't like them."

Stay with what you have.