Poll: No children: a turn-off?

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Freaky Lou

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I want children. Not necessarily anytime soon, but I definitely do. So I just wouldn't date anyone who was adamant about never having any ever. It'd just cause problems down the road. Funnily enough, my ex is pretty determined that she's not gonna have kids, and she's dating a Mormon now.

Escapist users don't really like children though, so I gotta say the poll results are pretty unsurprising.
 

Yopaz

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Considering that I don't plan on getting kids for at least 7 years it would not be a deal breaker. I also don't think it's likely I will meet someone who plans kids within the next couple years either.
 
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I want kids (guy) so I'd say yes. If a woman didn't want children, I might still have a relationship, but it would be in full knowledge that it wouldn't last.
 

Kopikatsu

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My fiancee keeps telling me that she wants eight kids. I really hope that she isn't serious, especially because the only reason she'll give me for wanting that number is 'It's symmetrical', but I do want a kid. Or two. Or even three. But that's it. And if it's three, I want an eldest daughter, then two identical male twins. (Neither of our families have twins, so fat chance of that happening, BUT IT'S WHAT I WANT, DAMMIT.)
 

Neekoolawous

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There are those who wish for children in order to either continue down their name or bloodline, or for family company later in life.
Then there are those who wish NOT to spend their lives repeating the lives of their parents and their parents' parents spending all their time and money raising another individual in hopes that they will choose to follow their dreams instead. These are the people who can be considered selfish, but wake up in the morning needing to worry about only their own one path, one responsibility. I am one of these people.
 

Daffy F

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Jonluw said:
Hiya escapists.
Hi.
Couple of things.
1. I love your avatar
2. I want children, so I guess if I felt it was going to be a serious long-term thing, I might reconsider, or at least talk to them about it, maybe try to gauge whether they were strongly convicted or whether they could be convinced to have them. Of course, since I'm a man I might have an odd view on this, but as far as I can see it is slightly unusual amongst men my age to actually want children.
3. I love you avatar
4. Congratulations on the Neo (I couldn't even make it to morpheus without getting put on probation ^.^)
 

theriddlen

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Well, I used to hate kids, but I really started to like them recently. If a woman doesn't want to ever have children, it wouldn't be a turn-off, because most likely she will start to want to have children in the future.
 

Lilani

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Jonluw said:
I'm really not sure if it would bother me right now. I'm not in a relationship at the moment, and nor am I at a point in my life that I'd be able to raise a child without a LOT of help. And even so, I'm not fully sure if I want kids myself. Though the prospect of never having the financial burden or lack of time children cause seem nice, I'm not sure how I'll feel 10 years down the road when I am (hopefully) in a better financial, professional, and romantic position in my life.
 

Jonluw

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Daffy F said:
Jonluw said:
Hiya escapists.
Hi.
Couple of things.
1. I love your avatar
Thanks. [user]darth.pixie[/user] made it for me.
2. I want children,
Are you trying to imply something?
I'm a man
Never mind.
4. Congratulations on the Neo (I couldn't even make it to morpheus without getting put on probation ^.^)
Thanks. I actually managed to get myself into a bit of a flame-battle when I was at 4990 posts. That was scary.

But yeah, I don't think it's that unusual to want children. It's just the escapist community being the escapist community.

Bloody hell it took me long to reply to this. Everything's broken because of the new layout. My connection's been timing out all evening.
 

Chemical Alia

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I would find it difficult to date someone who wants children. At my age, many people who wanted kids already have them or want them soon. Having and being expected to raise children would hinder my career and personal ambitions, and it's not something I ever desired in the first place.
 

Lev The Red

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if we're not talking marriage, then no. i, however, DO want to have kids, so i probably couldn't marry someone who doesn't.
 

Kaymish

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i dont like or want children so i am perfectly fine with a semi long term relationship partner not wonting children and even if that was not the case it would make zero difference any since its never going to have any bearing on the relation ship
 

babinro

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Voted Gents: Yes, it would.

I do not want children. Unfortunately a woman who already has a child or wants a child is a deal breaker for me. Sorry single moms, kids aren't my thing and it would be unfair to fake my interest in your young ones.
 

Captainguy42

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I've always wanted to raise children when I'm older, there's a part of me that looks forward to playing games with my kids and being a father. It wouldn't stop me from pursuing a relationship with someone, but it would stop me from getting too serious.
 

PH3NOmenon

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Eventually, I want kids. I strongly feel that producing spawn is something we "should do", call it religious or whatever you want. Therefore, any woman who fervently does *not* want children will not be one I end up with. That means that any "liaison" we would ever have, would be nothing more than a casual fling. Casual flings are great, but they're not relationships. so yes, it would affect my desire greatly.


Small anecdote that ties in very well. Talking with friends after class, the topic of kids came up. One gorgeous blonde was adamant that she didn't want kids ever. She instantly got relegated into my "friend-zone". Would I take her on a weekend trip to a log cabin? Sure, sounds like a steamy good time. Would I make any kind of effort to start a relationship with her? No, what'd be the point? Eventually, that relationship would collapse if she was really adamant about remaining childless. It surprised me how much less attractive she appeared to me after uttering that sentence. Still as pretty, sure, but a lot less attractive.



Also, I feel a lot of dudes are picking the "no, it wouldn't affect me." option without thinking. If you're still young and think that someone who prefers to remain childless is a better choice for a relationship than someone who would eventually want kids then your answer needs to be "yes, it would affect me." It'd affect you in a positive way.
 

JaceArveduin

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I'm the one that's going to say the whole "No, I don't want children" line, so no, not a turn off, in fact, I'd prolly make that a plus.
 
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I put no it wouldn't, but they would have to be ok with the fact that I've got two already, otherwise it'd be a non-starter. As this is not expected to go the distance they would not be involved in either's life so they don't have to be a surrogate mother or anything, but so long as they are cool with my having kids and them taking priority over anything else, then sure I don't care if she doesn't want kids.
 

CrystalShadow

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Ehm... Considering there's a large chance I can't have children, even if I wanted them, it'd be rather pointless complaining about my partner not wanting them.

If anything, I'm more likely to run into the problem of being in a relationship with someone that might want kids, and then having to face up to the fact that I can't provide that for them...

But then, that's just one more complication on a long list of things that could put someone off starting a relationship with me...