Poll: No children: a turn-off?

[OldNewNewOld]

All I have to say is FUCK THAT SHIT! I eventually want to have kids and could not see myself dating somebody who did not. I also could not see myself dating something that I didnt think I would be with in a year or two. If something is not going to last then what is the point in continueing on with it. The kids thing isnt a major dealbreaker though because people do change their mind and if they dont well "accidents" can happen.


Since somebody reminded me I should mention it again since you havnt been told this enough the the escapist is well known to be a den of child hating bastards so that may skew your poll by a not so insignificant amount.

Your life isn't going to last, so what's the point of continuing with it?
Can't you just enjoy the present and not always thing about the fat future?

@Topic
It wouldn't affect me at all. I live in the present. It's nice to think about the future, but if I'm always thinking about the future, I will never enjoy the present. I will enjoy my time with that person until it just doesn't work anymore. You never know, people change, maybe you change and don't want children or that person changes and wants them.

 

[Zen Toombs]

Well, according to the poll I seem to be in the minority. For me, if the lady/gent that I was with didn't want to have any kids - either through biological processes, adoption or both - it would be difficult for me to continue the relationship.
That is not to say that it would destroy any chance of the two of us being together, it just hurts our chances. Children is one of those issues that if the two people in a relationship are not on the same wavelength, problems ensue.

 

[Gralian]

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[-Dragmire-]

I want to have kids (at least one) eventually so I'd have a hard time taking a relationship further with someone who was dead set against it.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

My results are little skewed because I am not ready for children and as of this moment I really don't ever want one. Maybe that will change in the future, but right now I'm perfectly fine having lots of money and lots of time to spend it.

 

[Mallefunction]

I like the idea of adopting in the future, but no WAY am I having my own children. I've been subjected to the 'lovely' sight of birth before. There is nothing magical about pushing a watermelon out of my vagina. 'Sides, so many unwanted kids in the world

Anyway, it would be a bit awkward if the man I wanted to be with wanted kids of our own, but hopefully they would be the kind of person that can accept the fact that I personally would rather adopt.

 

[saruman31]

No children is a huge turn-on for me. Marriage is so out of the question. Live your goddamn 20`s people. Don`t get married young!

 

[saruman31]

I like the idea of adopting in the future, but no WAY am I having my own children. I've been subjected to the 'lovely' sight of birth before. There is nothing magical about pushing a watermelon out of my vagina. 'Sides, so many unwanted kids in the world

Anyway, it would be a bit awkward if the man I wanted to be with wanted kids of our own, but hopefully they would be the kind of person that can accept the fact that I personally would rather adopt.

But it would be YOUR watermelon. No adopted child can ever replace that. And i can`t imagine a couple capable of making kids who would adopt instead.

 

[Geeky Anomaly]

I myself don't want children, so occasionally meeting women that don't want children either is a turn-on. I think most people want to have kids because society tells them to. I prefer my women very independent and career-minded. It does get frustrating though, when women turn you down based on this one particular area, and MOST women I've met want children.

I don't HATE kids, I think they're cute, funny, and at times brilliant and surprising; but they just cost SO MUCH MONEY and take up time I could be using to do other things. When you have kids, you lose a LOT of freedom, and that for me is the main reason I don't want any.

 

[DeltaEdge]

Yes and no. If they just don't want kids immediately or the near future, then I'm open to that. If they don't ever want to have children, like ever, then that might lessen my interest in them, i.e a turn off. But doesn't mean that I wouldn't want to go out with them. Just means that them that I dislike.

 

[mrblakemiller]

I go back and forth about whether I want kids. On one hand, reproduction is one of the most basic functions of living beings and it would seem weird to skip such an integral step, but on the other, I just don't see what it good about having a five-year-old run up to me and tell me he wants apple juice and will cry if he doesn't get it. I also don't know why I'd want a five-year-old to tell me he loves me; love is cheap when you're five. Right now, if my next girlfriend told me she didn't want kids, I'd take it as a sign we would be good together. And no, I don't date women I wouldn't marry, so that doesn't come into play.

 

[Jodah]

Right now it wouldn't as I do not want children. In the future that may change. If I ever want children and I'm not already in a relationship I can see how meeting a woman that doesn't want to have them would be a turn off. To me a relationship is working, at least potentially, towards marriage and that's the only time I would intentionally bring a child into this world.

 

[BehattedWanderer]

Yes, it definitely would. At some point, years from now, I'll be wanting kids. If she doesn't, then it would definitely affect how long our relationship would last.

 

[Cheery Lunatic]

Yes it would be.

I want kids. I'm amazed at how much Escapists despise them. It's kind of scary actually. To the point that I hope that they DON'T have children...

 

[jpoon]

I had this exact conversation many times with my now ex-girlfriend. She is hell bent on getting preggers and I absolutely refuse to have children because they just downright plain old suck ass, not to even mention the fact that they drain every dime of wealth out of you. Long story short, I'm no longer with her after much hissy fitting, crying, and whining from her.

If I met a woman that refused to have children it would be a dream for me, I never want any spawn, I couldn't think of something more of a turn on than a woman that wanted to NOT have kids!

 

[jpoon]

Your poll options make little sense to me based on your opening statement. This whole poll is fuxed.

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, but I would tell him that up front just because it's rather rude to get married and then drop that little tidbit afterwards. Wouldn't make for a happy honey moon.

It's not that I hate them it's just I've seen the 'most beautiful act' before and it doesn't even remotely interest me. I would adopt though, a friend of mine was adopted and has told me horror stories of orphanages, so I would go that route instead.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

I'd rather adopt a kid than find a romantic partner, so the answer would be yes. If they don't want kids, I don't want them.

 

[milkkart]

3 pages and no one makes a joke about the title, what the hell is wrong with you people?

not sure if the results indicate the majority of people here don't want kids or they're just very aware of their near certain status as 'dying alone'.

and you up there...

I'd rather adopt a kid than find a romantic partner.

yeah, we can tell... (relevant to aforementioned title joke).