We don't live in the same city. And college has a strange way of brining people together.Johnnyallstar said:
Overall: It seems so out of the blue and I am wee bit confused.
Poll: Oh dear God. She said it.
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Overall: It seems so out of the blue and I am wee bit confused.
Hmm, something smells fishy. Like, little kid who just broke a window and tells his mum or dad he loves them before they figure out what he's done kind of fishy. She's doing this after three months of not actually seeing you? Investigations are warranted.
Bah, perhaps I'm just too paranoid/skeptical in nature. If so, ignore little ol' me.
Bah, perhaps I'm just too paranoid/skeptical in nature. If so, ignore little ol' me.
I would be very surprised if something like that happened. But it will be stuck in the back of my mind.Izzil said:
I thought that might be the case, but wasn't going to assume. Well, I then can say you are frequently in contact, which means she is enjoying your personality, which is a very good thing.
A very good thing... unless you yourself don't want to take the plunge. This may be a bit over analytical, but think of this as a complex chess game. She's made her move, now you have to make yours. I suggest you figure out what your end game is, sooner the better, and work towards it.
I can't really tell you what to do exactly, but you have to figure out what you want out of it.
A very good thing... unless you yourself don't want to take the plunge. This may be a bit over analytical, but think of this as a complex chess game. She's made her move, now you have to make yours. I suggest you figure out what your end game is, sooner the better, and work towards it.
I can't really tell you what to do exactly, but you have to figure out what you want out of it.
I don't fear love, but the circumstances surrounding how she expressed it are a bit awkward.TaborMallory said:
Based on the description of events, I'd recommend remaining weary or ending it now, as you don't seem to reciprocate her feelings.
Fair enough. It just seems like something to discuss face to face. By using my supreme social unawkwardnessJohnnyallstar said:
Okay, couple of questions spring to mind.
1. Why haven't you seen her for 3 months?
2. Do you love her (a), like her (b) or just want to have fun with her (c)?
2a. If you love her, have a face to face talk with her and respond to her feelings. Try to find how how her words happened to come so out of blue.
2b. If you like her, try to find out if this is a prank or some kind wild idea gotten while drunk etc or if she is serious. If the first, laugh it off. If the latter, think of what you want from the future and if it includes her etc. In other words, think what you want from the future and discuss it with her.
2c. If she was kidding, nothing major here. If she is serious, this can only likely end in a heartbreak. Give her the news of your (lack of) feelings as gently as possible. If you have any respect for her, you will not string her along.
1. Why haven't you seen her for 3 months?
2. Do you love her (a), like her (b) or just want to have fun with her (c)?
2a. If you love her, have a face to face talk with her and respond to her feelings. Try to find how how her words happened to come so out of blue.
2b. If you like her, try to find out if this is a prank or some kind wild idea gotten while drunk etc or if she is serious. If the first, laugh it off. If the latter, think of what you want from the future and if it includes her etc. In other words, think what you want from the future and discuss it with her.
2c. If she was kidding, nothing major here. If she is serious, this can only likely end in a heartbreak. Give her the news of your (lack of) feelings as gently as possible. If you have any respect for her, you will not string her along.
Seem Suspicious if you ask me, the nibbling little pile of doubt that I am.
Hmm. If your unsure, talk it over with a (close) (very close) friend. They'll help you a lot more than "anonymous people on the intarwebs."
Cos, let's be honest, I've been really helpful, havent I?
Hmm. If your unsure, talk it over with a (close) (very close) friend. They'll help you a lot more than "anonymous people on the intarwebs."
Cos, let's be honest, I've been really helpful, havent I?
Yeah. I know that if I were your girlfriend, I would much rather you get out of the relationship now and make your feelings known rather than faking it and breaking my heart much later. If you don't love her (which you mustn't do or this poll wouldn't exist), then end it now. Sure, she'll be heartbroken, but it's better sooner than later.
She said it randomly after months of no personal contact?
She cheated on you. She hopes by declaring her love you might forgive her if and when you find out.
Or she really does love you and just couldn't hold it in any longer.
Important questions.
How old are you two?
Do you love her?
She cheated on you. She hopes by declaring her love you might forgive her if and when you find out.
Or she really does love you and just couldn't hold it in any longer.
Important questions.
How old are you two?
Do you love her?
I don't know what you are talking about!sneak_copter said:
You are clearly the most helpful person here.
