Poll: Preferences of asking people out

[sam13lfc]

Simple poll really, do you like to make friends/be friends anyway first or is it acceptable to you to ask someone out who you don't/barely know? Ive included the US and UK seperate poll options because, apparently, customs with regards to this are different in these countries (don't know how accurate that is). By asking out I mean ask them to go out on a date with you as opposed to asking them to enter a serious relationship with you but please discuss stuff if you have thoughts.

 

[lee1287]

Apparantly US girls are less easy then Uk girls, Soo.. yeah. Nothing wrong with asking people you dont know out, well, ask them for there number first, maybe? Or name?

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

I only ask out girls that I've gotten to know a little. Why would I want to go on a date only to find out that we have nothing in common or her personality is shit?

 

[Dags90]

I've gone out on dates with people I've barely known. I'm usually too much of a chickenshit to do the actual asking though.

 

[spartandude]

first one to vote "I never ask a friend out (UK)"

reason being is i dont complicate things with friends, i usually find someone who looks nice, work up the courage to talk to them and then ask them out for a drink and see where things go from there

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

Friends I don't ask out. I've been on both sides of that type of relationship where one friend likes the other more than a friend. It ruins friendships.

As a rule of thumb, I usually try to have around three conversations with a person before asking them out. That way we sort of know each other, we sort of know if we're interested, but it's not so far down the path that we've become friends.

I have asked random girls out before that I just met, but those times usually involved a friend and I clubbing in a city with people we'll never see again in our lives.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Asking them out after becoming their friends is lame and unmanly, dare I say cowardly. Better be upfront about it, that you want her, like a man. Girls ain't dumb, and girls are not the dangerous muggers and psychos scared guys make them to be.

How scary is asking her out for a coffee? Just say "let's go have a coffee", and if she follows you alone, it's pretty much ascertained that she is interested, that she enjoys your company, and she's trying to ascertain who you are, and if you are at least material for a hook-up. If she says no, no time wasted, just move on to someone else. If she knows I'm interested from the start it's much less awkward, either she is into the idea or not.

 

[Palademon]

Well, since I'm completely unrelatable to most people, asking someone out I barely know would be pointless. I get to know them first, unfortunately this means getting into the friend zone before even having a chance...

 

[Hashime]

I will never ask a friend out. That is really my only rule.

 

[aether-x3]

I don't ask friends out, Not after the time I asked my friend out and he shot me down and now we no longer talk and he also now goes out with one of my close friends, fun times.

Plus he is the only ever person I have asked out, Rejection screwed me up so much that I don't think I can ever ask anyone out ever again. Well maybe for a few years anyway

Story of my dating life, Got shot down as quickly as it started. or something to that effect.

 

[Ham_authority95]

Simple poll really, do you like to make friends/be friends anyway first or is it acceptable to you to ask someone out who you don't/barely know? Ive included the US and UK seperate poll options because, apparently, customs with regards to this are different in these countries (don't know how accurate that is). By asking out I mean ask them to go out on a date with you as opposed to asking them to enter a serious relationship with you but please discuss stuff if you have thoughts.

I don't "ask people out", I ask them to do "date-like social activities".

If the person in question is a friend, I'll just say "Hey, I've been wanting to tell you that I like you more than a friend" and if she has the same feelings I'll ask her to do a date-like social activity.

My current girlfriend is the exception to this because I informed her that I liked her by kissing her good-bye.

 

[angelbe2232]

I'll get to know people a bit before asking them out. It sucks to get halfway through the first date and find out that the person across the table is a bigot, and that may be their only redeeming quality. I don't really think anything horrible has come out of relationships with my friends, just a deeper understanding and a LOT more inside jokes.

 

[sheah1]

The non-whorish people I know in the UK (where I live) are awfully introvertive when it comes to dating and talking to strangers in general, myself included, so there's my two pence.

 

[Dasrufken]

Only asked one girl out which is a good friend of mine so I cant really say that I have a preference, I live in sweden but the girl's british so I guess I should press one of the UK buttons.

 

[Nimcha]

I don't live in the UK or the US (not yet anyway), I don't know which option to pick.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

Well, up until 2 weeks ago, I'd have gone with 'Only ask out people I know', but then I somehow ended up meeting a girl whilst a tad intoxicated, getting her number, going home, and asking her out once I'd sobered up the following morning.
Unusually spontaneous for me, but it seems to be working thus far!