Poll: Promiscuity and Attractiveness

[Uszi]

In considering a potential relationship partner, what effect does past promiscuity have on how attractive you find them? By promiscuous I simply mean engaging in "a lot" of casual sex, whatever you personally consider "a lot" to mean.


For the purposes of this poll, lets say you have two potential relationship partners, who are otherwise equally attractive, except one has a promiscuous sexual history and the other does not. Which one is more attractive?


There still seems to be a cultural notion that women who are more restrained and/or virginal are more attractive as serious romantic partner, that women who are more promiscuous are less serious about settling down or are less attractive to serious partners. At the same time, promiscuity in men is considered either a non-issue or a positive trait, while virginity in men is decidedly negative.



But what do you guys think about it?




For me personally: I would say that it has no effect. As a heterosexual dude, I don't think I'm specifically attracted to women who have had a lot of sex, but I'm not repulsed by it either. I have been with someone whose had many more previous partners than I did, and it didn't affect how attracted I was to her. If anything, I'd be less attracted to someone with little to no prior sexual experience.

 

[Gigano]

I'd probably go with the one that seem to have a certain fondness for significant amounts of sex, and the strength of character to act it out despite the prevailing puritanical norms.

Self-confident individualistic women who like sex? Yes please!

 

[Rawne1980]

Makes no difference to me.

It would be very hypocritical of me to judge a woman based on her sexual encounters. I've slept around quite a bit myself so it's hardly right of me to judge them.

When it comes to finding a woman attractive I can honestly say I don't care how many sexual partners she's had. As long as she doesn't sleep around while she's with me it doesn't matter.

 

[Alexnader]

Having had little experience myself, knowing the girl was extremely experienced would be quite intimidating for me. As such I'd rate promiscuity as a negative factor.

 

[Jordi]

I think there is a certain point in the middle between "virgin" and "been with pretty much everyone on the planet" that would be ideal for most people. Having said that, I think that generally inexperience is more easily forgiven in women than in man, whereas being a total (man)slut will be the other way around. Other than that, I think the vast majority of people will prefer either "experienced enough to know what they're doing, but is still kind of picky (which means you are probably special to them)" or "about as experienced as me".

BTW: if you want to observe a gender difference, you should have made separate options for men and women in your poll (I don't know if you can edit it).
Also, I agree with Alexnader above me.

 

[Colour Scientist]

It doesn't really have any effect for me.

Although, I'd prefer someone with a bit of experience just so I don't feel like I'm stealing their innocence or something. That could even be one person though, not necessarily a lot of past... eh... I can't say the word lovers without cringing. Sexual partners?

I've been with guys who have been relatively inexperienced and guys with maybe too much experience so I really don't have a preference.

 

[manic_depressive13]

At the same time, promiscuity in men is considered either a non-issue or a positive trait, while virginity in men is decidedly negative.

Says who? As far as I can tell, the only people who think that male promiscuity is an admirable quality are other males. I certainly wouldn't feel entirely content in the knowledge that I'm being compared to ten other girls. Besides, in order to sleep around a lot you need to be confident and outgoing, and I hate people like that.

 

[WolfThomas]

As long as they've a clean bill of health its fine.

 

[irequirefood]

It doesn't really affect what I think. It tends to change the dynamics of the relationship a little, but other than that I don't really mind either way.

 

[Ultrajoe]

Look, I know this a bit off the topic, but when did this board become the single-stop for discussion every sexual predilection and curiosity of young heterosexual men. Yes, I know it's off topic, but when I visit once a week and the first page is stuffed with this sort of thing I can't help but feel it's being done now out of habit rather than any genuine interest.

Disclaimer; I am aware that there are users here beyond heterosexual youths (White, if you want to add another qualifier and cause trouble) but we are largest demographic here, and the almost singular majority of sex-related posting we have deluging the board comes from us. Not me, specifically, but you get the point. Haven't we had this discussion already? Several times?

I'll be polite, however, and vote in the poll. Thus appeasing my personal obligation to forum courtesy and my compulsion to click any and all buttons presented to me.

 

[Samurai Silhouette]

I'd be worried if she was carrying something. That, and sounds like she can't make a commitment. Not at all interested in an open relationship nor savor the thought of fathering someone else's kid. I wouldn't mess with those.

 

[GWarface]

Promiscuity Is A Citizens Duty!

Sorry, just watched Brave New World, and i had to get that out of my system..

On topic, im not a fan of promiscuity, so i would find the not-so-slutty girl a lot more attractive..

 

[MidnightCat]

I would go for the partner with little to no experience. Until I've had more experience myself, I'd most likely feel very awkward with the more promiscuous partner.

 

[Kekkles]

Yeh, I wouldn't say no to a hella tonne of sex, but if she starting veering off to someone else then you gotta drop her. Man, I sound like a pig.

 

[Curlythelock]

If I was going for a relationship then I would definitely choose the partner who doesn't have a history of promiscuity.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

For me, it just doesn't matter. Hell, before I started dating him my boyfriend had drunkenly fucked half of the women in my University.

 

[Boris Goodenough]

I've always enjoyed experienced women. I don't think I would be with a virgin.

 

[ramboondiea]

it doesnt affect their attractiveness, but it does effect my interest in them, if they have a history of being very promiscuous, or atleast not being safe about it, then yeah, no matter how attractive they are, i dont want them

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Depends if she cheated on anyone. If she was promiscuous when she was single and didn't catch anything, that's great. More experience makes for better sex.

 

[Zaik]

I've had this play out pretty clearly before.

Regardless of what I actually think or don't think about it, a woman who is promiscuous(and flaunts it publicly) will steadily decrease in attractiveness to me. It's actually kind of interesting how much it changes. I thought I was hallucinating at first. I still haven't decided entirely that I haven't.