Poll: "Real men don't cry" do you agree?

[lSHaDoW-FoXl]

A real man is one who is decent and honest enough to admit they can cry and will cry as opposed to hiding behind this stupid ego and pride. As I was writing this I saw the comment by Iron Lightning about 'A real man expresses his emotions.' And I agree one hundred percent.

Being honest with how you feel and who you are is a lot harder then acting like something you are not. We are all humans and we all having feelings, acting like we don't have them just makes us inferior for feeling is a part of understanding.

 

[PrototypeC]

The idea is that once you start crying at one thing, you'll never stop, and so most men avoid it. It's not true, though! For men, there's a balance that is naturally enforced by the body and mind so that doesn't happen. Crying is a natural result of stress (any stress, which is why tears come out when tickled, for instance). We evolved that way. Likewise, we evolved the ability to stop before we're thought less of by others.

Let 'em flow, guys. Nobody has to know.

 

[DSEZ]

i believe men should be able to cry because crying reliefs stress

then again this is coming from me who dosent feel emotion except extreme anger or extreme sadness

 

[elcamino41383]

Only the most badass of men are able to cry in public.

Like when at the movies.

Watching Toy Story 3.

There there man, we've all been there.

Hell, for me there's that and Gran Torino (if you don't tear up even just a little at any point in these movies you have no soul).

I didn't full on cry, but I teared up pretty bad at the end of both of those movies...

OP: As many have said, Real men DO cry. Nothing wrong with a good cry now and again. Just make sure you have a good reason. Nothing like (again as someone said) "I broke a nail."

 

[ReaperzXIII]

I agree with somewhat with this statement because I don't like to show weakness, so yeah crying in private is somewhat okay as long as there is a good reason ("DADDY NEVER HUGGED ME ENOUGH" IS NEVER A GOOD REASON) even if personally I won't do it myself, I refuse to cry due to personal views such as:

- No point being sad, life is short so be happy
- Meh f*ck it
- I won't let it get to me
- My emotions mean they are mine and they WILL obey me!

Personally I won't respect men that are too open with their emotions, such as crying all the time and acting like a whiny little b*tch all the time, shedding tears at: death, loss etc... = okay, crying over trivial things will lead to insults and a loss of respect. Anyway in my opinion men are supposed to be mentally strong, supportive and honourable, along with being mentally strong means having control over your emotions; I have promised myself I will only shed a manly tear in a few situations which include:

Close friend/close family memeber dies
I have my first child
I tell my future son I am proud of him after doing something noteworthy.

But what do I know have about as much emotions as your toaster.

 

[vento 231]

I am man, the only time I cry is when my dog dies.

 

[PrototypeC]

In my opinion a man shouldn't be devoid of emotions, he should be in control of them. In my experience a man is usually looked upon as a pillar of stability for many things and should be the rock that others can rely on in a pinch. Does this mean that you can't cry? No, it doesn't. What it does mean is that you shouldn't cry in front of others. Be a man and own up to your problems if you can't completely overcome them. In short, suck it up, you've got important man things to do. Like fix the sink... or pick up the kids from school... or do pushups.

No, here, this guy's got it. It's not just accepted fact, it's my personal belief that a man should be able to control them well enough so that he can be the one that others look to when they are feeling vulnerable. The rock, as it were.

During times of trouble I always knew when it was time to keep calm while others allowed themselves to fall apart, because I had it under control without them. That's what really matters, not whether you allow yourself to cry or not.

 

[Dogstile]

Possibly. I believe everyone should hold their emotions to themselves. I swear, if I have to reassure one more person that "everything will be ok"...

 

[WrcklessIntent]

I don't think you're a pussy if you cry but I don't think men should cry. There is only a few situations when i think its ok for a man to cry. I know its cliche but if i have a problem i deal with it myself i don't want to push my problems on other people or make them upset because I've got a problem. I'm not gonna mock you if you cry over the death of a loved one or something but I don't think its right just crying over problems you happen to have in your life.

 

[Firetaffer]

A REAL man has an X and a Y chromosome. A REAL man has male genitalia.

 

[GLo Jones]

Nothing beats the occasional 'manly tears'.

I follow the doctrine of ancient Greek stoics, which teaches that negative emotions are merely the result of errors of judgement.

However, I did cry reading Marley and Me. I just. I couldn't. It was so... SHUT UP! DON'T LOOK AT ME!

 

[thegamermn]

Crying is fine, man. Anyone who doesn't cry has some serious psychiatric issues

 

[Uber Evil]

It takes a real man to freely express his emotions. Repression is for pussys.

What he said basically. But REALLY overdoing it is bad aswell.

This, 1000x this. Don't cry at a whim, but do cry if it seems like a good reason.

 

[Feralcentaur]

I'm crying right now and it's great!

 

[Chaos Bringer]

Men have feelings too. They should be allowed to express them.

 

[dorkette1990]

I don't cry that much. I can't remember the last time I did.

The way to do it is to bottle up all your emotions and one day punch something that has nothing to do with what you are upset about.

That's the healthy way.

I had to go to counseling for an aggression problem when I was 6, and the counselor told me not to express my anger, and instead to swallow it. Therefore, I'm a ball of anger and occasional violence when someone pushes me to far Hooray inept counselors.
OT: Men shouldn't just burst into tears in public, but no one should. You're emotionally defenseless in public, you should always break down like that when you feel safe.

 

[SimuLord]

A REAL man has an X and a Y chromosome. A REAL man has male genitalia.

Good thing you stuck that second one in there, otherwise I'd say "I've been on a blind date with a REAL man. Cue "Lola" on the jukebox".

 

[Feralcentaur]

I cry at funerals. No where else. I'm a Man lol.

I went to a funeral and I didn't cry. Does that make me a sociopath?

 

[Nouw]

If you're a real man (brave and etc) you wouldn't care about what other people think of you.

If a Cage Fighter's Mother dies and he cries, does that make him any less of a man? If a soldier's comrade dies does that make him any less of a man?

But of course, men should only cry in certain occasions. Unlike other people on the other hand I kid, I kid.

Bottling it up is unhealthy and I always try and hold back but I've learnt that crying makes you more of a human.

 

[LitleWaffle]

Depends, are they crying because their dog died, or because they're watching Twilight?

I believe the question should be which of these is more depressing. =P

In all seriousness. A man should be able to cry at something that is depressing. Same as to how women don't always have to be in the kitchen, etc etc.

Showing emotions is healthy and in a way more manly than those that keep them inside, because they are able to face them and are willing to open themselves up. Much more courageous than those that want to be a manly man and don't show them. Those that show their emotion can live with humility.

In other news, wow that changed from jokes to complete seriousness really fast. (0_o)