Yeah, she was hurting for my instance too. But she got in the swing of things after a little bit, wheyhey.AccursedTheory said:
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For the record and from another woman's point of view I HATE anal, but I did give it the good wife four tries, then told my husband I would smother in his sleep if we did it again. To add to your A-Sex trick I would also recommend to every female, always RELAX and don't tense up I found that made it so uncomfortable to the point of pain, by the last try I relax and took deep breathes, but in the end still felt no pleasure. But i will say relaxing the your whole body is the keyBara_no_Hime said:
Not to be 'Emo' or what ever, but I've had my fair share of crap in my life, heck I'm so stupid I once believed I was dying for a few months (not getting into it). Thankfully, however, I have a great bunch of friends both in the real world and on-line (you see I grew up mostly alone in the real world till she came along, but made some real great friends on-line)not to mention the fact my habit of talking to strangers has revealed to me how bad life can be for some people, yes it hurts like nothing I've ever known, it is an abomination of everything I ever believed, but C'est la vie, a friend of mine once said, 'Life sometimes like to take a dump on you, so wear a hat, and get on with it' he meant nothing by it, but I now own a trilby that's sitting right next to the spot I keep my Prom picture (it's a really sentimental thing to me) .BlueberryMUNCH said:
Though thank you, I'm often the one committing random acts of kindness and empathy, I enjoy the the change of direction.
1. Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)
Yes, many (though with a total of 5 people)
2. Have you had sex?
Yes, with 3 different men (I am female)
3. How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
I was 17 (currently 21). There isn't much to say. I had sex with my then boyfriend at his house. Lasted for a minute maybe. Nothing of note, really.
4. Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)
No, my parents aren't really involved with my life so they are unaware of any of my partners.
5. How many people have you slept with?
I have had sexual intercourse with 3 men. I have had other sexual encounters with 2 other guys.
6. What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
As long as you are 2 consenting adults, it's okay. It's not really my preference and I get turned off when I find out someone has had a lot of casual sex.
7. Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
Only if I was in a committed monogamous relationship (ie marriage) and both of us have been previously tested (something I require for a relationship anyway).
8. What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
I have given and received. It's okay. I don't really have much of an opinion on it. I don't mind giving oral sex. While it isn't unpleasant, it isn't particularly exciting for me. Receiving can be fun for a bit, though I prefer something that is mutually engaging. Oral sex always felt too one-sided for me.
9. Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
Yes.
10. What're your views on anal sex?
Not something I am interested in trying.
Yes, many (though with a total of 5 people)
2. Have you had sex?
Yes, with 3 different men (I am female)
3. How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
I was 17 (currently 21). There isn't much to say. I had sex with my then boyfriend at his house. Lasted for a minute maybe. Nothing of note, really.
4. Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)
No, my parents aren't really involved with my life so they are unaware of any of my partners.
5. How many people have you slept with?
I have had sexual intercourse with 3 men. I have had other sexual encounters with 2 other guys.
6. What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
As long as you are 2 consenting adults, it's okay. It's not really my preference and I get turned off when I find out someone has had a lot of casual sex.
7. Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
Only if I was in a committed monogamous relationship (ie marriage) and both of us have been previously tested (something I require for a relationship anyway).
8. What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
I have given and received. It's okay. I don't really have much of an opinion on it. I don't mind giving oral sex. While it isn't unpleasant, it isn't particularly exciting for me. Receiving can be fun for a bit, though I prefer something that is mutually engaging. Oral sex always felt too one-sided for me.
9. Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
Yes.
10. What're your views on anal sex?
Not something I am interested in trying.
Yeah, well, in case you haven't figured it out yet, I'm pretty candid.AccursedTheory said:
As for the ending poorly, that happened the first time I tried it too (the hurting). It's not something you want to try without a lot of lube (as mentioned), being very relaxed, and some gentle warmup.
A lubed finger first really helps. Or a small toy. Like any other muscle, a little warm up stretch beforehand helps first.
Edit: Also, DON'T try Anal in doggy-position. It works much better on one's back with one's legs up. In that position, anal can actually bring me to climax.
Edit 2: To clarify, doggy anal can work, but it is way more uncomfortable, and I don't really like it like that. It still makes any normal follow-up sex (after a thorough washing) zingy-er, but is far less pleasant.
Have you had sex? Yes.
How old were you when you first did? I was a real late starter. Lost it at 26, but have had a lot of sex since then.
There really is no rush, and when it happens it's not as if angels come down and pat you on the back; it's just another experience.
How many people have you slept with? 4 so far, but lots of times with them.
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? It's great practice, especially for late starters like me. The more the better.
Would you have unprotected sex if the girl, or you, were on the pill? - Yes, I have done this with and without pill (naughty I know), ideally you wnt to do it with someone you trust and have been witha while monogamously. Not advideable, ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? - DROP A DEUCE!
How old were you when you first did? I was a real late starter. Lost it at 26, but have had a lot of sex since then.
There really is no rush, and when it happens it's not as if angels come down and pat you on the back; it's just another experience.
How many people have you slept with? 4 so far, but lots of times with them.
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? It's great practice, especially for late starters like me. The more the better.
Would you have unprotected sex if the girl, or you, were on the pill? - Yes, I have done this with and without pill (naughty I know), ideally you wnt to do it with someone you trust and have been witha while monogamously. Not advideable, ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? - DROP A DEUCE!
I've never actually had sex. I've been in a position to have sex with a woman who would have loved to, but I didn't. I'm borderline asexual, and combined with a strict religious upbringing that taught me not to have sex with a woman who isn't my wife, I really just didn't care to.
1. No, so 2. is a no, 3 4 and 5 are N/A.
6. As long as it's outside a relationship as in you're single, rather than cheating. I'm fine with other people doing it, but I think I would feel uncomfortable, actually more so if it was a friend than a stranger.
7. No, not unless I was actually trying for children with them.
8. Indifferent at the moment. Without first hand experience I don't know what makes it so significantly different from regular sex. Ditto for question 10.
9. Yes. I generally don't call people on it unless they're being self righteous about it, but I don't believe men who say they don't. I'd be worried if I met someone who really doesn't, as not masturbating sounds to me far more unnatural than masturbating (within reason, I'm assuming we're not talking 24/7 here).
As question 3 didn't apply to me, I'll point out that I'm 18 and don't mind that I'm a virgin, though if I can change that I will. Unfortunately the main method for getting laid at university is getting so drunk that the next day half my friends don't remember that they've had sex, or remember it as not being very good.
I'm not a big drinker, and the few times I've gone to clubs, I've noticed that no woman is attractive when they're drunk and you're sober. So I'm probably not going to lose my virginity until the rest of my generation get bored or debt ridden enough to find hobbies other than clubbing
EDIT: And to answer the question the op added while I was typing my original reply:
I guess I could. Certainly not before I've had one on one though. As for involving someone of the same sex; since I'm unsure enough that I have to think about it, I guess I would if it was a possibility and both of the other people being women wasn't. Very unlikely though, considering my personal discomfort with the thought of casual sex. A serious three person relationship would be more trouble than it would be worth.
6. As long as it's outside a relationship as in you're single, rather than cheating. I'm fine with other people doing it, but I think I would feel uncomfortable, actually more so if it was a friend than a stranger.
7. No, not unless I was actually trying for children with them.
8. Indifferent at the moment. Without first hand experience I don't know what makes it so significantly different from regular sex. Ditto for question 10.
9. Yes. I generally don't call people on it unless they're being self righteous about it, but I don't believe men who say they don't. I'd be worried if I met someone who really doesn't, as not masturbating sounds to me far more unnatural than masturbating (within reason, I'm assuming we're not talking 24/7 here).
As question 3 didn't apply to me, I'll point out that I'm 18 and don't mind that I'm a virgin, though if I can change that I will. Unfortunately the main method for getting laid at university is getting so drunk that the next day half my friends don't remember that they've had sex, or remember it as not being very good.
I'm not a big drinker, and the few times I've gone to clubs, I've noticed that no woman is attractive when they're drunk and you're sober. So I'm probably not going to lose my virginity until the rest of my generation get bored or debt ridden enough to find hobbies other than clubbing
EDIT: And to answer the question the op added while I was typing my original reply:
I guess I could. Certainly not before I've had one on one though. As for involving someone of the same sex; since I'm unsure enough that I have to think about it, I guess I would if it was a possibility and both of the other people being women wasn't. Very unlikely though, considering my personal discomfort with the thought of casual sex. A serious three person relationship would be more trouble than it would be worth.
Starting point: I go to physical therapy. Occupational hazards (Body armor, odd equipment lifting, running, and poor posture [ARMY posture]) have given me spinal arthritis, a permanently bulged disc, and has degraded my spinal muscles.BlueberryMUNCH said:
Anyway, most of my therapist show me how to stretch, home I should walk/stand/get out of bed, and show me how to exercise. Physical training they call it. Well, one day I go in and get a new therapist. Her specialty is to manually loosen muscles, joints, and bones. So she lays be down and gets to work.
And she is all over me. She pulls my hips out, moves my pelvis, manually stretches my thighs, and jams her fingers into my spine through my ABDOMINAL WALL. By the time she's done all this, her hands have been over ever square inch of me. I've gotten less action during 4 hour sex sessions.
And then we get to the last stretch, which involves me on my back and her jamming my knees into my throat. To do this, she practically has to lay on top of me (I weigh well over a 100 pounds more than her, and the tension in my hamstrings could be used to tow a bulldozer). So I'm laying down, with her straddling me, hands around my inner thigh, and her face is 4 inches away from my face. The following is the exchange of words we had, in a room with mo
re than 20 people in it (And a new guy intently listening it).
Her: YOur a pretty good patient. Most men don't like what I do. it makes them uncomfortable.
Me: I can tell the difference between types of touches, regardless of the place touch.
Her: *Laugh* Well, I have something else I could do that could get rid of some pain.
Me: Lets do it.
Her: Are you sure? I've never had a guy say yes, though every women I've done it to love it.
Me: Can't be worse than what you've already done. Do it.
Her: Well, I want to mobilize your tail bone.
Me: Sounds good. Do it.
Her: I have to actually get to your tail bone.
Me: Too easy, right?
Her: ...From the inside.
Keep in mind... This conversation is in public. We are at a lovers distance. And I just agreed to having someone shove their hand up my ass THREE TIMES.
Most awkward time of my life (And NO, I didn't do it. Though its apparently still on the table, and honestly, some days, when the pain is bad, I consider it, God help me.)
Did all of those things. She still nearly tore my dick off.Bara_no_Hime said:
Hmmm, I have not lost it yet, but I don't plan on it, seeing as I'm 14.
Oral Sex? No problem.
Yeah, I masturbate. I'm a 14 year old male, who is a total nerd and a video game freak. I don't think I'll get that much. C'mon, just look at my avatar.
Anal sex? Again, no problem, it just seems a bit strange to me.
Oral Sex? No problem.
Yeah, I masturbate. I'm a 14 year old male, who is a total nerd and a video game freak. I don't think I'll get that much. C'mon, just look at my avatar.
Anal sex? Again, no problem, it just seems a bit strange to me.
Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.) No, no I have not.
Have you had sex? N/A
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?N/A
Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)N/A
How many people have you slept with? N/A
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? If both parties are cool with it, then don't mind me, I have no reason to intervene.
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) N/A
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?N/A.N/A.N/A.N/A. Yes, I masturbate. More than I probably should.
What're your views on anal sex? If both want it, then nothing should stop them. But the inserter should wear protection.
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? I don't know.
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? No, not really.
Have you had sex? N/A
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?N/A
Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)N/A
How many people have you slept with? N/A
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? If both parties are cool with it, then don't mind me, I have no reason to intervene.
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) N/A
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?N/A.N/A.N/A.N/A. Yes, I masturbate. More than I probably should.
What're your views on anal sex? If both want it, then nothing should stop them. But the inserter should wear protection.
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? I don't know.
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? No, not really.
Yeah, the back door can be a bit tight. Actually, I've had a guy tell me he was chafed afterwards - I'm not sure how that happened. Again, relaxation is good.AccursedTheory said:
Oh, I've also never tried anal with a condom. If a guy has gotten that far, I am already aware that he is disease free.
"Boring" is probably not the most apt. Pleasuring my partner is just too much fun for me to really enjoy lying on my back and doing nothing. 69 also tends to get a tad uncomfortable when you're a lot longer than your partner.michiehoward said:
So true. Along with that having sex with said drunk woman makes you doubt the whole "consent" thing on her part.
Have you had a 'sexual encounter'? Why, yes.
Have you had sex? Yes.
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience? 13. Lost control with the girl. Led to some horrible times...
Do your parents know? They know I'm not a virgin, but they think I lost it later in life.
How many people have you slept with? About 7-10.
What are your views on 'casual sex'? I view it as a tad childish. For me, sex without love feels empty, and I have done it casually.
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? Sadly, the most of the time I did not. Again...horrible times.
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why? I find vaginal to be best, definitely. Oral is...kinda weird to me. I don't like the idea of teeth being near my piece...
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? I used to, but I find that too, disgusting. Mostly cuz it's messy and it has to go somewhere...
What're your views on anal sex? Don't want shit on my dick. That is all.
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? Always make sure it is NOT your partner's time of the month when you're performing oral on her...
And hey, if you haven't, why not? Is it out of choice? Why? Done it. I'm a dirty, dirty boy...
Have you had sex? Yes.
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience? 13. Lost control with the girl. Led to some horrible times...
Do your parents know? They know I'm not a virgin, but they think I lost it later in life.
How many people have you slept with? About 7-10.
What are your views on 'casual sex'? I view it as a tad childish. For me, sex without love feels empty, and I have done it casually.
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? Sadly, the most of the time I did not. Again...horrible times.
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why? I find vaginal to be best, definitely. Oral is...kinda weird to me. I don't like the idea of teeth being near my piece...
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? I used to, but I find that too, disgusting. Mostly cuz it's messy and it has to go somewhere...
What're your views on anal sex? Don't want shit on my dick. That is all.
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? Always make sure it is NOT your partner's time of the month when you're performing oral on her...
And hey, if you haven't, why not? Is it out of choice? Why? Done it. I'm a dirty, dirty boy...
Because I forgot to mention it earlier:
Oral, anal and the like; not sure really...
My post before makes it rather obvious I have a romantic view of sex, but I'm no puritan. Anal for me is a no, I don't like the idea of it, and it's just odd in my eyes. Other couples doing it? Sure go ahead, whatever floats your boat and all that.
Oral? Now see this is probably the most difficult for me to come to a conclusion, I'm very much about pleasing my partner, (the little me and my Ex did I always got enjoyment out of her enjoyment) I imagine it would also be quite a enjoyable thing to receive, however looking at it objectively it seems like an odd, (almost) perverse thing to do, however I'm well aware that in the moment, if asked I would accept the offer, and most probably return the favour, would I ask for? Maybe. Would I offer? Maybe not...
As for 'kinky' to a degree, hand-cuffs? Okay. BDSM? No... really no. I'd maybe consider a middle ground if my partner was really into it, like maybe if she had some uniform fetish or something.
Unfortunately (or fortunately) due to my own inexperience I can only comment of so much, and going on would probably make me seems like the kind of guy that writes poetry to his mother, (I write songs, and don't get along with my mother) but I'll end with this; romance will not die for so long as I live.
Oral, anal and the like; not sure really...
My post before makes it rather obvious I have a romantic view of sex, but I'm no puritan. Anal for me is a no, I don't like the idea of it, and it's just odd in my eyes. Other couples doing it? Sure go ahead, whatever floats your boat and all that.
Oral? Now see this is probably the most difficult for me to come to a conclusion, I'm very much about pleasing my partner, (the little me and my Ex did I always got enjoyment out of her enjoyment) I imagine it would also be quite a enjoyable thing to receive, however looking at it objectively it seems like an odd, (almost) perverse thing to do, however I'm well aware that in the moment, if asked I would accept the offer, and most probably return the favour, would I ask for? Maybe. Would I offer? Maybe not...
As for 'kinky' to a degree, hand-cuffs? Okay. BDSM? No... really no. I'd maybe consider a middle ground if my partner was really into it, like maybe if she had some uniform fetish or something.
Unfortunately (or fortunately) due to my own inexperience I can only comment of so much, and going on would probably make me seems like the kind of guy that writes poetry to his mother, (I write songs, and don't get along with my mother) but I'll end with this; romance will not die for so long as I live.
Yes
Yes
16, Was with a girl I dated who lived an hour away, actually was one of the best relationships, saw her once a week during school, all weekend, friday night saturday night.
Parents knew, they are the easy understandable type, they taught me about sex and shit from a younger age
I've slept with lots of girls in bed But sex, 3.
Casual sex is just sex, it doesn't have to be romantic, but it does make it much more nicer
my ex had the rod, a kind of thing in their arm which prevents fertilisation. but maybe for the pill, if I was desperate..
Oral sex is awesome, both ways, better than normal sex? well I dunno.. heads good and all, but penetrations just...yeah ;P
Anal sex, current gf wants it, tried once, wouldn't fit :\
My Gf wants a threesome.. and even though the idea of a threesome sounds hot..just the whole my girlfriend, and another girl, touching her..I don't really like that idea much
Yes
16, Was with a girl I dated who lived an hour away, actually was one of the best relationships, saw her once a week during school, all weekend, friday night saturday night.
Parents knew, they are the easy understandable type, they taught me about sex and shit from a younger age
I've slept with lots of girls in bed
But sex, 3.Casual sex is just sex, it doesn't have to be romantic, but it does make it much more nicer
my ex had the rod, a kind of thing in their arm which prevents fertilisation. but maybe for the pill, if I was desperate..
Oral sex is awesome, both ways, better than normal sex? well I dunno.. heads good and all, but penetrations just...yeah ;P
Anal sex, current gf wants it, tried once, wouldn't fit :\
My Gf wants a threesome.. and even though the idea of a threesome sounds hot..just the whole my girlfriend, and another girl, touching her..I don't really like that idea much