Poll: Sex And You. Let's keep this mature.

[SIXVI06-M]

Right, sex. More specifically, virginity.

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.):
Depends on what you mean - my sexual encounters tend to turn into more drawn out arrangements. Most of which end up with the other party getting the wrong idea and getting attached. Learn from my example .

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
18. So scandalous I'll probably make a few enemies telling people. It was... kind of wrong (just morally in a sense, not legally), but at the same time, in my fumbling around, I must've been doing something very right for her to keep coming back and getting so freakin clingy I had to break it up because I really couldn't take it anymore - and even after breaking up, she wanted to at least keep touch so we could keep having sex... -_-

How many people have you slept with?:
7.

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?:
It requires a certain discipline - and I am comfortable with casual arrangements, but I will rarely ever fall into such an arrangement because I am more inclined to seek long-term partners. Generally, If there are boundaries or rules, follow them, don't get the wrong idea, if it's just sex, it's just sex, even if you were being so very intimate - it won't go any further beyond the bed/body. You would BOTH know if it was heading in the direction of becoming something more. Sure, it doesn't hurt to ask- but you can't blame the other person if they turn you down.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill):
Yep. I definitely feel there's something missing in the sex if I put a condom on. Of course, I usually will put it on if the girl isn't on the pill.

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?:
Oral sex is the bomb. It between sets the mood for sex, and really primes our sexual impulses. I'd rarely take one without the other. But hey- if you can sneak a decent bit of head behind some bushes in a park - go for it. Extra points for location, and without invoking the wrath of the law.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?:
Hell yes - apart from being a part of foreplay, It's a normal and decent way of finding out what you like. All things aside- it feels fantastic .

What're your views on anal sex?:
Open to it - so long as nothing is going up my ass as I don't particularly swing that way. In fact, I think it's a great way to add another dimension of pleasure in sex.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?:
Also open to it - while I wouldn't like anything up my bum, I don't mind deviating a bit having experimented with my own sex before. But I still definitely like girls better .

...Anything else you'd like to talk about?:
Nah, I'd just rant on and make my post take up too much room. But of course, feel free to discuss this privately with me, I'm pretty open to this stuff and more than happy to share.

 

[DefunctTheory]

I'm waiting for marriage. It's not for religion, not for prude reasons, not even for pregnancy since I'm gay. She's just going to have to work for it.

That sounds... bitchy.

Explain further. I can't possibly be reading this right

 

[someonehairy-ish]

Yes, I've had sex and yes, I've had 'sexual encounters.' My first time having full-on sex was about 6 months ago when I was 16, but Id done other stuff before then. The first time was great. I feel completely natural around my girlfriend so I wasn't embarrassed or even very nervous.
Do your parents know? Yeah. They aren't bothered by it. They get on well with my girlfriend and i get on well with her parents and they usually 'find something to do' out of the house for an hour or so whenever shes over here.
Ive slept with just the 1 person, but I've had 'sexual encounters' -as you put it- with a couple of others.
What are your views on 'casual sex.' Theres nothing wrong with it. But its unlikely ill have much casual sex because Im quite mistrusting of most people (outside of the anonymity of the internets.) I wouldnt rule it out though.
I usually have sex without a condom (I don't see this as a problem because Im staying with the same girl. Shes on the pill.)
Oral is good foreplay but its not as good as sex. I dont find it at all disgusting either. I don't want to try anal sex. I dont really understand the appeal.

 

[MetalDooley]

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
18. So scandalous I'll probably make a few enemies telling people. It was... kind of wrong (just morally in a sense, not legally),

Morally wrong?Was this person related to you by any chance?

 

[ham and red bull]

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
18. So scandalous I'll probably make a few enemies telling people. It was... kind of wrong (just morally in a sense, not legally),

Morally wrong?Was this person related to you by any chance?

Oh GAWD! Now I want to know what he did!!! Did you just do it while she was sleeping, WHAT?

 

[SIXVI06-M]

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
18. So scandalous I'll probably make a few enemies telling people. It was... kind of wrong (just morally in a sense, not legally),

Morally wrong?Was this person related to you by any chance?

Lol, no no no... that falls under the 'legally wrong' category (at least I think there are laws against incest). More personal morality; long story short, the girl was the... um... girlfriend of a close friend of mine - the close friend had been killed in an accident and I naively took it upon myself to look after the girl and help her get back up on her feet (she was in the same accident - she narrowly survived). After a while (and out of the blue), she got attached and I got jumped by her - I was worried that she was in such a frail state that turning her down might really break her self-confidence; and of course now- and at the same time, it was all insane - I can still ask myself "what on EARTH was I thinking?!"

Needless to say, my first sexual experience was a very... strained and unhappy one that lasted a few months. Had to stop - for her sake and mine. It was NOT a happy parting, and lo and behold- it bruised her ego and I was easily the bad guy - since I wasn't the one who survived a deadly accident. Without a doubt, she wanted it way more than I did - and though I protested at first - I won't make any excuses, curiosity and my wilder impulses had gotten the better of me; something I am privy never to repeat ever again. So fucking messy - no one came out better for it, I was the bad guy who was trying to do something good at first and made a massive mistake, she wanted it - and well, no one can call her the bad one because she was the victim to start with, and yeah sordid sordid thing.

I had no idea what I was doing at the end of the day- but every time we did something, I could only feel how very wrong it was.

There we go, story time over. DX

 

[MetalDooley]

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
18. So scandalous I'll probably make a few enemies telling people. It was... kind of wrong (just morally in a sense, not legally),

Morally wrong?Was this person related to you by any chance?

Lol, no no no... that falls under the 'legally wrong' category (at least I think there are laws against incest). More personal morality; long story short, the girl was the... um... girlfriend of a close friend of mine - the close friend had been killed in an accident and I naively took it upon myself to look after the girl and help her get back up on her feet (she was in the same accident - she narrowly survived). After a while (and out of the blue), she got attached and I got jumped by her - I was worried that she was in such a frail state that turning her down might really break her self-confidence; and of course now- and at the same time, it was all insane - I can still ask myself "what on EARTH was I thinking?!"

Needless to say, my first sexual experience was a very... strained and unhappy one that lasted a few months. Had to stop - for her sake and mine. It was NOT a happy parting, and lo and behold- it bruised her ego and I was easily the bad guy - since I wasn't the one who survived a deadly accident. Without a doubt, she wanted it way more than I did - and though I protested at first - I won't make any excuses, curiosity and my wilder impulses had gotten the better of me; something I am privy never to repeat ever again. So fucking messy - no one came out better for it, I was the bad guy who was trying to do something good at first and made a massive mistake, she wanted it - and well, no one can call her the bad one because she was the victim to start with, and yeah sordid sordid thing.

I had no idea what I was doing at the end of the day- but every time we did something, I could only feel how very wrong it was.

There we go, story time over. DX

Well incest is only illegal if it's an immediate family member(sister,daughter etc.).Fucking your cousin would technically be legal but would be considered morally wrong by most people

Kinda disappointed by your story tbh.Was hoping for something more juicy

 

[MoganFreeman]

Have you had sex?
Yes.
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
I was seventeen. The whole experience lasted about three minutes. It wasn't terrible, but sex got a whole lot better as time went on.
How many people have you slept with?
Had penetrative sex with? Seven.
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
Ain't nothing wrong with casual sex. Pleasure is good for you.
Would you have sex without a condom, if the girl was on the pill?
Always condoms. The only time I'd consider it is if I am in a monogamous relationship, have been for long enough to trust that person deeply, and we have both had recent STD tests.
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?


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Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
Yes. Probably at least once every couple of days.
What're your views on anal sex?
Love it. Giving and receiving.
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
I've had one MMF and one MFMF. Group sex is pretty cool.

 

[DarkenedWolfEye]

Have I had sex? No. I think about it a lot and I read erotica books, but I've never actually done it. Truth be told, I've never even kissed anyone. And I'm 15.
Mostly it's because I'm kind of antisocial and there's no one I feel comfortable doing that with; I don't think anyone really likes me that way and I feel like that will never change. It's kind of sucky.
Also I just feel way too young for it. I was surprised at how many people on here say they lost it at ages like 14, 15. That seems kind of insane to me; sex is a very mature thing in my eyes, and 14 is practically still a kid.
As to the matters of casual sex or unprotected sex, I can't really comment on that because I've never even had a sexual experience.
I mean really, how is even possible to lose your virginity that young?

 

[SIXVI06-M]

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
18. So scandalous I'll probably make a few enemies telling people. It was... kind of wrong (just morally in a sense, not legally),

Morally wrong?Was this person related to you by any chance?

Lol, no no no... that falls under the 'legally wrong' category (at least I think there are laws against incest). More personal morality; long story short, the girl was the... um... girlfriend of a close friend of mine - the close friend had been killed in an accident and I naively took it upon myself to look after the girl and help her get back up on her feet (she was in the same accident - she narrowly survived). After a while (and out of the blue), she got attached and I got jumped by her - I was worried that she was in such a frail state that turning her down might really break her self-confidence; and of course now- and at the same time, it was all insane - I can still ask myself "what on EARTH was I thinking?!"

Needless to say, my first sexual experience was a very... strained and unhappy one that lasted a few months. Had to stop - for her sake and mine. It was NOT a happy parting, and lo and behold- it bruised her ego and I was easily the bad guy - since I wasn't the one who survived a deadly accident. Without a doubt, she wanted it way more than I did - and though I protested at first - I won't make any excuses, curiosity and my wilder impulses had gotten the better of me; something I am privy never to repeat ever again. So fucking messy - no one came out better for it, I was the bad guy who was trying to do something good at first and made a massive mistake, she wanted it - and well, no one can call her the bad one because she was the victim to start with, and yeah sordid sordid thing.

I had no idea what I was doing at the end of the day- but every time we did something, I could only feel how very wrong it was.

There we go, story time over. DX

Well incest is only illegal if it's an immediate family member(sister,daughter etc.).Fucking your cousin would technically be legal but would be considered morally wrong by most people

Kinda disappointed by your story tbh.Was hoping for something more juicy

Lol - twas more a tale of personal shame. Of course, I took out all the juicy details because- it was NOT something to embellish

Sorry to disappoint

On that note, define juicy.

 

[MetalDooley]

Lol - twas more a tale of personal shame. Of course, I took out all the juicy details because- it was NOT something to embellish

Sorry to disappoint

On that note, define juicy.

Well when you originally said you're story was scandalous and morally wrong I was kinda expecting something a bit more...well scandalous and morally wrong tbh

I don't see anything wrong with what was essentially comfort sex

 

[SIXVI06-M]

Lol - twas more a tale of personal shame. Of course, I took out all the juicy details because- it was NOT something to embellish

Sorry to disappoint

On that note, define juicy.

Well when you originally said you're story was scandalous and morally wrong I was kinda expecting something a bit more...well scandalous and morally wrong tbh

I don't see anything wrong with what was essentially comfort sex

Think of it like this: this is the girlfriend of a close friend of yours. He just died. You are now fucking her. You don't particularly want to. There is a terrible fact that her self worth seems to hinge upon you having sex with her.

Not exactly comforting for all parties. And like I said, personal morality.

 

[Moonpig123]

1.Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)

Yep.

2.Have you had sex?

See above.

3.How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?

I was 17, going steady with a girl I really liked (I use that term because we weren't technically 'going out', more just seeing each other on occassion). It was a nice experience and I'm glad we did it. It wasn't her first time, either, so I kind of let her take the reigns a little which was, to say the least, a learning exercise.

4.Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)

Not sure. I think they probably suspect, but I never told them and they never asked.

5.How many people have you slept with?

Two.

6.What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?

I have no problems with it whatsoever. I believe most people would, if they were honest with themselves, like a 'fuck buddy' for stress/tension relief if nothing else.

7.Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)

I have done. At the time it was great fun, but looking back it could have had serious repercussions. No contraception is 100% effective, but nowadays I always carry a condom in my wallet just in case.

8.What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?

I love it. For clarification, I am a heterosexual man, and I really enjoy getting blowjobs. I don't mind going down on women, either, as long as they're shaved and clean.

9.Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?

Yes.

10.What're your views on anal sex?

Never tried it, but I would certainly like to. It's more a case of finding a girl who is open-minded enough to give it a go.

11. Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?

I would like to try a threesome. I wouldn't mind if another guy was involved, either, as long as I didn't have to do anything with him. We could just... share. ;-)

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

I actually was 20 years old. I had an intense change of character and physique. I used to be a shy nerdy fatkid, with way to less self esteem. But when i started with acting in a theatre production i realised that i cared way to much about what other people thought.I just started to do what i wanted. I didnt cared if they liked what i said, if i was just honest, I wasnt afraid to suck at sports, i just did it for fun.

The actual first experience was with a girl that was dating a guy from my school. After my character change i was surprisingly well befriended with the vast majority of people at my school, the cool kids, my old nerdy friends, weird goth and punk guys, we just combined our forces and had a great time.

Reading this, I was weirdly reminded of my own teen years.

When I was in middle/high school, I was the shy/nerdy/wallflower who was either ignored or made fun of by most of my school. I spent a lot of time pretending not to notice, and enjoying my various nerdy hobbies at home. I had a few friends, but they weren't really good friends. Or, I should say, they weren't close friends - they were people who didn't treat me badly and let me hang out with them. I was also trying to figure out if I was a lesbian or not (I couldn't really talk to boys, and one of my female friend teaching me how to slow dance (we were going as a group and she wanted to make sure I knew what I was doing) turned me on an embarrasing amount, and I didn't know that you were allowed to be both straight and gay (my father always presented it as a binary option, straight or gay with no middle ground, and my mother never really talked about gender preferences).

Then, right before my senior year of high school, I decided I was sick and tired of living like that. All the slutty girls got to be popular and have fun, why couldn't I? So that summer I bought a new wardrobe and showed up to my senior year looking like a total whore. I tried to fake being confident and not caring and stuff - didn't actually work well though, because everyone knew me already and I couldn't really change their previous impressions of me. Other than wearing sluttier clothes, nothing changed there - I was still the nerdy girl who didn't know how to talk to people.

However, when I met people from other schools, they had no idea that I was a nerd. I was at a band competetion and I hung out with people I didn't know - and they treated me like someone cool. Boys flirted with me. It was a complete change from what I was used to. I over-compensated and acted like a flaky air-head. Still, I made a bunch of new acquantence/friends. I got invited to social events. It was really cool. It was through those sort-of-friends that I met my first girlfriend who got both my first kiss and with whom I had my first sexual experience. She was also the person who introduced me to the concept of being "bisexual" - which totally blew me away at the time.

And then I went to college. Clean slate. I'd spend my senior year pretending to be a flirty, confident, sexy girl, and in college I could be all of those things AND a nerd. I still wasn't really confident, but I was better at faking it. The first week, I went up to the Anime Club recruiting table and spent two hours hanging out and flirting with the guy handing out flyers. I've slept with 11 people - 7 of them I met through that anime club, including my partner of 8 years.

It took five years for me to really become the confident person I was pretending to be. I sort of grew into the role. I'm not sure if I did it the best way I could have, but I like who I am now, so I can't really complain.

 

[DefunctTheory]

It took five years for me to really become the confident person I was pretending to be. I sort of grew into the role. I'm not sure if I did it the best way I could have, but I like who I am now, so I can't really complain.

Its called 'Faking it until you make it.' Most commonly employed by the military, where soldiers are told to act as bad ass as possible. Eventually, you will become what you pretend to be.

Its also why undercover police work can be particularly dangerous.

 

[Nigh Invulnerable]

I was over 21 and married my first time. She's the only person I've been with, and to prove it, here's a picture of our son:

Spoiler

EDIT: He's some kind of super baby too, since we were using spermicide with a condom that didn't noticeably break. We're 90% sure of the day he was conceived.

That will be a great story for when he is older. Or it will be proof that he is Super Man, so watch out!

Yeah, we laugh about it. Though someone else quoted me and was all, "You may want a paternity test. Durr Hurr!" and I'm just thinking, "Screw you, buddy. You don't know me or my wife. Suggesting, even jokingly, that she was not faithful to me is idiotic."

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

Nah, I've never actually pursued a relationship yet. Never met anyone worth my time to be honest.

 

[theonlyblaze2]

I was over 21 and married my first time. She's the only person I've been with, and to prove it, here's a picture of our son:

Spoiler

EDIT: He's some kind of super baby too, since we were using spermicide with a condom that didn't noticeably break. We're 90% sure of the day he was conceived.

That will be a great story for when he is older. Or it will be proof that he is Super Man, so watch out!

Yeah, we laugh about it. Though someone else quoted me and was all, "You may want a paternity test. Durr Hurr!" and I'm just thinking, "Screw you, buddy. You don't know me or my wife. Suggesting, even jokingly, that she was not faithful to me is idiotic."

Don't listen' to 'em. I personally can't wait to have a kid of my own. None the less, congrats!

 

[JohnnySex]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter'? Well yeah duh
Have you had sex? Yes
How old were you when you first did? I was 16 and it was on a couch in my basement
Do your parents know? They didn't until after I turned 18
How many people have you slept with? 1
What are your views on 'casual sex'? Why not?
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl was on the pill? Depends on the other circumstances. For example, is it a girlfriend or casual sex?
What do you think of oral sex? It's awesome
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? Again, duh
What're your views on anal sex? It's really nice
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? Yes but not with a girlfriend and yes
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? Nah

 

[yamitami]

I'm waiting for marriage. It's not for religion, not for prude reasons, not even for pregnancy since I'm gay. She's just going to have to work for it.

That sounds... bitchy.

Explain further. I can't possibly be reading this right

I've come very close to having sex with two people. One was my ex-boyfriend, and I don't feel the slightest guilty about figuring out I wasn't bi while dating him because he turned out to be a stalker creep. He was pushing for sex within a week of "I like you" and I was almost stupid enough to let him get my pants off because that's what was expected of me. I already deeply regret dating him in the first place, if I had sex with him anytime I thought of my first time I'd think of the psycho stalker who had me. No thank you.

The second verse is mostly the same as the first. She was the first person I ever loved. At least with her she wasn't a creep, she just had systematically sabotaged all relationships with decent people since middle school and only throws herself into the relationships with jackasses, such as the one she went after instead of me. The guy who then tried to take advantage of me when I was sobbing drunk over losing her. She wasn't trying to make me a one night stand, she just had the lowest self esteem I've ever seen, but that's what would have happened.

But if I choose to make this special then it will be, and my first time will be with a woman who cares about me and will make the commitment to be with me for the rest of our lives, not just for a day. I just don't want casual sex even if it is long term. I'm in it for the long haul. What about that makes me a *****?