Poll: Sex And You. Let's keep this mature.

[neon flame]

Also, Escapists, why is everybody so interested in these threads?

Speaking personally, this is the only forum I know that can discuss sex maturely without flaming or descending into "hurr hurr you said sex", so I read threads like this whenever they come up. As for why sex threads in general get people's attention; because, well, it's about sex.

 

[theevilsanta]

Hmmm. All straight, male answers to follow:

1. I've had penetrative sex with five partners. My first was with a girlfriend I met online who turned out to be 15 (said she was 17) with I was 18. About one more year before the statute of limitations ends on that one.

2. I have casual sex all the time. With my significant other. Sometimes it's just a look, and we know it's on. No feeling or intimacy, just mindless ... doing it. Sex with a friend is a bad idea, imo, for various reasons. Sex with a stranger though is great as long as you're wrapped up.

2. FUCK CONDOMS. I haven't ever "finished" in a condom. They totally eliminate the sensation. I happily don't have an STD. Though if I didn't meet my significant other before I did I probably would have.

3. Anal sex? I don't have an interest in it. Though if my partner really wanted it I'd do it.

4. Oral vs whatever? For receiving I'm split. Oral is better "feeling" given a good giver, yet penetrative sex is hotter (mostly because she's getting something out of it). It really, really depends on the temperament/skill of the partner and the positions we're in. I recently had an oral experience that blew my mind. Hard to say. Also I've never been with a woman that "finished" consistently with penetrative sex. Thankfully I'm pretty good with oral, which is hot to perform in its own way.

5. Anything else? You really can't understand sex until you've had it a few times. I was super pro-sex for love and I thought I accomplished that my first time. Turned out I knew shit about love and pretty much only wanted to fuck. It was three years before I even began to believe real love exists. But fucking isn't a bad thing! It's actually quite informative for a myriad of reasons, my significant other thinking my experience is sexy not the least.

 

[amazinglettera]

Yes.
Yes
19. My GF (at the time) and I had been dating, finally just got to that point.
4 different people.
Whatever works for you. I won't do it though.
Yes I would and have.
Oral is fun! But not better.
I sure do!
Sure, why not.
Umm...a threesome would be too weird for me.
Bondage play is a lot of fun...

 

[LawlessSquirrel]

I have not had sex, but not for lack of opportunity. Call me crazy, but I'm quite traditional with my values when it comes to sex (although not for a lot else for some reason).

I'm content to wait until I find someone I want to marry. I think it makes it that much more special.

That said, it's not like I don't occasionally regret such decisions. But you sadly only live once, so you have to pick one route or the other.

 

[Nimcha]

Seems I haven't answered the updated OP yet! So here goes:

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
Love it. Giving and receiving.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
Of course. I don't really watch porn though, I mostly use my imagination.

What're your views on anal sex?
I was a little wary at first, but now I think it's rather great. As long as it's all clean, of course.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
Yep, I have had two 3somes so far and both times were great. It's just great fun, less passionate but more lustful I guess. Also, yes I'm comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved, in fact I'd not even consider it if that wasn't the case.

 

[InnerRebellion]

Nope
Nope
Nope
Yup, they know I'm a virgin
None
Absolutely disgusting
No
Gross, don't want that in the mouth I kiss
No, I have erotophobia and my own features give me the creeps
Nasty
Possibly, but I could not have another guy involved.

I'm guessing you are... 15-ish? you have a loooooong way to go kid in a few years you WILL be putting that in your mouth, and you must respect the art that is genitalia, both male and female, it's not "gross".. and also, your around 15, and obviously from a middle+ backround, evidently shelterd, and think kissing is a big deal

Quite the contrary. As I mentioned, I have erotophobia, and anything relating to sex will cause me to get close to throwing up. And no, I haven't lived a sheltered life, and I don't see kissing as a big deal.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I was abused repeatedly and by many different people as a child, so I guess I'm not really a virgin. I was about three the first time, I think.
It's not really a big deal, though. It's not something I ever intend to start caring about.

Yes, my parents know. My dad was one of the offenders. He was grooming myself and my sister to sell out as little paedo prostitutes.
My mum was pretty horrified when she found out. She was completely dismissed when she tried to get some fucking justice, though. Which was kind of shitty.

I wouldn't be able to tell how many. A lot of it is blocked out and I haven't had it since then. Being asexual, I haven't really wanted to.

About casual sex, as long as I don't have to fucking know about it, whatever. I don't see why I should care.

About having sex without a condom, no. That would be stupid. Venereal diseases.

About oral sex, I guess I don't see a point in it. The idea kind of grosses me out a bit, but apparently it feels good, so whatever. People are welcome to do what they want.

No I do not masturbate. As previously mentioned, I'm asexual. I don't feel the need to.

About anal sex, it seems pretty distasteful to me. But, again, people are welcome to do what they want.

No I would not participate in a threesome. I would not even have sex with just one person.
Again. Asexual.

I think that covers everything.

 

[templeg]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)
Yup
Have you had sex?
Yup
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
15. Uhm, I did it mostly because I thought I might not get a chance, and also because at the time (until we actually did it) I genuinely wanted to. And yes, I did initiate it myself. It wasn't a good experience, but it wasn't the most traumatising thing that's ever happened to me. It wasn't even the most traumatising sexual thing that's happened to me.
Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)
Yes, but they pretend they don't. My mum occasionally asks 'Did you and ...... actually have sex?' and I always refuse to answer. I know it isn't very mature of me, and I know I'm just confirming it, but I just can't stand to out-and-out admit it. The amount she's asked makes me think that she's a bit in denial about it. My dad just never mentions it.
How many people have you slept with?
One and a half. DO NOT ask me about the 'half'.
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
I don't think I'm very good at it, but I think with the right mindset it could be a good experience. My experience of it has not been so great.
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
No. Better safe than sorry.
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
I'll do it, I don't particularly enjoy doing it but it doesn't repulse me, no. The other way round- well, it hurt less than normal sex did at the time, but normal sex just means more to me. I have had one really bad experience (the first way round) but that was more to do with the guy and his attitude than the act itself.
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
No, it just doesn't do anything for me. I honestly can't be bothered.
What're your views on anal sex?
I couldn't. I *really* couldn't. If it does it for other people then fine, but no thanks.
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
I am attracted to some girls, so yeah, why not? It'd be weird, but maybe
...Anything else you'd like to talk about?
Not that I can think of

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter': um yes I have a child!

Have you had sex? See question 1

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience? 17 willingly, I was raped at 16

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)since I am 30 I will pass this
How many people have you slept with? 7

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? If both parties agree to no strings attached go for it

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) um yes since I am on the pill though I can put a condom on with my mouth

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why? I like it I am just a big stickler for keep it clean and the hair trimmed or no oral love

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? yes, the battery operated boyfriend can be what takes the edge off

What're your views on anal sex? If you like it do it. Just keep it clean and shower afterwards

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? If Jason Statham is involved, in serious notes would take alot of liquor to get the nerve up.

...Anything else you'd like to talk about? that I was trained to be submissive by a dominatrix........

 

[steampunk42]

this will probably sound like a brocken record, but i just havent found a girl i actually want to have sex with.

Really? Why do you think that makes you sound worse then anyone else?
It's not bad that you never found the right person for it. Be glad of that.

Also, I can tell you this, if a girl really loves you, she'll love you more when she knows that.
Don't worry about it, it will happen and you'll feel good about it.

believe me im not worried i like how i think about sex and intimacy. makes me feel mature.

 

[vato_loco]

I had a sexual encounter when I was seventeen, with my first girlfriend. She was also the first one I ever had sex with.

For age, refer to previous answer. It was... weird. I mean, it was awesome, but it was her first time as well so it was really hard for her to do it. In the end, more than physical pleasure, it was really a soul experience I'll never forget.

I'm over 18 so my parents know.

I've had sex with three women so far.

Casual sex: been there, it's OK if they both know the rules and there's no mistakes made, which is hard as hell. I lost a very dear friend because of it.

I WOULD have sex if she was on the pill. My sexual partners are not... how should I say it... street-famous, so I'm pretty sure I'd get no STDs. And pills are safe as hell.

Oral sex is great. Sometimes it feels even better than sex, but it's unusual. I don't really find it gross, as long as she (and me, of course) is clean.

I masturbate. Matter of fact, I use it to train my Tiny Johnson and regulate ejaculation.

Never tried anal sex. Vagina's a pretty swell place to hang around, you know?

Threesomes.... huh... I'd be seriously unconfortable with someone of my own sex. I'd go for it if it were two or more girls, sure, but no extra dudes please.

 

[notsosavagemessiah]

lost my virginity at 14 to a mexican girl who was cheating on her b/f at the time. those were better days. These days i've seen my wife once in 2 years thanks to certain obligations of mine. So no, i haven't been haqving a whole lot of sex lately. as for how many i've slept with, i'd say about 7 - 10. i'm a fairly socially inept guy, so my number is fairly low, couple that with the fact that i'm married and i'd say i have a legit reason.

i love oral sex, i love giving (for the wife only), i love receiving. My wife and i have discussed a 3 way, we're open to the idea, but haven't really worked up the courage or the time to do so. as for the condom thing, as long as the girl is clean, i really could care less about a condom, provided she's ok with it. That being said, i've had quite a bit of heartbreak because of not wearing one, so lately, it's been in my best interest to do so.

masturbation isn't something i enjoy, but it keeps me sane, without it, the distance between my wife and i would be unbearable.

 

[Lord_Nemesis]

Same as OP. Lost my virginity when I was 14.I mean I wanted it, what teenage boy doesn't. However I seen the slags kicking about my school, sleeping with every guy left, right and centre. I wanted something a bit more but my lads were constantly on my case about it so I lowered my standards and took the nearest and quickest girl I could get. Regret muchos.

Don't do what I did. Least not for your first time boys. Later however, its all gravy then

As for how many. I don't know, between 40 and 60. No more than that. Seemed shallow to keep count so I stopped. Looking back, perhaps not the best plan to offer anyone considering the amount of STD's kicking about these days but casual sex is ok aslong as a) you and her are both clean and you both know it, of yourselves and each other or b) use proper proection. Sex is great, so it should not be restricted.

Oral, anal, threesome's, group sex, public sex etc etc is all good and should at least be tried or attempted if only for to say "Been there, done that".

Sex is awesome, its hardwired into us, spread the love I say.

 

[Drakane]

I'm 23 and haven't had sex and I have no intention to, either. But, I refuse to vote 'no' because the word is followed by an unhappy emoticon. I'm not unhappy about it.

I think thats what the Nah, not yet is for. As in No I haven't and I really don't care or am actively perusing it... the No is for the ppl wanting it and not getting it.

"Yet" implies that you're pursuing or at least open to sex. Which I'm not. I mean, does this conversation sound normal to you?

"Have you ever stood on a rooftop and sniped down dozens of innocent civilians?"

"Nah, not yet."

I guess our assessment of the statement is different. And just because you have no intention of ever having sex in the.... 60+ years you may be alive, their is a distinct chance that your opinion changes on this particular mater at some point in your life, at least (probably) higher then you planning on snipping someone at some point. so yes "yet" can imply intent, it can also infer a possibility that it will arise in the future based on the context. Since the other option has the that makes it a more negative connotation to me and the other option neutral/apathetic to the notion.

In the end its all semantics on a mindless thread and if you feel its a shitty choice to your personal opinion on the matter, then cool don't vote.

 

[dark_taint92]

...Anything else you'd like to talk about? that I was trained to be submissive by a dominatrix........

^ this I really like, I'm rather into that stuff

On topic:
Yes plenty of them ,
also yes
was 15 at the time was in a relationship with a girl and one thing led to another one night and well tbh I don't regret it one bit at the time we thought we loved each other so i can't fault myself for being naive
I think so (I got thrown out the house for one incident with it :/)
around 9 maybe more due to alcohol
I enjoy it it helps with tension and stress and it's alot less hassle then keeping a girlfriend sweet
Yes I have was also my first experience with sex, so for the rest of that month I was terrified I was going to be a dad xD
it's good fun but can be a no-no if it's not clean :S
Yes it relieves tension and releases endorphins
ehh I'm not to bothered by it even though I'll probs never try it
would be fun to try but with 2 girls I'm not so keen on "penis bumping" so to speak

 

[SuccessAndBiscuts]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.): Yes

Have you had sex?: Yes

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?: Sexual encounter at 18, full sex at 19 with different girls. The encounter was pretty dam enjoyable but I later discovered the girl was desperate to get pregnant and the last thing I need/needed is/was to be a father.

The first time I had full sex was rubbish, mostly because I was borderline passed out from drinking too much. Thinking about it now it was more like a mutual rape than consensual sex, don't regret it though, my confidence really needed the boost.

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.): I'm pretty sure they do but I don't know how much they know if that makes sense, I think my dad thinks I started a lot younger.

How many people have you slept with? : 4

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?: I've done it once, didn't use protection which was a bit stupid but it was fun. Would do it again but I'm more careful than I used to be, carry condoms all the time now.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill): Yes, and have done. She moved onto the implant later though at my recommendation because she kept forgetting.

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?: I'm not too bothered with it to be honest, I've given and received and it makes a nice change but its not that big of a deal for me.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?: Yes.

What're your views on anal sex?: Curiosity but I don't really understand the appeal.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?: Again curiosity but I doubt it will ever happen, don't think I could deal with someone else of the same sex being involved though. Again don't understand the appeal, sex is the most intimate kind of contact, why would you wan't other people to see that? It's a trust thing between partners, you are both at your most vulnerable on several levels.

 

[yamitami]

I'm waiting for marriage. It's not for religion, not for prude reasons, not even for pregnancy since I'm gay. She's just going to have to work for it.

 

[MetalDooley]

1)Yes
2)Yes
3)16.Wasn't great tbh.Both of us were drunk and inexperienced
4)Never really talked to them about it.I would imagine that they probably assume I have had sex by now considering I'm in my 30's
5)10
6)Perfectly fine as long as both parties are up for it and use protection
7)I have done.Only with girls I was in a relationship with though.For casual sex I would always wear a condom
8)Quite enjoyable if the person giving knows what they're doing.I have no problems reciprocating either
9)Yes
10)Never tried it.I would be interested in trying it but I've never been with a girl who was willing to do it
11)I reckon I'd give it a go.It might be a bit awkward if there was another bloke involved though