Poll: Sex And You. Let's keep this mature.

[Lexodus]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.) Depends what you consider a sexual encounter. For some people, that means kissing, for others, a lot more than that.
Have you had sex? Not yet.
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience? See above.
Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.) See above.
How many people have you slept with? See above.
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? Perfectly fine, and why shouldn't it be? It's natural to want to find a release, and if it's two consenting adults, why not?
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) Probably not, I a) don't trust girls that say they're on the pill unless I've seen evidence or seen them take it, and b) condoms aren't just for preventing pregnancy.
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why? Why would it repulse me? It's just another way for people to get off, which is fine.
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? Yes, because it's healthy and reduces the chances of prostate cancer.
What're your views on anal sex? I'm in two minds. If properly prepared for, it can be a unique and fun experience, but otherwise you're jamming your wang up some chick/dude's bumhole, and they'll end up shitting on you.
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? Perhaps. No.
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? How was your day?

 

[Raioken18]

Have you had sex? Yes
How old were you when you first did? 18 with my girlfriend a week before she turned 18. It was actually a pretty dramatic time for her, so while I enjoyed it her world was falling apart.

Do your parents know? My parents think i was getting laid since I was like 10 >_>

How many people have you slept with? 3. The two other times were 1 night stands, tho one of them turned into a relationship.

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? It's alright but I like getting emotionally attached to the girls I sleep with.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) Yep, and I have, it's a lot better.

What do you think of oral sex? Giving or recieving, both are good. Ummm, I probably can't count the amount of women who've blown me. I think around 20 ish...

Better than normal sex? It can be. But mostly no.

Also, do you masturbate? Yes. A lot.

What're your views on anal sex? It's pretty bad IRL, it smells and is just nasty. You wanna do it cuz it pushes boundaries and I'm a bit of a sadist... but usually I would rather not.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Yeah, but I'd have to be attracted to the 2 other people involved, but also I'm a bit of a control freak in the bedroom.

 

[biGBum333]

It's not unprotected if there's protection...

you still have to take into account you can still contract STIs

 

[biGBum333]

Yes.
Yes.
16.
No they don't.
Three.
Nothing wrong with people having casual sex and I'm happy to have a one night stand.
Yes i would.
Oral sex is great.
Yeah.
Yuck.
I'd have a threesome with another girl not another guy.

 

[Candidus]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter'?:
Yes.

Have you had sex?:
Yes.

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?:
I was 15. I was honest with an 18 year old girl, as a guest in her house, about the fact that I was attracted to her. She reciprocated, and kissing lead to sex.

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.):
Yes.

How many people have you slept with?:
5 people. (I'm 25 now.)

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?:
If you consent, and the other parties all consent, society at large should keep its mouth shut and mind its own business.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill):
I would and I have.

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?:
I don't like receiving oral at all, but I like doing it provided that area is clean- not necessarily hairless, just clean.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?:
No, I find it almost impossible to get sufficiently stimulated using pictures or videos.

What're your views on anal sex?:
Not interested.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?:
No and no.

...Anything else you'd like to talk about?:
Only that I feel bad for people living in countries that criminalise normal young adults doing what normal young adults ought to do between 14-16, and that I look down on their culture and governments for driving litigation which worsens this state of affairs.

 

[TKretts3]

Yes, I have had sex; Oral, Anal, Mutual, and general Making Out.

I was 15 when I first had sex.

Oh, no, my parent would go insane.

I have slept with Three, or Four people, repeated times (They never overlapped, I am not a whore).

I have no problem with others practising casual sex. I, however, cannot have sex unless I love the person I do it with.

Girl? Why would I be on a pill?
I like oral, yet I find anal to be more pleasurable.

Yes, I do masturbate, but only when I have nothing else to do,

My views on anal sex? did you read the above, or not?
Oh, but I do think it is strange for straight people to do it...

A threesome? Personally, I could not spread my love over two people.

 

[SimuLord]

Oh boy, dick fencing. Woohoo!

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.) Yep. Not gonna be Steve Carell in seven years.
Have you had sex? See above. Besides, I was married once...
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience? I lost my virginity in the "put tab A in slot B" sense at age 17, but I had my first sexual encounter when I was 11. Yes, you read that right. I was eleven. The girl was 12---my mom was dating her dad, and when they went out they left us alone together, I suppose figuring "they're just kids". Except for me hitting puberty in fifth grade. Anyway, the only thing that kept us from going "all the way" was the fact that we were ready to do the deed, naked and in bed and...the car pulled up outside---our parents were home! (and boy howdy does that just plain look WRONG in print!) I think we broke a record for fastest time putting on clothes!
Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.) My mom has enough regrets about that guy. I don't want to pile on that I almost banged his daughter.
How many people have you slept with? 16 girls in 16 years since I lost my virginity in the summer of 1994.
What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? Shallow, ultimately unfulfilling, and the negative potential consequences (even with condoms and such) outweigh any pleasure that might come from cheap sex. It's been almost a decade since I've had sex just to fuck around.
Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) Since sex with a condom is about as much fun as masturbating with a Twinkie wrapper on my *ahem* Anyway, point being that by the time the girl and I are at a sexual phase I know she's on birth control and we both know each other's histories, so yes.
What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why? Useful form of foreplay, both to "prep the ground", so to speak, and with some girls who are really into it as a way of driving her wild before applying the finishing touch.
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? I couldn't get laid in a back-alley whorehouse the way my life's going right now, so cue up the Avenue Q song because the internet is for porn!
What're your views on anal sex? I'd be breaking every forum rule you could imagine if I told the story---accidental in the back of an '82 Chevette. The girl was NOT happy. Generally, I find it to be pointless in a heterosexual relationship---there's a reason the gods created women the way they did.
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? All my threesomes (or more) have been me and multiple girls (most I've ever had was three girls at one time), and I was in a polyamorous relationship with two girls that lasted two and a half years. I'm quite comfortable "doubling the pleasure". But with another dude in the picture? No thanks.
...Anything else you'd like to talk about? Yeah. BDSM. Girl tells me she's submissive, I tell her "come to Butt-head."

 

[Fetzenfisch]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)
Yes indeed i had.

Have you had sex?
Yeah i did, and do

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
I actually was 20 years old. I had an intense change of character and physique. I used to be a shy nerdy fatkid, with way to less self esteem. But when i started with acting in a theatre production i realised that i cared way to much about what other people thought.I just started to do what i wanted. I didnt cared if they liked what i said, if i was just honest, I wasnt afraid to suck at sports, i just did it for fun. And i realised that i had nothing to lose with girls, so why not just try it?
These insights were the best thing that ever happened to me i might say. Acting out like an idiotic monkey in front of an audience really can push you out of the shyness zone.

The actual first experience was with a girl that was dating a guy from my school. After my character change i was surprisingly well befriended with the vast majority of people at my school, the cool kids, my old nerdy friends, weird goth and punk guys, we just combined our forces and had a great time. But still you can't like everybody.
So i accompanied some of my friends (from the former "cool kids" group) to a party of some dude that i hardly knew, he was one of the few people out of my year that i never actually talked to. But i was bored and i like parties, so i just went there too.
The music sucked, beer was good, so i grapped a bottle and then sat down at the PC and started to fill in as a DJ, shortly after that girl sat down next to me and we started to talk. She was happy that finally some decent music was playing and not that mainstream popcrap that tortured us before.
We really had fun talking and joking, then that guy from my school came over, wrapping his arms around her , all like "Hey dont you wanna come over to us, i want to spend some time with my GIRLFRIEND!(evilstare".
Well she obviously didnt and told him that we had a conversation.
About one hour later her boyfriend decided that he wants to go and took her with her.
Party went on as usual, great time, i actually learned the name of the guy whose birthday it was and in drunk brotherhood i appologized for "crashing in" his party and we got along great.

3 days later i got an ICQ message of the girl, she finally found out my full name and managed to get my ICQ number. We chatted and chatted into the late night, both mentioning that we couldnt sleep. So i just wrote that i wanted to take a walk so i might get to sleep soon.
She answered me that it sounded like agreat idea and asked were i lived. It was actually very close to her home, so we went on a walk together at 3a.m. on a summernight. We talked and walked, then it got a little chilly.
Apparently we couldnt continue our dialogue at her place, with her parents sleeping there and stuff, so we went to my place. I started some music (Stereophonics » You Gotta Go There To Come Back) And we actually managed to talk another 2 minutes before she just grinned at me and said. "get out of your clothes"(so we still were at the first track "Help me (she is out of her mind) yeah great memories.

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)
Hehe, i guess they figured out pretty fast. I guess they could imagine that i wasnt renting out the other half of my bed.

How many people have you slept with?
7 plus some events of sexual nature that did not involve sex in the typical sense.

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
Sometimes, if you like each other and are attracted, why not?


Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
Yes i would, did and do it on a regular basis.


What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
Better than normal? Well usually it is part of "normal" sex. Just and only oral sex is quite rare. But yes very enjoyable.


Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
yes


What're your views on anal sex?
Utterly disgusting. Not my cup of tea at all.


Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
Well it had its pro's and con's. But actually, handling 2 girls is anything but easy.At least as long as you think about their entertainment too. But if you take your time and keep the playful spirit, it can be a blast.
With another guy involved? mh i dunno. Depends on who it is. If i like him and he looks good, maybe. I am not bisexual, but i still don't want to look at an ugly naked guy.


...Anything else you'd like to talk about?
Don't take it to seriously, don't force it. It'll just happen when it does. No need to plan stuff and stress you out.

 

[Whateveralot]

Have you had sex?
Yes
How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
20. It was so sweet and I was dead nervous.

How many people have you slept with?
2. One girlfriend and one girl only once (we dated).

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
I don't think I would do it. But really, it depends on my mood. But I've never done it, so it's kinda dark for me. I want it to be special.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
I had, yes. With the girl I did it first (my ex gf) we basically agreed on only doing that in the first two weeks after her period. That meant that, even if it went "wrong", she'd probably not become pregnant. All girls I slept with were on the pill and did it without condom (second girl was an accident.. long story)

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
It's definately not better than normal sex. It can be good, but I don't think it's THAT good. I like doing it on girls, though (is that strange?).

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
I do, but not very often. I contain myself.

What're your views on anal sex?
I have brought it up with my ex-gf, we tried, it was awkward and it didn't work.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
No, no. Like I said, I want it to be special. I don't HAVE to be in a relationship, but I really want to care for that person and trust that person. I'm not going to trust two people with that at the same time. And it's probably not as good as it's cracked up to be.

...Anything else you'd like to talk about?
Not really. Maybe that I hate the fact that I was like...20 when it happened, even though that doesn't really matter, most of my friends only have recently. And I feel sad because the girl that I dated with and had sex with kinda went...all went wrong in the past 7 days :/ we're not dating any more. I expected too much out of it, I guess.

 

[CroutonsOfDeath]

Yes, I have had sex. I am married, so that is somewhat of a given.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity - and the experience was honestly somewhat bittersweet. I would have waited but my lover, Chie (Who is now my wife.) had to go back to her home country and we were worried that we wouldn't see each other for many years (Thankfully only 3 passed.) and she just suggested that maybe we should see what it was like. Even though there were many enjoyable aspects of it, it only added to the sadness of being separated. My parents were aware - thankfully they are open minded and their biggest concern was whether or not I used protection, which I did.

I have only had sex with one woman in my life, and it should be obvious who. I myself do not wish to engage in casual sex, but the idea doesn't bother me when it comes to other individuals. I know a couple who engage in casual sex quite frequently, and they have asked us and we both declined. It ties into my feelings about 3-somes or orgies as well, I'm not against *other* people having them, and I am all for sexual freedom - but Chie & I have genuinely decided to stay monogamous.

When it comes to condoms and the pill, it wouldn't be an issue with me - namely because we learned fairly soon into her teenage years that Chie cannot bear children due to some form of defect. We didn't know about this the first time, so I used a contraceptive - but have had no need afterwords, so she does not need the pill and I do not need a condom. If I WERE in the situation you implied - it would be more up to her in my eyes. If she'd rather me just use a condom than go on the pill, I'd honor that request - and vice-verse.

Anal sex doesn't interest me. I don't like the idea honestly, I've never seen the appeal considering what orifice is involved. When it comes to Oral sex it's somewhat double sided. Personally, at least. I do wish that I could get oral sometimes but when Chie & I have tried it she said that it hurt her and she didn't enjoy it, and I'd rather go without oral than force her to do something she doesn't enjoy, and I also would not say that it is better than standard intercourse. There is no enjoyment in sex if both sides aren't enjoying it. Lastly, I think every human masturbates whether they admit it or not. That's really all I have to say.

 

[steampunk42]

this will probably sound like a brocken record, but i just havent found a girl i actually want to have sex with.

 

[Flying Dagger]

Those who practice swinging in the daytime risk people seeing them, and often risk young kids or the elderly seeing, and that's something pretty much unforgivable.

The elderly, oh why won't someone think of the elderly!

OT: I kinda feel that sex and stuff is a personal matter, it's only really been special for me so far and posting it to the internet would feel cheap.
I think you can derive my views on casual sex and dogging from that.

And threesomes? To quote someone famous "The only difference is that there'll be one more disappointed woman lying next to you at the end nagging"

 

[Whateveralot]

this will probably sound like a brocken record, but i just havent found a girl i actually want to have sex with.

Really? Why do you think that makes you sound worse then anyone else?
It's not bad that you never found the right person for it. Be glad of that.

Also, I can tell you this, if a girl really loves you, she'll love you more when she knows that.
Don't worry about it, it will happen and you'll feel good about it.

 

[BonsaiK]

ESCAPIST. Sup guys:].

Yo.

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)

Yes.

Have you had sex?

Yes.

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?

Nearly 23. Don't want to recount it, other than to say that it wasn't very good. First times usually aren't.

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)

N/A I guess, but no they didn't. Mind you, I'm sure they had assumed that I was having sex long before I actually was.

How many people have you slept with?

I lost count when I hit double figures. I'm really not sure. More than 12, less than 30.

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?

If people want to do that, that's fine. I've done it. Relationships are good but sometimes sex is just sex and that's okay too. The real problems come not when people have casual sex, but when people pretend they want something more than casual sex so they can get someone to agree to casual sex.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)

Have done. Depends on the person and how much I trust them. I wouldn't do this with just anybody, I'd have to know them well and they'd have to be a reliable sort who wouldn't forget to take them.

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?

Prefer oral to be honest.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?

Yes.

What're your views on anal sex?

If people want to do that, that's fine. Not something I've ever been wildly interested in. It looks a lot better on TV than it feels (and smells!) in real life.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?

I was in something close to this but I don't know if it qualifies. I'm not sure about a guy being involved, I guess I'd have to see. As long as he focused on her, not me, I don't forsee a problem.

...Anything else you'd like to talk about?

You should have asked more open questions and less closed questions. You missed an opportunity to get some really interesting answers out of people.

Dogging

I don't mind watching videos of it, apart from that I guess I don't really care about the legalities or whatever, doesn't sound like something I'll ever encounter first-hand so I don't see why my views on it would be relevant anyway. Also "the elderly" have been around the block a few times and know far more about this shit than any of us, they don't need protection from reality.

 

[En Row]

I was about to lie and answer "Yes, when I was 16-21"
...but to hell with it and just choose it anyway

 

[Mr Companion]

ESCAPIST. Sup guys:].



Also, this (props to Trivun, a truly swell chap.)

Spoiler: Dogging.

Finally, I have a little comment to make regarding casual sex, that may seem a little controversial, but I want to know what other people's opinions are. Not sure if it's common outside the UK, though apparently it's pretty common in the UK, but dogging is something that's seen by most of the public as a sick, vile thing that only weirdos and perverts do. Dogging, for those who don't know, is a meeting of various different people, usually with cars, at a secluded spot outdoors (often down a country lane or in empty, sheltered car parks), usually in the middle of the night so no-one happens to wander along and be offended, and then the people dogging proceed to have casual sex, mostly in the cars. Very common among gay guys, straight men, and swinger couples. I just wanted to know what other people's thoughts are on this? Personally, I have two opinions. Those who practice swinging in the daytime risk people seeing them, and often risk young kids or the elderly seeing, and that's something pretty much unforgivable. So I don't agree with that at all. But regarding proper swinging, at night, it's almost always done in places where there is almost no chance of anyone stumbling across them. It's all consensual, and there is almost zero disturbance to anyone in the area, most of whom won't even know what's happening. So as far as that's concerned, where's the problem? If people want to have sex outdoors and there's no chance that they can be seen, then surely it shouldn't be a problem, a least until someone sees them. The legal issue is pretty cloudy, because public sex in the UK is illegal if someone can see it and is offended, but dogging itself, and meeting for sex outdoors if no-one is offended, are perfectly fine. Usually the police only start arresting people if anyone starts complaining, otherwise they leave the doggers alone. So what does The Escapist think about all this?

(.

The people in the local area don't even know whats happening? Well thats terrible! Its selfish not to ask them if they want to join in!

 

[Death_Korps_Kommissar]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)
Well I have canoodled a bit with a girl. It was fun but I did all the work =P

Have you had sex?
Fraid not

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
See above. And I was seventeen I think when I had my first sexual experience.

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)
No idea

How many people have you slept with?
Again see above

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
Perfectly fine, but don't be silly, wrap your willy.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
Yeah probably, as long as i knew she wasn't riddled.

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
No opinion as of now.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
It's all I can do right now lol

What're your views on anal sex?
I have awesome views on it.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
Any threesome is cool with me, as long as i have some experience so I'm not disappointing two people at once.

...Anything else you'd like to talk about?
Why am I so alone? It makes me such a sad panda =|

And hey, if you haven't, why not? Is it out of choice? Why?
Lack of women who wanna go out with me eally.

 

[Archemetis]

I was 16 when I lost mine, it was with a girl I was dating at the time who was the same age.
Seeing as 16 is the consenting age in my country (England) It's all pretty up-to-scratch at least law-wise.

I imagine it would have been a fairly typical sexual experience had I not got myself roaring drunk a mere hour before...

(I was understandably nervous).

My parents know all about it, I don't see any point in keeping it from them.
That and most days they hear me doing it... To their credit they never speak out about it.

Since then I've had three sexual partners. One of which I am still with.

As for Casual sex? I say if you can find yourself in a situation where in it actually works and you're capable of handling it, then go for it.
I personally have only had sex outside of a relationship once, an that ended monumentally badly.

(The girl followed me for two months, but she had... Issues previous to me meeting her...)

As for the whole, no condom if they're on the pill topic, I never go in without one. Simply because I like to be careful, I'll never sacrifice safety for a little extra sensation.

Also it's not just the woman's responsibility to bring safety into the equation.

Oral sex is something I have really started to enjoy, I tend to try my luck at engaging in mutual oral sex (the most common way of doing this, being of course the '69' position) whenever I can.

At a younger age I tried oral sex (as in me performing the act) and was a little dissuaded by the taste.

In later years I would try it again and discover that I actually quite enjoy it.

To top it off, yes I masturbate... Not much else to get into on that topic.

 

[Whateveralot]

What're your views on anal sex?
I have awesome views on it.

Hahaha!
Could this mean that you have a good view of someone doing it?

 

[Death_Korps_Kommissar]

What're your views on anal sex?
I have awesome views on it.

Hahaha!
Could this mean that you have a good view of someone doing it?

Hey I'm the third story, I can see lots of things =P