Poll: Should people wait until they're married to have sex?

[sinterklaas]

Marriage is simply a legal bonding between two consenting adults. Sex has nothing to do with it.

 

[theriddlen]

Well, it depends on their beliefs. As a christian, I should wait until marriage before having sex, but because God gave us free will, everyone is entitled to make that choice on their own.

 

[efAston]

As an asexual, I definitely say no.

It took me a long time to find out I wasn't heterosexual, mainly because of everyone laughing off my doubts that I was attracted to either gender in my early teens. It also took a few failed relationships to discover that I can't have relationships with heterosexuals. I always assumed sex was something that just happened if it was mutually desired, not something that could be needed for the sake of a relationship at the peril of someone's ongoing insecurities. Sexual experimentation is a necessary part of human development, and it's a complicit enough affair as it is without adding institutionalised constraints for people to circumambulate.

 

[Blow_Pop]

I think people should be able to make their own choice. If they have ethical reasons on why they want to wait then they should wait. If they have religious reasons against it then by all means they should stick to them. If they want to they should. I don't think anyone has the right to say that just because you aren't married you can't have sex. But that is my opinion. Which completely counteracts how I was raised until I turned 18.

 

[lettucethesallad]

Whatever goes on between two (or more) consenting adults is their business. If people want to have sex they should have sex - I see no reason why it would be ethically wrong in any way. That's not an excuse not to be safe about it though, not wearing a condom with a new partner is always stupid.

 

[Hosker]

People can do as they like, but I don't honestly see why people should not have sex before marriage.

 

[Ledan]

Do it when you are ready, and in a manner that is comfortable to you. You want to have sex with every bimbo in the club? You want to wait until you are married? Or do you want to do it with someone you've been seeing for a while?
Personally I find it more attractive to have sex with someone who you have been with for a while, and regard those who have sex all the time or not at all as being kinda weird.

 

[Vivi22]

So what do you think? On the one hand, there would be much fewer cases of STDs in the world, as well as fewer accidental children (well, there would still be some obviously, but the parents would probably be in better standing to take care of them) But, intimacy is an extremely important factor of a long term relationship, and if something doesnt "work out," and you dont learn about it until you're married, that can ruin the whole thing.

Condoms?
Other birth control?
Vaccinations?

I believe its someone's choice to have sex or not with whomever they want to (consensually between adults obviously).

whether for ethical or religious reasons you can choose to abstain of not, I didn't, and that's my choice.

I think you can pretty much end the thread with this post. We do not live in an age before birth control exists, so there is no logical reason to abstain. If anything, I would say it's actually a bad idea, because you should be damn sure you want to be with another person in every way before marriage (which is why I also think two people should live together for a few years before marriage at least).

The only reason to wait is for religious reasons, and that's up to the individual.

 

[BringBackBuck]

Just do it like the rest of us and wait until after your married before you stop having sex...

 

[ParkourMcGhee]

It is way harder for a guy to get laid than a girl.

Mathematically impossible.

The mean difficulty of attaining sexual congress = D.
The number of sexual unions between men and women = s.
The mean number of couplings per individual of a given gender is C.
The population of a gender is p.

C[sub]male[/sub] = s[sub]male[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub]
C[sub]female[/sub] = s[sub]female[/sub]/p[sub]female[/sub]

s[sub]male[/sub] = s[sub]female[/sub] = s, thus:

C[sub]male[/sub] = s/p[sub]male[/sub]
C[sub]female[/sub] = s/p[sub]female[/sub]

Mean difficulty is inversely proportional to number of mean couplings so:

D[sub]male[/sub] = p[sub]male[/sub]/xs
D[sub]female[/sub] = p[sub]female[/sub]/xs

where x is the constant of proportionality.

p[sub]male[/sub]/D[sub]male[/sub] = xs
p[sub]female[/sub]/D[sub]female[/sub] = xs

D[sub]male[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub] = D[sub]female[/sub]/p[sub]female[/sub]

Let z equal the ration of males to females.

D[sub]male[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub] = zD[sub]female[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub]

or

D[sub]male[/sub] = zD[sub]female[/sub]

In western society, z is less than 1, as there are more females than males. Therefore

D[sub]male[/sub] < D[sub]female[/sub]

And therefore, males have an easier time getting laid than women.

QED.

A for effort, but most half decent looking girls can just walk up to a guy and drag him off to bed. Not as much can be said of guys.

 

[ShindoL Shill]

imagine you get married to someone.
then you find out they're a BDSM dom/other sexual "deviant".

It is way harder for a guy to get laid than a girl.

Mathematically impossible.

The mean difficulty of attaining sexual congress = D.
The number of sexual unions between men and women = s.
The mean number of couplings per individual of a given gender is C.
The population of a gender is p.

C[sub]male[/sub] = s[sub]male[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub]
C[sub]female[/sub] = s[sub]female[/sub]/p[sub]female[/sub]

s[sub]male[/sub] = s[sub]female[/sub] = s, thus:

C[sub]male[/sub] = s/p[sub]male[/sub]
C[sub]female[/sub] = s/p[sub]female[/sub]

Mean difficulty is inversely proportional to number of mean couplings so:

D[sub]male[/sub] = p[sub]male[/sub]/xs
D[sub]female[/sub] = p[sub]female[/sub]/xs

where x is the constant of proportionality.

p[sub]male[/sub]/D[sub]male[/sub] = xs
p[sub]female[/sub]/D[sub]female[/sub] = xs

D[sub]male[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub] = D[sub]female[/sub]/p[sub]female[/sub]

Let z equal the ration of males to females.

D[sub]male[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub] = zD[sub]female[/sub]/p[sub]male[/sub]

or

D[sub]male[/sub] = zD[sub]female[/sub]

In western society, z is less than 1, as there are more females than males. Therefore

D[sub]male[/sub] < D[sub]female[/sub]

And therefore, males have an easier time getting laid than women.

QED.

...

hooray, you made getting laid boring.
also, what about gay people? thats a whole nother equation. not to mention that removes a portion of the population. and bisexuals! ASEXUALS!

actually, OT: what about gay people? they cant get married (for the most part)!

 

[silversnake4133]

I wouldn't say they should wait until they're married, however, they should at least have enough common sense to wait until they are financially stable enough to support the debt that comes with having a kid. But what am I talking about, common sense is all but dead anymore cause it's apparently detrimental to many people's health if they try to think for extended periods of time.

 

[Capt. Crankypants]

My position on this is No. Absolutely not. Of course it's personal choice, it'd be idiotic to think otherwise, and I will NOT berate anyone for their choice on the matter either way. Anyway, I started having sex with someone I loved at 16, and I can say with certainty, that handled sensibly, it's very good for you. It makes you feel good at the time of course, but the effects go far beyond that. Self confidence is a huge one, and possibly the biggest factor for me is that you only have so much time on this planet, so I wouldn't put off a good thing. If a future partner has trouble accepting that you've had a previous sexual partner, that's a bit sad. However, I would emphasise fairness. I wouldn't think less of a new partner because they've had sex before, and if you are a person who would, then I also strongly suggest you maintain your virginity for that person too. It's only fair to them.

Also, big picture, I don't think 'marriage' is a benchmark for that sort of thing. If you have a special person, that's all I think you need. Marriages can be ended just the same as any other relationship.

 

[dogenzakaminion]

I don't really think people should do anything. Well, they "should" do what they want and feel is right regardless of other peoples opinion. I personally think waiting can be more detrimental for a serious relationship than doing it when both parties feel ready, but sex can also just be fun so one night stands are cool too. Be aware of what you are doing and there's no problem.

 

[Sjakie]

nope.

I think you should just get it out of the way and be done with that first time once you start to feel that desire. Looking back on my first time, it's not that big of a deal.
Just be safe with condoms/the pill.

 

[necromanzer52]

Honestly, I don't see the point of marriage in the first place.

But, assuming you care about marriage, I beg of you to choose to wait until you're married to have sex, don't just do it because some religion told you to.

 

[Airsoftslayer93]

Religion is dying, marriage is archaic, it isnt needed.

 

[Basha]

My opinion is very,very simple: Sex is fun.
I see no reason to wait.