Poll: So, my sister did just about the dumbest thing ever for a relationship
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While I don't doubt that, I've already stated my reasons for thinking this is stupid in a previous post. In order not to repeat myself, scroll up a tad and read it.Magnesium360 said:
So what you're saying is, above the age of 20 functional romantic relationships cannot be built on an existing relationship of trust?le picklez said:
Why is it so damn impossible to just have a yes/no poll anymore. I say that more for the no option rather than the guy/girl. Either way it's not difficult to fix relationship stuff like that. Particularly when drunk, cause then you just say, "I was drunk I actually meant..."
Apologies. I didn't mean to imply that its impossible for a functional relationship to be made, but you have to agree with me when I say that I'd be nearly totally justified in saying that it's a rule with but a few exceptions.Magnesium360 said:
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I believe these sum up my opinion on this thread.MordinSolus said:
Seriously, how is this a problem? Instead of saying "I like you" she said "Let's be friends." JUST IN CASE. Just in case at some point in the future she can use that friend barrier like you use the glass that says "in case of emergency, use this" in front of a fucking fire hydrant. She's saving that man for a later fuck or possibly a later long-term relationship.
Duh.
"Can we be friends?" - Translation - "Can we get to know each other a bit better because I kind of like you and want to know if there is any chemistry between us."le picklez said:
Yeah, I don't see much wrong with this at all. Not stupid either. I think that you're just upset because you've been "friend-zoned" and gave up because of the negative stigma that people have put on it, and now you feel bad for this guy.
When you ask someone out, the intended and expected outcome is almost always a relationship. When you ask someone to be friends, the intended and expected outcome is almost never a relationship of a romantic nature. Sometimes when someone has feelings for a friend, they do not pursue them for fear of losing the friendship they have. Being friends with someone can prevent a relationship with them, but it's more down to how strongly the two people feel, their concepts of implied constraints, and really just how they choose to handle the matter. I don't think you need to worry about this stuation, but if the guy likes your sister and she likes him, but he thinks her asking for friendship is her telling him she's not interested, then there's probably not going to be a better time for her to ask him out.le picklez said:
Ok sorry for this... but people like that really piss me off... not meaning to be bitchy or anything... but she's grown up, she has to make her own mistakes in life.le picklez said:
And who's to say that they may not have a lasting relationship, I was best friends with my current gf for years and we couldn't be happier together
This is rather unkind to your sister, you know. Laughing it up on the internet because she made a silly mistake that no-one except the two of you (and the dude she asked) ever needed to know about. It doesn't matter that no-one here knows who she is, it's still very unkind. =( If you really wanted to know if this sort of thing has happened to anyone else, you could have either made the situation hypothetical, or placed it onto yourself.le picklez said:
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Seriously though, a friend and a nice little story to tell, unless of course he liked her and now wants nothing to do with her, in which case,
lawl
Seriously though, a friend and a nice little story to tell, unless of course he liked her and now wants nothing to do with her, in which case,
lawl
I can think of many things more stupid than this. Changing who you are to remain in a relationship for example.
I said yes and I'm a guy, because it's happened TO me. A friend of mine (Who is now my girlfriend 
) and I were in a -very- strange place just over a year ago, we liked each other sure enough but neither of us had been in a relationship before and she didn't really know how she felt towards me, a lot of that had to do with the fact that we were really good friends and she didn't want to ruin that. So she ended up just asking to be friends; a few months later we ended up together and we've stayed together since. ^_^
) and I were in a -very- strange place just over a year ago, we liked each other sure enough but neither of us had been in a relationship before and she didn't really know how she felt towards me, a lot of that had to do with the fact that we were really good friends and she didn't want to ruin that. So she ended up just asking to be friends; a few months later we ended up together and we've stayed together since. ^_^
This is why I don't drink, people do stupid things.
Also, her life, why does it matter if she does so? She wants to blow off a possible relationship, we can't force her to change her mind. That's not fair.
Also, her life, why does it matter if she does so? She wants to blow off a possible relationship, we can't force her to change her mind. That's not fair.
