Poll: Thinking of Leaving My GF of Three Years
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I agree with Jaime_Wolf...you come off really really poorly in this post. So my suggestion is that you should break up with your girlfriend, she deserves better that a guy to talks about her like you do and is scoping out an 18 year old. But I also suggest you not date the 18 year old, she also deserves better than you.Jaime_Wolf said:
So, I chose A. Go be free and don't date anyone.
I'd say try to make your current relationship a little more exciting. Do something new, go somewhere unknown, try something frisky in the bedroom, whatever.
I only really say this because I was pretty much in the position that your possibly future ex may be in. Dumped and replaced in a matter of days.
Except instead of for a younger partner, my ex decided to grind and make out with a 22 yr old German exchange student. (We were 18 at the time.)
Yeah, ya move on that quick and don't expect to ever hear from your ex again. Or give her a few days and she'll kick the shit out of your new girl and scare her away.
I only really say this because I was pretty much in the position that your possibly future ex may be in. Dumped and replaced in a matter of days.
Except instead of for a younger partner, my ex decided to grind and make out with a 22 yr old German exchange student. (We were 18 at the time.)
Yeah, ya move on that quick and don't expect to ever hear from your ex again. Or give her a few days and she'll kick the shit out of your new girl and scare her away.
It's my observation that people who make these kinds of threads already have their minds made up, but feel guilty about what they want to do and they really just want other people to justify their actions. Please don't take that the wrong way. It's just that I've seen this many times, and I've been in similar situations myself, but that's the case a good 95% of the time with things like these.
You just need to sit and consider the options. Get an unbiased list of pros and cons to both girls and decide from there. Most people listen to their hearts in matters like this based on what they want at the moment, rather than listening to their heads and considering what's best in the long run. I know 'cold and logical' doesn't really work when you're dealing with matters of the heart, but it's always best not to make rash decisions.
Best of luck friend. I hope whatever you decide serves you well.
You just need to sit and consider the options. Get an unbiased list of pros and cons to both girls and decide from there. Most people listen to their hearts in matters like this based on what they want at the moment, rather than listening to their heads and considering what's best in the long run. I know 'cold and logical' doesn't really work when you're dealing with matters of the heart, but it's always best not to make rash decisions.
Best of luck friend. I hope whatever you decide serves you well.
Simply, if you're not happy with your current relationship, slice it. You're too young to be miserable with your commitment, and nobody should be telling you not to have fun at your age.
And, people who criticize your family can fuck right off.
Go after the hot chick, have some fun, and if that doesn't work out, whatever.
You're too young to be miserable. Give it a few more years before chaining yourself to a woman.
And, people who criticize your family can fuck right off.
Go after the hot chick, have some fun, and if that doesn't work out, whatever.
You're too young to be miserable. Give it a few more years before chaining yourself to a woman.
I wouldn't call it cheating, there are people called swingers... but anyways, it sounds like you really don't want to be in the relationship and if you stay things may get worse then again it may get better but if you are interested in other girls then that may not happen. So I would end it if I were you. A word of advise though, my Dad had a problem like this where he would break up with a girl but his mother wouldn't, by the sounds of it, I'll tell your family son as well or it could be awkward.
Sounds to me like you're not having fun, and that sticking with Safety girl isn't making you happy in the long run. Relationships end, and yeah, it sucks when they've been going on for a while because lives become intertwined. But staying in them because breaking up sucks just isn't worth it. I'd say break up.
Now for Excitement girl - are you sure it's for real? Not just a 'My girlfriend is boring, you're cool' kind of thing? The grass is always greener and all that stuff. Everyone has traits you'll be sick of in a while, the question is just if _you_ think it'll be worth working through. She may be great now in comparison to Safety, but may bore the crap out of you when you've dated for a month or two. And you know what? That's ok. Just because you want to date her now doesn't mean you have to keep doing it forever. By all means, try it out. If it works out, yay! If not, stay single and do your own thing.
But don't stay with someone for safety reasons alone. You'll both end up resenting each other.
Now for Excitement girl - are you sure it's for real? Not just a 'My girlfriend is boring, you're cool' kind of thing? The grass is always greener and all that stuff. Everyone has traits you'll be sick of in a while, the question is just if _you_ think it'll be worth working through. She may be great now in comparison to Safety, but may bore the crap out of you when you've dated for a month or two. And you know what? That's ok. Just because you want to date her now doesn't mean you have to keep doing it forever. By all means, try it out. If it works out, yay! If not, stay single and do your own thing.
But don't stay with someone for safety reasons alone. You'll both end up resenting each other.
Did you look at your poll? Sounds like you want the new girl. People should work though there relationship issues. Right now it's fairly easy. Wait until your married, money issues, kid issues etc. It's a cake work now. If you can't now and try and ride it out your going to break up later.
Talk to your gf. You know the one where you sit around the table. Both decide if your happy in the relation. If you two think you can work it out try. If your both unhappy and the faults are things you can't fix. Break up.
Talk to your gf. You know the one where you sit around the table. Both decide if your happy in the relation. If you two think you can work it out try. If your both unhappy and the faults are things you can't fix. Break up.
Well this is what prolonged relationships turn into, the infatuation has burned out now it's just you and her trying to find a common language, we really can't know if and how it's working out for you.
But in case you do leave her I will need that phone number, poor girl needs some comfort
But in case you do leave her I will need that phone number, poor girl needs some comfort
Advice from my parents. Love will never make a relationship last, if you want to have someone by your side make a commitment. Some parts suck but the good parts are worth it. Of course if she isn't like that then go after the new girl and brace yourself for a lot of drama.
This.lacktheknack said:
In all seriousness though, I think you should tell her what you're thinking. Her reaction should be pretty telling. It would be a good idea to talk to friends and family as well.
And then there's always quoting Tom Leykis: "Men shouldn't get married before the age of 25." You don't need to make a serious commitment at this point in your life.
Oh, and play Catherine. It would be interesting (were I in your shoes) to see your current GF's reaction to your playthrough if you cheat in-game.
I feel like I should feel bad about saying this, but I think you should end your current relationship and try to go for the new girl. If you have really grown tired of your girlfriend and you really don't see a future with her, then maybe it's best to end it.
I actually just rolfd xDchaosyoshimage said:
This literally sounds exactly like Catherine. Think I'll start playing it again...
It sounds like you need the change dude, but its entirely up to you, you know what you're doing better than I do.
Instead of a new girl though, why not try new things with current girl?
New girl. If you're no longer really enjoying your time with your current GF, you're pretty much lying by staying with her.
If you are asking strangers on the internet whether you should dump your girlfriend, you should probably dump your girlfriend. For her good and the potential good of the gene pool, if nothing else.
Voted "stay single/freedom"...for the benefit of both these chicks.
Voted "stay single/freedom"...for the benefit of both these chicks.
Yes, play catherine. Your "new" girl may not be....exactly as she seems. Plus she might have the clap. Tread carefully, and wear a raincoat.