Poll: Thinking of Leaving My GF of Three Years

[yukshee]

Now is the time to move on.

If you ain't had the guts to sort things out by now you definitely need to find a partner that you can more easily dominate.

But check the waters first, a couple of nights surfing dives & titty-bars should net you a no-hoper whose life you now can blight with your whiny indecision and an inability to stick up for your family.

Otherwise, go buy some XXXL elastic-waisted sweatpants, order pizza'n'beer and play WoW until mortally obese. Your the final solution can then be achieved by taping up your windows and doors until you choke on the methane from your own pizzery excretions.

Maybe if you had been more Alpha she might'a been Beta. (<-see what I did there?)

 

[dimensional]

WHAT THE FUCK. YOU DO NOT MAKE A DECISION BASED ON A POLL FILLED OUT BY STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET. SHAME ON YOU.

Was thinking the exact same thing but I believe most of the time the OP has already made up their mind but want reassurance that it is the right decision even from complete strangers who know nothing about the situation other than what they have been told from a biased source.

So im not getting dragged into this...... anyway heres my advice do whatever the hell you feel is right dont think about it to much just make sure thats what you want and if it turns out you got it wrong no one to blame but yourself and deal with it.

 

[Fret098]

wow... don't take this the wrong way but she should dump you. You're treating a HUMAN BEING as a play thing a toy, please dump her she deserves better.

 

[Anti-Robot Man]

I'm torn. On the one hand, it sounds like you're already pretty much done with this relationship and like the other girl at least presents some potential. On the other hand, this post makes you seem like a tremendous douche and I'm sort of loath to suggest that you burden any woman with your presence.

My thoughts exactly, took the words out of my mouth.

 

[Sebenko]

Ignore these people.

Organise threesome.

That's what I'd do. Then again, I'm a massive (and mostly unsuccesful) slut in an open relationship.

 

[Ferrious]

Is this really how you want to make the decision, or are you trying to move the burden of responsibility onto us instead of making the choice yourself?

You sound like you're having a "rejection of routine" moment rather than actually wanting away from your girl. If that's the case, ditching her is throwing the baby out with the bath water. If, on the other hand, you don't love her any more and are just sticking around until something better shows up, SHAME ON YOU!

If you love her, man up and sort out the problems you're having.
If you don't love her, man up and get out of that relationship before you do any more damage.

tl;dr - Man up.

 

[i7omahawki]

Well, you should break up with your girlfriend because your relationship isn't working, not because a seemingly better one has come along.

I don't think I'd ever break up with someone just because someone I thought was better showed up. It is easier to adopt a "greener grass" viewpoint when you're in a relationship and see the possibility of a new one.

I'd advise breaking up with her, give her good reasons as to why you don't want to be a relationship anymore, and don't include "I've found someone better".

The whole numbered rating system you seem to have going on is a bit worrying. I wouldn't really know how to grade a human being on a 1-10 scale, even just for attractiveness. I don't think that's really a good way to decide who to be with, and it kinda sounds like you're judging them based on others' perception of what attractiveness is. That's an assumption, so if its not true disregard it, but the numbered scale thing does stink a bit.

 

[Noctius]

talk to your girlfriend vincent er... i mean hum chrishu...hehe sorry i just knew a guy named vincent that was kinda in your position and he died about 50 times for being a complete dick to his wonderfull girlfriend, be happy you have a girl who cares about you mental and fisical health, in my country they say you have 2 mothers in life.
1- your biological mother
2- your wife

you hav wife material there and you want to "trade" it for some chick thats hotter?
shesh i have a girlfriend that i love but im mad about jessica alba but you dont see me leaving my beloved to go after another and its not about safety dude, nothing is 100% safe just spice things up dudeand listen to her, to much drinkin and gamin can be bad for you, also if she can tell you your flaws instead of dumping your sorry ass why cant you do the same for her lovely one?


oh and one last thing...GROW A FUCKING PAIR AND DONT LET THE GUYS (AT THE ESCAPIST NO LESS) TELL YOU WHAT TO DO

 

[MetaKnight19]

Play Catherine and choose based on your ending.

This is exactly what I was thinking. No offence intended to the OP, but as soon as I read the situation my mind just went straight to the plot of Catherine.

OT: Situations like this are very delicate and you have to make sure you're definitely making the right decision. You have to think of the long-term effects of breaking up a long-ish term relationship as well as the short term, of course you have to think of your own happiness but don't go disregarding the feelings of others as a result of that.

One thing I would recommend is talking to your girlfriend about how you feel about the relationship and where it's going (if anywhere), but definitely do not bring up the other girl you're interested in. After you have left her, still try and keep your distance, albeit only slightly as you don't want to make her feel unwanted, from this other girl for about 6 weeks then try and get together.

Also, does this other girl know you have a girlfriend? Because I would bring that up and explain that you are considering leaving her. Hopefully she'll understand your situation.

 

[floppylobster]

Number 1:
You should be saying all of this to her first. Especially if you're thinking of breaking up. What have you got to lose in getting few things out in the open and talking through your problems?

Number 2:
Something new always sounds good. But don't forget that staying with her is also something new. You've never stayed with her for four years have you? Or five, and probably never stayed that long with any girl. So staying with her will be a new experience for you too. And some relationships get better with age. But not without honesty (see Number 1).

Number 3:
All that said, it sounds like it's doomed anyway. From the way you've written about it, and your age, she's probably going to be better off without you. I would still get it all out in the open first. You might be surprised. I was going to break up with my girlfriend of 4 years. I told her everything I wasn't happy with, and we worked on it. Now we're more open and honest and we're still together 9 years later.

So to sum up - Break up, it sounds like it's over in your mind. But in future, when you're older, know that you'll have to learn that real long term relationships take work. But you're young, so make mistakes like everyone else. It's the only real way to learn.

 

[Baneat]

Title infers your girlfriend is three years old.
I find this funny.
Also: this really is the plot to catherine, at least we know which way most people will go for the choices in the game.

 

[aei_haruko]

this could explode if you and her are working closely, have many of the same classes, and have known each other for a while, keep her, and maybe ry to make it work, 3 years doesn't grow on trees ya know

 

[Morgue13-2]

All relationships have their problems, and you should always attempt to DEAL with those problems, but never use them as an excuse to leave. This other girl, will, of course, seem perfect when you barely know her, but there's a time when you'll find out that very important things that you take for granted now are missing in her.

 

[Vykrel]

I'm sick of my woman.

do you even need an answer? break up with her and stay single for a while.

 

[babinro]

Based on your post, you've already made up your mind to end your current relationship (or cheat which would be far worse). There's no reason to waste her time if she's looking for more than you are. After you've addressed that matter, you are free to do what you want.

 

[Manji187]

Play Catherine and choose based on your ending.

Whaha priceless... I mean...I liked the joke.

Do you, by any chance, give marriage counseling based on games as well?

"She wants kids...you're not sure if you want em....play BioShock and decide whether you get kids depending on your playthrough." XD

 

[kasperbbs]

If youre already thinking of leaving her after 3 years then spending the rest of your life with her is not an option.