WingedIncubus said:
Lilani said:
The basic concept of "bullying" is that it is unwarranted harassment. The victim did nothing wrong, but they are punished anyway. I think I could see an upside if a kid who truly deserved it (like say, a bully) was ripped a new one by his fellow students, but that's not how bullying works in real life. In real life bullying experiences just hurt and cause unnecessary pain.
Because the victim lets them do this and doesn't fend for him or herself. It's not the victim's fault that it occurs, but it is his or her fault that he or she lets them continue without lifting a finger, and just eats it up.
Call the police, talk to your parents, punch his nose, bring it up to teachers and principals, and alert the media if they shove the issue under a rug. Make a mock "Wanted" post-sign identifying people as "bullies". Make friends, join a group, be vocal about the issue. Solutions ARE there, but people are too scared to be called a "snitch". Well sorry, when survival is at stake, there ain't no snitching.
What a cop out of an excuse. Have you ever even been bullied before? Do you actually expect these
children and
young adolescents to handle situations like this exactly as an adult would? A lot of times, the bullies are the ones who are endeared by teachers. They're the charismatic ones, or the athletes. There were many bullies like this in my schools growing up. Nobody wanted to rat them out because the teachers wouldn't do anything anyway.
Also, on the "make friends and join a group" front, bullying is devastating to a kid's trust in others and ability to be open. It gets to a point where they don't try to talk or make any friends out of pure defense. They are ridiculed for every word that comes out of their mouth, and the only way they see to stop it is to just stop talking. I know this for a fact because I was like this for a few years.
The only way bullying can stop is if the victims AND the bystanders do something about it. Bystanders don't do anything because they don't want to be a snitch, like you said, but also because the problem doesn't affect them. Kids at that age can be very selfish creatures. They aren't thinking about the consequences of others' actions, heck, it's hard for them to think about their own.
How dare you say that kids allow themselves to be bullied? That is like saying rape victims allow themselves to be raped. On the contrary--it is
others that allow
them to be bullied. Bystanders (those who do not bully and nor are bullied) make up the majority of schools, and if they remain silent while a kid is being ridiculed to the point of tears then that is both condoning and enabling. Apathy is the number one cause and propagator of bullying. Apathy toward the victim and the situation in general.
However, if that same majority of the school does not approve and does not let these instances go unnoticed, then it is an entirely different atmosphere. Bullying isn't a natural thing anymore--it is an unwelcome intruder, and will make the bullies pariah rather than the victims.
