Poll: Was called MENTALLY RETARDED after seeing DESPICABLE ME

[BGH122]

I really, really REALLY [HEADING=1]REALLY[/HEADING]hate it when people talk during movies.

You'd hate going to the cinema with my friends and I, we constantly scream and shout, shoot the screen, throw popcorn at people, defecate in our chairs and so on, you know, the usual.

No, but seriously, I stopped going to the cinema ages ago because it just isn't an enjoyable experience. The audience are at best mildly annoying and at worst wreck the movie, the movie can't be paused to go to the loo, it's stupidly overpriced as is the confectionery and there are no discernible benefits other than 'films take too long to come out on DVD' which really doesn't bother me.

OP: You did nothing wrong, you laughed, you had a good time. If the stuck up cow couldn't deal with this then maybe she should do what I do and avoid cinemas rather than impinge upon those who do wish to take in a movie. One thing that strikes me though, when you asked if the seats were empty she said no and yet you sat in them, was that just a typo?

 

[[Kira Must Die]]

Wait wait wait...there's gonna be a SMURF movie?!!!!!

OT: Yeah, I think she was just being a *****. But it's surprising how someone can actually say that stuff to another's face.

 

[Rakkana]

If she's the only one your safe. It's when more people start to get pissed you've gone too far.

 

[Dexiro]

I really can't imagine what would have made her say that. Maybe she's an avid Smurfs fan?

You did nothing wrong anyway from the sounds of it.

 

[KurtzGallahad]

She was probably at fault, but two things
B1tch reads bLtch in leetspeak what you meant was "B|tch"
also

"As a movie goer, I try to gage..."

It's spelt gauge

 

[Savagezion]

I think the topic is bias towards one side. It may be presented differently if she were to come on here and get to state her case as well. As the post above me points out, if you are going to state your case you are most likely going to present all of your actions as justified. Watch any court case ever. Due to your bias of not knowing what you did offensive, it is only logical to. Without her side of the arguement, you can't really point the finger one way or the other as an uninvolved person here on escapist. We weren't there, we are only being shown 1 side. (told by one of the offending parties)

I am shocked at how many people are quick to fall for the bias.

 

[CruelSpider]

Stalk her and sit next to her during every movie she goes to. Force her to deal with things she has no control over.

DO THIS. I'm not even kidding. Bad things will happen if you don't.

Agreed. Do it, friend.
And more to the point, she was a ***** beacuse she didn't personally enjoy the movie due to whatever reason she had for not enjoying the movie.

 

[Mr Thin]

Now lets go back about two hours or so. I came in right before the trailers started. I approached her and asked if the two seats next to her were empty. She said "no" so i sat down, and when my friend entered I flagged her down.

Maybe you said that wrong, but you asked if they were empty, she said no - i.e. they were taken - and you sat down anyway? That's a dick move, man.

While the trailers were playing the people behind us were talking loudly amongst themselves and it appeared that the whole theater was still chatting. I took this opportunity to vocally announce my displeasure at the new SMURF movie. I bellowed "BOO" when it first started and "IT BURNS US" when 'Smurf'd' Fell across the screen.

Seems kind of unnecessary, I'd be annoyed if I sat next to someone who did that. Especially as you said you have a really loud voice.

For the hour and a half of the movie, I laughed at the funny parts. Now let me point out. I know i have a big booming voice, and can have big booming laughter. I try to hold it back cuz frankly when i laugh as loud as I can, the person in the far corner of the theater knows about it... and probably the one in the next theater.

OK, this isn't really your fault; loud voice or not, you're supposed to laugh when it's funny. But it'd be a pain in the ass to be right next to.

Overall, I'd say she overreacted, and was out of line with her insults. She should've at least given you a chance to explain yourself and - if you felt it appropriate - apologize. But I can understand her being bothered by what happened.

 

[Kurokami]

Okay, So my friend and I went to go see the midnight showing of DESPICABLE ME. After the movie, the woman sitting to my immediate right turned to me and quite abruptly said

Woman: "I just want you to know that you have ruined this movie for me and I hope never have to sit next to you in a movie theater again"

Me: "Excuse me?" <---- This was said in a confused tone, as it was said the second the credits started to roll

Woman: "Your actions were inappropriate and obnoxious and has no excuse unless you are mentally retarded or drunk" And then with an abrupt turn, left.

Now lets go back about two hours or so. I came in right before the trailers started. I approached her and asked if the two seats next to her were empty. She said "no" so i sat down, and when my friend entered I flagged her down. While the trailers were playing the people behind us were talking loudly amongst themselves and it appeared that the whole theater was still chatting. I took this opportunity to vocally announce my displeasure at the new SMURF movie. I bellowed "BOO" when it first started and "IT BURNS US" when 'Smurf'd' Fell across the screen.

Aside from this, I was relatively quiet through out the movie. Any thing i did say was whispered directly into the ear of my friend. But these were short comments, few and far between and nothing more.

For the hour and a half of the movie, I laughed at the funny parts. Now let me point out. I know i have a big booming voice, and can have big booming laughter. I try to hold it back cuz frankly when i laugh as loud as I can, the person in the far corner of the theater knows about it... and probably the one in the next theater. However, this is not every time. It is not that hard to control and 9 times out of 10, I don't really have too. The times where its hard is when it is a REALLY funny joke. It's not an obnoxious laugh, I'm just REALLY good at projection.

I did not laugh at times where it was inappropriate, IE: the scene wasn't funny. I did, twice, laugh when I thought they were going to hit us with a joke but didn't. At this point i would immediately cut my laughter off cuz, well no one else was laughing and that's awkward, and also it wasn't meant to be funny and it would have distracted from the movie. I also didn't laugh for very long. In other words, I didn't laugh over dialogue, which did happen. People in the theater (which was packed) were collectively laughing so loud, At times I couldn't hear the movie.

As a movie goer, I try to gage my actions biased on the people around me. I can understand how certain things can be obnoxious. And even screaming during horror movie theaters, and laughing during comedies can be obnoxious. But I've never felt the need to get in anyone's face about it. But the scale of that can go back and forth, based on the reactions and actions from the crowd.

Oh, I did occasionally clap. But such a thing was reserved during the jokes that deserved it. IE.... well you'll see cuz no matter how much I try to hint at it without giving it away, those who haven't seen the movie will be looking for it and it wont be as funny. However, a good portion of the crowd was also clapping as well.

In short, what she said didn't bother me. However, I did want to open it up to the board for you to judge for yourselves and ether slam me or her.

Two things I hate in movies are A: Clapping, and B: Yelling, unless the comments are particularly hilarious, since it was during the previews (from my understanding?) however I wouldn't call foul and clapping is pretty inevitable it seems in movies nowadays, not to mention momentary so I don't tend to hold it against people. In other words I guess she was just a stuck up *****.

 

[replingham153]

Either way, very happy she abruptley turned tail and ran away as people of her nature tend to do since they can't back up anything they say. Lord knows, here friends were running out before she even finished what she was saying.

Sincerely,
The Friend

you made a valid opinion there, chuck! so your the friend? Whats your opinion about "The *****"?

 

[Bouncing Ferret FIlm]

I don't like when people yell shit at the movie screen, even the trailers. But I sure as fuck wouldn't make myself suffer more by choosing to interact with them in order to chastise them.

but i fear the BANHAMMER

If the site doesn't censor the words, I think it's safe to say the Mods don't care about profanity. Oh you know, you could try reading the actual forum rules.

the yelling shit out is totally agreed, but i figured it would go un-annoyed since EVERYONE ELSE WAS TALKING ANYWAYS THROUGH THE OPENING CREDITS

 

[Cloake]

You should never clap except at a live performance. I know those 3D effects look so real, but Steve Carrell isn't really in the theater with you, and he can't hear you clapping when he makes a joke.

 

[Rachel Flohr]

Here's what I say, because I was sitting next to him. Her comments were completely out of line. If she was having an issue all she needed to do was either a) politely say he was being loud and it was bothering her and he would have happily kept it down or b) the theater still had plenty of open seats, if it was really bothering her, she could have moved. Her passive/agressive action as opposed to being assertive and asking for what she wanted at a time when it mattered, followed by her nasty remarks afterwards make me say yes, she was the *****.

Side note, I was not in any way bothered or distracted from the movie by it. Also the movie is freaking awesome!

 

[Jamash]

So even after she told you the 2 seats next to her weren't empty, you sat down in them anyway?

That's sounds like a twattish thing to do for a start.

If someone asked me whether they could sit next to me, and after I told them no they did anyway, I would begin to doubt their mental faculties, especially if they started booing at a trailer for a kids movie, or started clapping despite the fact that there's no one involved in making the movie present... it's almost as dumb as people talking to the characters on the screen. If I had wanted to endure that level of audience participation, I would have gone to a Pantomime, where it's acceptable for children to jeer and clap at the performance.

Of course, I wouldn't have been a passive aggressive ***** about it either.

First I would have reiterated that the seats weren't free and it wasn't OK for you to sit next to me, but if you still ignored me I would have moved myself. If that wasn't an option I would have asked you to be quiet, and if that didn't work I would have got up and left and demanded my money back, since my experience was ruined by someone without their carer, which may have got you ejected or told to be quiet by the ushers.

But then again, shit like this is one of the reasons I seldom go to Cinemas in the first place, I prefer to watch my films in the comfort of my own home and my chosen company... where I can get as drunk as a skunk & as stoned as a weasel, and precede to jeer and shout at the screen as much as I like.

In summary and in my opinion, it's six of one and half a dozen of the other. You were at fault for being an enthusiastic oblivious oaf, but she was as equally at fault for letting the problem get to that stage without politely saying anything, and being a ***** after the event pointless.

On the bright side, she did say it was OK to behave like that if you are drunk, so next time just make sure you're really drunk before you sit next to her, since she'd probably appreciate the fact you've listened to her opinion and modified your behaviour accordingly.

EDIT: You've edited your opening post to change the part about her saying it wasn't OK for you to sit next to her, so disregard anything relating to that act of rudeness.

 

[Bouncing Ferret FIlm]

Impossible for anyone else to judge without anyone here having been there themselves. Either you're more of an irritating ass in the theatre than you think you are, or you're not and the woman is just too easily bothered.

Quite likely both, and I find it hard to believe it could mostly be her problem. I mean, a midnight showing of a new movie is a crowded place, if you were acting "within reason" in regards to how everyone else was, she likely wouldn't have singled you out, even being the one sitting beside her. I think you'd have to have been (at the least) worse than the other people in the immediate vicinity of your seats.

Edit: And just as a general rule, I never consider clapping during a movie to be acceptable. At the end, maybe (although I still don't like it), but during is just fucking annoying. Sometimes a laugh is hard to control, but keep your damn hands down and quiet.

Then again, maybe she's just a nutcase, or perhaps you've got a funky smell about you, who knows

I understand, but I also throw down where I could see myself as possibly acting inappropriately to give her a chance, through me, to show what i may have done to annoy her.

 

[Bouncing Ferret FIlm]

I think the topic is bias towards one side. It may be presented differently if she were to come on here and get to state her case as well. As the post above me points out, if you are going to state your case you are most likely going to present all of your actions as justified. Watch any court case ever. Due to your bias of not knowing what you did offensive, it is only logical to. Without her side of the arguement, you can't really point the finger one way or the other as an uninvolved person here on escapist. We weren't there, we are only being shown 1 side. (told by one of the offending parties)

I am shocked at how many people are quick to fall for the bias.

I understand, but I also throw down where I could see myself as possibly acting inappropriately to give her a chance, through me, to show what i may have done to annoy her.

 

[Bouncing Ferret FIlm]

Now lets go back about two hours or so. I came in right before the trailers started. I approached her and asked if the two seats next to her were empty. She said "no" so i sat down, and when my friend entered I flagged her down.

Maybe you said that wrong, but you asked if they were empty, she said no - i.e. they were taken - and you sat down anyway? That's a dick move, man.

While the trailers were playing the people behind us were talking loudly amongst themselves and it appeared that the whole theater was still chatting. I took this opportunity to vocally announce my displeasure at the new SMURF movie. I bellowed "BOO" when it first started and "IT BURNS US" when 'Smurf'd' Fell across the screen.

Seems kind of unnecessary, I'd be annoyed if I sat next to someone who did that. Especially as you said you have a really loud voice.

For the hour and a half of the movie, I laughed at the funny parts. Now let me point out. I know i have a big booming voice, and can have big booming laughter. I try to hold it back cuz frankly when i laugh as loud as I can, the person in the far corner of the theater knows about it... and probably the one in the next theater.

OK, this isn't really your fault; loud voice or not, you're supposed to laugh when it's funny. But it'd be a pain in the ass to be right next to.

Overall, I'd say she overreacted, and was out of line with her insults. She should've at least given you a chance to explain yourself and - if you felt it appropriate - apologize. But I can understand her being bothered by what happened.

Two things, 1, no it was a typo that i have fixed, i asked if the empty seats were taken, and she said no. ANd i only yelled out the smurf thing cuz the entire theater was already engaged in conversations anyways... so i figured no harm no foul... and if nothing else they'd go "hey why wont that ass shut up in the theat....... OOOOHHHHHHHH we are talking too"

 

[Bouncing Ferret FIlm]

So even after she told you the 2 seats next to her weren't empty, you sat down in them anyway?

That's sounds like a twattish thing to do for a start.

If someone asked me whether they could sit next to me, and after I told them no they did anyway, I would begin to doubt their mental faculties, especially if they started booing at a trailer for a kids movie, or started clapping despite the fact that there's no one involved in making the movie present... it's almost as dumb as people talking to the characters on the screen. If I had wanted to endure that level of audience participation, I would have gone to a Pantomime, where it's acceptable for children to jeer and clap at the performance.

Of course, I wouldn't have been a passive aggressive ***** about it either.

First I would have reiterated that the seats weren't free and it wasn't OK for you to sit next to me, but if you still ignored me I would have moved myself. If that wasn't an option I would have asked you to be quiet, and if that didn't work I would have got up and left and demanded my money back, since my experience was ruined by someone without their carer, which may have got you ejected or told to be quiet by the ushers.

But then again, shit like this is one of the reasons I seldom go to Cinemas in the first place, I prefer to watch my films in the comfort of my own home and my chosen company... where I can get as drunk as a skunk & as stoned as a weasel, and precede to jeer and shout at the screen as much as I like.

In summary and in my opinion, it's six of one and half a dozen of the other. You were at fault for being an enthusiastic oblivious oaf, but she was as equally at fault for letting the problem get to that stage without politely saying anything, and being a ***** after the event pointless.

On the bright side, she did say it was OK to behave like that if you are drunk, so next time just make sure you're really drunk before you sit next to her, since she'd probably appreciate the fact you've listened to her opinion and modified your behaviour accordingly.

sorry the seat thing was a typo and has been fixed. I asked if the empty seats were TAKEN, and she said NO. Ie she didn't have any friends coming.

 

[Booze Zombie]

You ignore the peanut gallery trying to pretend they're something more, it works out best for everyone.

If you don't like hearing other people, you shouldn't go to movies, if you encounter this woman again, inform her of this and loudly slam down on the seat next to her.