Poll: why can't students love their teachers?

[RedDeadFred]

Because teachers are instructors and it's hard to retain professionalism with someone you're boinking, not mentioning that said boink-y would likely receive special treatment.

This. It's a conflict of interest if the "boink-y" does poorly on an assignment. Also, if there's a miserable breakup, it's not fair to the student because the teacher is obviously going to have some bias against them.

 

[Mr F.]

Oh for fucks sake.

This argument is not even about the age of consent. Teachers are in a position of power over their students and as a result should not be fucking them, regardless of how old they are. That is the long and the short of it. If they are star crossed lovers then they can keep their junk in their respective pants for a couple of years until they graduate.

Thats just how it goes. If a lecturer at Uni slept with one of their pupils it would still be frowned upon (And quite rightly). And as for shit in high schools... Well, that is just borderline creepy.

Going through a few posts and it seems a lot of people agree with me. Which is good.

Its simple enough. Dont fuck your pupils cause if you do you might end up fucking your teaching career. Even if you are in love, what if they happen to be shit at exams? You failing them could fuck up your relationship, you not failing them could fuck up your career and their prospects. No matter what, shit will still get confused.

 

[MetalMagpie]

Duty of care. There's a power imbalance there, which poses a serious problem. Various jobs have rules against dating someone of less standing without the company, it's not unusual.

Basically this. In the UK, it's generally regarded as an abuse of authority. It's far too easy for the teacher to use their position to their advantage, even without meaning to.

In addition, there's the same conflict of interests that occurs when people date their boss. How is a teacher supposed to treat all of their students fairly when they're having a relationship with one of them?

I'm not saying it's not possible for teacher-student relationships to be completely free of abuse/conflict. But it's not much to ask that teachers at least wait until the kid they fancy finishes school.

> yes if the student is 15 or youner
> no if the student is 16 or older

Maybe I'm being thick, but what's the difference between those two options?

 

[Angie7F]

I think that if you are attracted there is nothing you can do to stop it.
However, you should never s@@t where you eat.
Regardless of whether you are a teacher or working in an office, you should stay away from stuff like that.

 

[Keith K]

If it's not statutory rape, then it's an obvious conflict of interest.

 

[Talaris]

Had to pick yes in the poll, as the 18 age limit was not an option. Once you are officially an adult I think it's fine, after all at 18 you are believed to be mature enough to make your own decisions, and that should include within relationships.

 

[Thaluikhain]

> yes if the student is 15 or youner
> no if the student is 16 or older

Maybe I'm being thick, but what's the difference between those two options?

Age of consent, if they are under 16 it's illegal. Which renders the whole thing irrelevant, it's like asking if gay couples should get be allowed to get married if one of them is 8 years old, a horse and dead.

 

[Lionsfan]

Every so often you'll hear about some teacher or NFL cheerleader getting throw in jail cause she made love to high school student somewhere. my question is though, why is this even a crime? i read a story once about a 24 year old teacher getting jail time for sleeping with her 21 year old student. I'm not saying that i want to see people sleeping with 13 old kids, thats gross. but when a person becomes oh 16, 17 and they getting to be horny as all get out, what should it matter how much older their lover is or even if its their teacher?

who hasn't wanted to date one of their teachers going up? i just dont understand what all the hallo unboo is about. maybe its cause that being 22 years old have only dated women 10-18 years older than me, that im not understanding this. It wasnt all that long ago that people used to get married at 15, 16 years old. if its consensual and no party is manipulating the other, then just treat it like every other relationship. no one should be doing jail time for who they love. there is nothing about this may december relationship that automatically make them wrong.

ps yes, the teachers shouldnt abuse their power but that also applies to every other case as well.

Could you please explain the stuff I bolded? Do you have a story for that, and how is that relevant to the thread?

 

[MetalMagpie]

> yes if the student is 15 or youner
> no if the student is 16 or older

Maybe I'm being thick, but what's the difference between those two options?

Age of consent, if they are under 16 it's illegal. Which renders the whole thing irrelevant, it's like asking if gay couples should get be allowed to get married if one of them is 8 years old, a horse and dead.

What I mean is, surely these two statements are equivalent to each other:

"It should be a crime if they're 15 or younger."
"It shouldn't be a crime if they're 16 or older."

Laying aside the whole issue of age of consent (which would make the first option a crime in the UK anyway) those two statements seem to be logically the same.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

If they were in love would both wait until the student was out of education. Teachers need to remain in a position where they cannot pick and choose favorites, not to mention you could just get people becoming educators so that they could touch up younger people. No love in the latter just wrong-ness (yeah I said it).

 

[Rblade]

because a teacher is in a position of power and thus there is no balance, the chance of it going wrong is simply to big to allow it.

 

[Thaluikhain]

What I mean is, surely these two statements are equivalent to each other:

"It should be a crime if they're 15 or younger."
"It shouldn't be a crime if they're 16 or older."

Laying aside the whole issue of age of consent (which would make the first option a crime in the UK anyway) those two statements seem to be logically the same.

Ah, right, fair enough.

 

[Seydaman]

It creates a bias. That would seem to be the main issue, now if the teacher in question is not an instructor to the specific student, then whatever.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Its professionally inappropiate. Also a teen could see a teacher as a great partner due to the fact they know ''all the answers''. It needs to remain appart at least till they graduate.