Poll: Would You Participate in Group Sex? (mature)

[Dr. Crawver]

honestly no, I'm in love, I can see myself marrying the girl, I wouldn't dare do anything that could jeopardise it. I also appear to be fiercely loyal, as when we were first starting out, she actually recommended that I "play around" a little, for practice or something (had a really bad break up 2 years prior, hadn't had sex since then, and my current girlfriend is the first one since), and I refused. She actually said this before we'd had sex together, so thankfully (I hope) this wasn't a comment on my performance, but even before I was madly in love with her, I refused. I just don't think I can see myself with more than one person, in separate sex, group sex or anything of the sort. Plus since I think I'll be proposing this year it would just be stupid of me to

 

[Amy Sorel]

I honestly just don't know.

 

[zama174]

Honestly, I think I would.. But really I can't say for sure until I am in that kind of situation..

 

[Nieroshai]

Personally, I don't find group sex to be all that sensible or practical.

From the disease-distribution perspective, group sex generates an exponential increase in infection risk. In one on one, you're not going to get infected by the girl you didn't sex because the girl you did sex also sexed the man that sexed the infected girl - at least, not in the same sitting. In group sex, there's not even a need for incubation, it only takes one diseased cell to infect you, you're just as likely to catch it straight from the same gender via a vector. Speaking of which, lesbian sex is actually a bit more dangerous [http://std.about.com/od/stdsspecificcommunities/a/lesbiansafesex.htm] than heterosexual due to belief contraceptives are unnecessary. In group sex, you'd best wear your contraceptives like you're wading into a small communal sewer: you demonstratively are.

From a social ramifications perspective, group sex introduces quite a number of awkward factors:

• - Exactly how serious is your relationship here? Apparently not much, seeing how apparently there's a need to double up.
  - Intimacy? Stop trying, darling, this is a public spectacle and you know it.
  - If you meet Ms. Right, would she take offense to having heard of your sorted past?
  - Whoops, somebody got pregnant... now, who's paying the child support?
  - What do you mean you won't submit to DNA testing and the state backs you up in saying I'm the legal father... nobody in either of our families have red-hair?
  - Yes, child I adore? Who's your father? About that... we're still deciding. Please stop cutting yourself.
  - Whoops, one bum contraceptive and it seems I got two people pregnant... uh, I can't afford that.
  - Hi mom and dad, long time no talk, so anyway, funny story...

From a pleasure standpoint, are more orifices better than one? I suppose you have the luxury of a comparison but, from a sheer technical standpoint, we're not a polygamous species. One on one is nice and intimate. Throwing more at it, you lose the intimacy, you're now put under social performance anxiety, and to do it all for an orgasm comes off as a little desperate.

Have I ever fantasized about being with more than 1 girl at a time? Sure, but fantasy is just that - unlike reality, my imaginary partners never have STDs and are my own personal harem. I prefer to keep my line between fantasy and reality in tact, as this tends to avoid a wide number of serious consequences. In the end, best leave group sex to porn stars, professionals who are well monetarily compensated to bear the realities of it [http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2009/06/at-least-16-previously-unpublicized-hiv-cases-in-porn-film-performers-public-health-officials-say.html] for us so we can enjoy the fantasies without that burden.

While I agree with you, I have a strong feeling you're going to be flamed and/or trolled shortly if you haven't been already. I've noticed that the more thoughtful and practical a post, the more liikely it is to be hated. That aside, responding to the comment that humans are monogamous by nature. Study after study comes out showing that couples that engage in sexual behavior also become attached emotionally to their partner. While a one-night stand wouldn't do this obviously, the mere intimacy of the act with someone that you know forms an almost familial bond. It's wired into our brains.
So to answer the topic myself, I'd never join in group sex because I'd feel like I was cheapening the act. That and I wouldn't know what to do...

 

[Nieroshai]

One time, I was in a spontaneous group thing with 11 other people. We had a house where several of us splint the rent, and it was close to a trendy downtown area. We'd bring girls home all the time.

This is pre 9/11, before teens got all goofy.

Anyhow, it wasn't the best sex I've ever had- there were too many distractions. But it is definitely a fond memory. I've also had two women to myself a few times, as well as assorted threesomes/foursomes/couples swaps.

All the sex I've had was well worth the genital herpes. About 1 in 5 people have this now, and the overwhelming majority don't know/have symptoms. Something else to consider if you plan on having group sex.

I doubt these unlikely statistics, and 47% of statistics are made up on the spot to "prove" a point. Also, I can't see herpes as something I'd want to live with and would feel worse than an asshole if I found out I gave it to someone else. There is a common strain of herpes, the kind that causes cold sores, but that's much like how the e coli in your intestines is different than the strain that causes food poisoning.

 

[Trucken]

Eh, probably not. Depending on the situation and people involved maybe, but it's not likely.

 

[Ben Legend]

Where's the option 'Yes, I already have'? ;P

 

[ultimateownage]

In concept yes, in reality no. It would just be really awkward. Also for everyone to get equally pleasured you'd need a fair balance of mostly bisexual people, and that'd probably make it even more awkward. Besides, there's only so many things you can do in group sex unless you don't mind sacrificing comfort.

 

[_Cake_]

The IDEA of two guys at once is hot... but the reality would probably turn out horrifically wrong. So no I will just save that one for masturbation material.

 

[Korolev]

No. Just no. I don't think it's wrong for people to enjoy that sort of thing, as long as all parties are consenting and are over the age of 18, then well, why not? I can't tell you what to do with your bodies, that's for you to decide.

But for me? No. I wouldn't like the idea. No real reason, I just know I wouldn't.

 

[Captain Pirate]

Maybe. If it was with a group of people I semi-knew. Like, not best or long time friends, otherwise it'd be awkward.
I'd feel pretty cheap afterward, so I wouldn't, probably.

 

[Angelus SnV]

My girlfriend and i actually have...twice...

Goin' into our relationship, i found out early she was attracted to girls too and told her (with complete honesty and with no ulterior motives) that since there were things she was sexually attracted to that i couldn't give her (the obvious body parts for starters, and th'fact that women just "feel different" (i've been told this by my many bisexual friends)), she could be with a girl as long as:

1) i knew about it each time
2) i knew about it BEFORE each event took place (don't tell me afterwards/while it's goin' on)
3) if she was havin' more sex with girls than she was with me we were done...this was simply because i honestly figured if she had to go outside the relationship on a regular basis to be sexually satisfied, then i wasn't doin' somethin' right and there was no reason for us to put off the inevitable (i've also been told i'm the most un-jealous person she's ever met simply because i once told her "you shouldn't be involved with me out of some kind of obligation; you should be with me because you want to be. If you ever wake up one mornin' and just decide you're not happy anymore, there's the door).

That bein' said, th'first time it happened (after her repeatedly tellin' me it was never goin' to...she even doubted that the whole "bein' with a girl" part would either since she was "over that part of her life"), it was completely by accident...a mutual (female) friend of ours, she, and i were all drunk and (to make a long story less-long) stuff just kinda happened. But it ended up with th'girlfriend hurt (she'd had a sunburn and the friend was...a lil' rough), and me disappointed (i didn't know what was ok and not and didn't wanna offend her, so i didn't do much)...it was pretty much th'same outcome for th'2nd go-round (although this time i DID know what was/wasn't ok, but th'friend was 100% focused on my girlfriend, so i got left out)...

Newayz, we've talked about it since then and while we haven't ruled it out, neither one of us is really lookin' for it anymore...and 'specially not with that friend...same outcome twice? Well insanity is defined by repeatin' th'same task over and over and expecting different results...so there y'go...


...btw...it just dawned on me that you said "group"...do 3-somes even count? If not, i just wasted a rumpload of everybody's time...sorry 'bout that...

 

[Woodsey]

Depends on how attractive they are and how willing.

Call me shallow if you like; I am.

Finally, someone I can relate to!

OT: If it was all/mostly women, then I believe my answer is as follows:

FUCK. YES.

Who would say no to that?!

 

[BlueSinbad]

Both me and my girlfriend want a threesome with a girl....I'm such a lucky guy

 

[Spacelord]

It doesn't appeal to me in the slightest.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

..well I actually already have, so yeeeeeeeeeah (Y)

 

[Duskwaith]

Id be up for it aslong as anyone did try and stick anything into me

 

[Whateveralot]

I realize I'm asking a group of largely men, and, well, I'm pretty sure I know the average answer already. .... But hey, lets be adults.

Don't tell people to be adult if you can hardly act so yourself.

But to clarify myself, I don't think I would. At the moment especially. I'm dating a girl and errr..

...how do I say this without being banned...

we do it like they do on the discovery channel. So we don't need more people. And I don't think I would do it. Unless it "feels alright". Which it won't because I actually care a great deal about sex. It's not just lust for me.