Poll: Would You Participate in Group Sex? (mature)

[Antonio Torrente]

Let's see no, why? because group sex disgusts me.
Sex should be done between two people who has love and intimacy with each other.
Call me old-fashioned but that's what my outlook on life is.
Another reason? I could get HIV and in the country I live (the Philippines) people with that kind of sickness are often discriminated, so I don't want to take risk.
If you say "but we will use protection" sorry no thanks.

 

[Estocavio]

No, then im even more likely to:

Get STDs
Get Robbed
Get Blackmailed
Get Assaulted
Get Aimlessly Teased
Get Some Other Illness Translated Through Physical Contact Of Any Kind.

Yeah, you have fun with your group sex.

Your points are valid but I'd like you to think from a different perspective.
* They are all tested for STD's.
* They are more or less friends or aquantiances.
* You have no reason to fear mugging or assaulted.
* Teasing is always good ~laughs~
* There is no chance for other sickness.

Now, would you do it if all points were safe?

Well, to go along with your concept we'll also assume id do anything remotely incriminating in front of even my best friends.
Hypothetically, if i would, id consider it if i got the first shot so i wouldnt have to risk contracting anything from the other male participants.

Assuming they too were tested and clear, and that for some reason i didnt have to frisk them and search the house for recording equipment (Im not kidding ), assuming all was good and well, then yes, i would if i felt like it at the time. Maybe.

 

[Togs]

I wanna make a devils threeway joke but cant think of one, so IM just gonna say not at all, it sounds a little freaky

 

[Proverbial Jon]

It's nice to see so many people here say that they wouldn't choose to have group sex based on the fact that they're in a loving/trusting relationship. Good on you guys/gals!

I too have a girlfriend who I love very much. We're both 23 and still virgins but do have a very intimate relationship. We're both a little awkward about the whole sex thing. So based on that, I doubt it would ever happen. It'll take us long enough to be comfortable with each other, let alone other people outside our relationship.

But saying that, she is bisexual (although prefers men) and I would say that I am more bi-curious (prefer women but might try men) so from a hypothetical standpoint, there would be a possibility. Realistically, probably never going to happen. And I'm just fine about that.

 

[ParkourMcGhee]

I've only had sex with girlfriends, and not sure how it would work outside of a relationship, but inside one, I'd just get too jealous. I can't do it. I want my special one to be special to me :/... guess I'm just a greedy, bad human.

 

[Wilko316]

I consider myself rather open sexually, I honestly wouldn't mind with one partner or 10 people there. Obviously there'd have to be protection involved and specific friends only, you know, some of my friends are alright but they have their dickhead moments.

Me being a virgin (17 though so I don't think there's any rush) I don't know why but I've always held love making to be a beautiful way of expressing your love for someone, like an art. I do, however, consider it to be just for pure recreational fun too in the right circumstances so hell yeah why not have group sex?

 

[Whateveralot]

I've only had sex with girlfriends, and not sure how it would work outside of a relationship, but inside one, I'd just get too jealous. I can't do it. I want my special one to be special to me :/... guess I'm just a greedy, bad human.

Saying you're greedy is both true and false at the same time.

You wouldn't want to share your girlfriend; but would you want her to be careless if you have sex with another girl? Of course not. It's not just taking, but also giving. That being equal on both you and your girlfriend means you can appreciate it; voiding any needs for group sex.

 

[duchaked]

uhhhhhhhhh like with two girls? maybe
with a girl and a dude? ummm ...err no

but ah I've been celibate for a year now and I'm good

 

[Death_Korps_Kommissar]

Woah the chance to disappoint more than one woman all at once..
Sign me up!!

But seriously.
I'm a pretty open minded guy and slightly bi-curious so I'll try most things once.
But as long as there aren't to many guys.
50:50 is fine, even 60:40 but if there are 20 guys and two women, then things get really, really weird =/

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I'd mostly think it would be too awkward. I'm shy enough as it is.

 

[Something Amyss]

I already have. Not exactly all it was cracked up to be.

 

[Nounverber]

Never have, but may be interested depending on the conditions.

Obviously, at least 50:50 guys/girls (the more girls the better, obviously )
Appropriate use of protection (or confidence that everyone's coming into it, err, pun intended, disease-free).

That being said, I'm married now, and I'm pretty sure my wife isn't interested in that kinda thing. And I'm OK with that.

CSB: I was offered a FFM threesome once, provided I could get the other (specific) girl in on it. Sadly, the girl who offered moved overseas before I could make that happen - shame, the other girl probably would've been up for it too (I ended up sleeping with them both, separately, so it wasn't a complete wash, I suppose).

 

[Jabberwock xeno]

You had me at "sex".

/no shame.

 

[geldonyetich]

I can tell you right now that you've missed the point with it.
First off, I am not monogamus of me. I have deep feelings for several people at the same time and I wouldn't mind at all to be in a 3-people relationship. So your claim about a relationship not being serious is frankly not correct. I do however suppose you were refering to those who label themselves as "Open Relationships" rather that Polygamic ones so I suppose you are correct in that aspect.

Who says intimacy can't be achived publically? If you kiss your partner out in the public passionately and lovingly, are you not intimate then? Are you just kissing your partner because your partner wanted to or because you want to show off?

Many of these are questions of differing personal beliefs, I'm not so naive to suggest all people feel the same on the matter, nor is there much chance anything I have to say will change their mind.

You might feel you're in a serious relationship if your partner inducts you into group sex, but I feel it's a bad sign if I'm not enough. You might feel you can be intimate in a group sex situation, but I sure don't feel that way.

Just asking because saying we're not a polygamous species is.. a bit silly honestly.

That would be silly - monogamy is a rare thing these days. What I was saying was, as pertains to group sex, we're not biologically designed for polygamous exchanges.

It seems to me that you're actually more scared about performing well and accidental pregnancy instead of just having a good time.

Without going to deeply into it, but do you always take sex so serious with your partner or do you make sure that you both have a fun and pleasant time?

Suffice to say, there's a difference between looking at sex as being a pleasurable and looking at sex as being a harmless entertainment. That difference being whether or not you realize it is an activity that carries great responsibility, whether you're ready for it or not.

I'm pretty sure that the people in such a group would be well aware to either use protection or proper prevention methods.

Such as not blowing their loads inside for example.

By the way, pulling out is fairly lousy birth control [http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm]. I highly recommend backing that up with additional birth control if you don't want any surprises, but be aware that no birth control is foolproof.

But, yes, some proponents of group sex suggest that it brings about a higher likelihood that the proper contraceptives will be used because somebody will remember to bring some. Personally, I think that this is more than balanced out by the higher risk involved, but it would be hard to scientifically prove on an instance to instance basis.

While I agree with you, I have a strong feeling you're going to be flamed and/or trolled shortly if you haven't been already. I've noticed that the more thoughtful and practical a post, the more liikely it is to be hated.

I'm probably pretty safe. I'm pretty sure most people realize that at lot of what I said can be heard from doctors, psychologists, and social workers who have to deal with the fallout of it.

 

[warm slurm]

I dunno. If I was 100% certain they were "clean", then maybe. I wouldn't have sex with a girl/guy, though, it'd have to be guy/guy.

 

[Arawn.Chernobog]

Have done, it's fun.

Just make sure you know the people you're doing it with, wear protection and enjoy it.

PS: Also, Male here

PPS: There's a lot of fear in the heterosexual male community of "other men" in the scenario, there's no reason to fear it, trust me.

 

[Stasisesque]

While I agree with you, I have a strong feeling you're going to be flamed and/or trolled shortly if you haven't been already. I've noticed that the more thoughtful and practical a post, the more liikely it is to be hated.

I'm probably pretty safe. I'm pretty sure most people realize that this is the same thing you're going to hear from doctors, psychologists, and social workers who have to deal with the fallout of it.

I've never heard a doctor, a psychologist or a social worker say anything of the sort. Correct protection, yes certainly, but that is not at all difficult to achieve if you are sensible and in control of your own body. There are many, many contraceptive methods available especially for women: condoms, female condoms, diaphragms, The Pill, patches, injections, implants, dental dams etc. etc. and so forth.

Information on these is easily found online, or from your GP, family practice - information is everywhere, and everyone should be educated in the pros and cons of each and every one of them.

In one-on-one sex with a longterm trusted partner, it is often likely physical barriers will be done away with - things like The Pill are effective as a singular method. Personally, condoms are always in use - they're fantastic protection against STDs (for any sexual contact, not just vaginal intercourse) and offer peace of mind, i.e. you can see evidence of not becoming pregnant.

As long as you are sensible, safe, clean or at the very least preventing others from becoming unclean, and have the correct mindset, sex is utterly harmless. If, however, you end up psychologically scarred from sex I would humbly suggest you have deeper problems which need to be addressed before you go around sleeping with any Tom, Dick, Harry or their female counterparts. Group sex may carry an increased risk of disease or pregnancy due to the high capacity of participants, but the damage is easily preventable without abstaining completely.

 

[geldonyetich]

While I agree with you, I have a strong feeling you're going to be flamed and/or trolled shortly if you haven't been already. I've noticed that the more thoughtful and practical a post, the more liikely it is to be hated.

I'm probably pretty safe. I'm pretty sure most people realize that this is the same thing you're going to hear from doctors, psychologists, and social workers who have to deal with the fallout of it.

I've never heard a doctor, a psychologist or a social worker say anything of the sort. Correct protection, yes certainly, but that is not at all difficult to achieve if you are sensible and in control of your own body. There are many, many contraceptive methods available especially for women: condoms, female condoms, diaphragms, The Pill, patches, injections, implants, dental dams etc. etc. and so forth.

What did you think I said?

Granted, they would be fools to say there's such a thing as a foolproof contraceptive - you can research any one and see that accidents happen. Nor would anyone worth their PhD suggest that group sex is as safe as the alternative, it takes only a basic understanding of biology to realize that that what's involved in that exchange is an exponentially greater risk.

However, there's a difference between that and saying you'd better not use contraceptives - that kind of foolishness is something I'd expect out of the Catholic church [http://www.lisashea.com/lisabase/aboutme/birthcontrol.html], but not from me, nor from a health professional. No, by all means, use contraceptives if you get involved in group sex. Technically speaking, it'd be prudent to use more than usual.