Poll: "You brought condoms, right?"

[CapnGod]

I love how some people have taken this from a "who should bring 'em" to a "contraceptives are bad" thread, ignoring the fact that the original poster's thread pretty much took abstinence off the table and wanted to figure out who should bring the rubbers.

Khell, good for you. I don't know how you do it. I really don't.

As for the pill, well, it almost ruined my relationship. And it was due to exactly what you were saying about fucking with body chemistry. We've since switched to a hormone free birth control, which has been a hell of a lot better. Neither of us like condoms, though, so those aren't much an option.

 

[Emperor Inferno]

I think since you're the one who's going to be using it, you should get the condom.

 

[JMeganSnow]

It is the responsibility of both to bring the condoms, but usually this devolves on the man because he is (presumably) the one that will be more put out if the woman says "Well, we just won't have sex then." The WOMAN'S primary responsibility is to have enough brains to say "Well, we just won't have sex then" if condoms do not materialize.

 

[Nostalgia]

You definitely can't ignore urges, but you can suppress them well enough. I do not believe instinctual habit takes up so much of an affect to ignore the consequences, especially with how things are (in the US, at least). People who let urges get the best of them are, sorry to say, not all too smart in the first place.
That being said, abstinence is the best possible way to insure that you contract no STI/STD's or become pregnant, but as you said, it sucks as a method. I don't understand abstinence schooling of any kind. No amount of teaching will make a kid have enough will-power to practice it.

I'm sure you heard about the Pope's opposition on condoms for the AIDS epidemic in Africa. How silly.

Big Brain, Little Brain, Nostalgia... There's urges, and URGES... We all suppress sexual desire all day, every day, from the moment we hit puberty to the day we grow old and flaccid. It's what keeps most of us from whipping it out in public when a hottie walks by, keeps most people from becoming rapists, and again most of us don't crawl all over our mates in public. But there is a great difference between suppressing sexual urges when out and about, and suppressing them when you're alone with your girlfriend. You two find yourselves alone on the couch watching a movie, both of you sworn to abstinence, even have those retarded fucking purity rings, but it doesn't matter. She curls up on the couch, her head in your lap, and you catch a glimpse of her cleavage... Big brain shuts down, all thoughts of abstinence are gone like cake in a weight-watchers gym, and little brain begins to take over.

Now things would still be fine, if these two lovebirds were properly informed about sexual health and prevention, but their parents are hardcore fundies and their school has an Abstinence-Only approach to sex ed. Guess who's getting pregnant...

Oh, and Darth Benedictus is a fucking retard. Abstinence for Africa? That's like pitching the idea of time-shares to Cubans.

I never had such URGES, but I guess being female is the reason for that. I was agreeing with you in a sense, Khell. (also what you said about the pill, I agree with as well)
But like I said, if there is enough will-power and apathy, you can definitely suppress it. I am not supporting abstinence schooling in anyway, trust me.

 

[axelmaxima]

I feel that both sides should be ready for anything, a both bring a love glove. this way no one can be bitched out in the end. and sexism is wrong.

 

[TheCheryl]

A guy can go in and buy condoms and get a thumbs up at the checkout.
A girl can go in and buy condoms and be called a slut behind her back at checkout.

Penis covers are a man's problem. I already have to go in and get violated at the gyno to get the pill.

Though use them in combo, trust me, my best friend was on the pill and the guy didn't bother with condoms. She had twins from that.

Another way of looking at it: Guy's don't like going in and buying tampons/maxis for their girlfriend. It's pretty much the same thing, both are reproductive paraphernalia.

 

[Chibz]

Who's job is it to bring condom(s)? The person who plans on initiating. Or, you could as a couple just pitch in and buy a box mutually.

 

[TheCheryl]

Khell, good for you. I don't know how you do it. I really don't.

Lots of pornography, and becoming more and more of a perv as the years pass.

A guy can go in and buy condoms and get a thumbs up at the checkout.
A girl can go in and buy condoms and be called a slut behind her back at checkout.

Penis covers are a man's problem. I already have to go in and get violated at the gyno to get the pill.

Though use them in combo, trust me, my best friend was on the pill and the guy didn't bother with condoms. She had twins from that.

Another way of looking at it: Guy's don't like going in and buying tampons/maxis for their girlfriend. It's pretty much the same thing, both are reproductive paraphernalia.

There seems to be some misconception here that A) store clerks are all prudish dinosaurs who still mentally live in the 1800s and consider sex to be an unnatural, sinful thing, and B) store clerks pay attention and/or give a shit about who's buying what.

I've worked two jobs where we sold condoms. If someone asked for a box of rubbers, male or female, I didn't pay it any special attention. I never high-fived a guy, or scowled at a girl for it. If the guy was all boastful about goin to get laid, it was "yeah whatever". And I've purchased condoms quite a lot (before anyone goes "hey, but you said you were a virgin" let me just clarify, it's cleaner and easier than a sock or kleenex). The cashiers have never paid it any mind... It helps that I buy them at Shoppers Drug Mart, because they are a pharmacy first, retail second, and they are totally trained not to embarrass their customers, but even at a convenience store or grocery store it's never been a big deal.

And I have also had to purchase both tampons and pads for friends and family members before. It's really not a big deal, not the big embarrassment that some people (and one episode of King of the Hill) makes it out to be. The first time, yeah, because you expect they're going to make fun of it (also the shock of just how many different products there are, if they weren't specific to what they wanted). But once you realize nobody gives a shit, you also realize there's no reason to be so uptight about it.

So whining that people secretly call you a slut for buying condoms, get over yourself. The cashiers really don't care, and they aren't surprised or appalled by the sight of a woman buying condoms nor are they by a guy buying some maxis. Really, all they care about is how many more hours until they get to go home, and trying to remember what things they have to pick up on their way home.

Yes it's a misconception. A typical one too. Do I share it? Not really, but I am putting it out there.

 

[CRAVE CASE 55]

I always keep one in my trusty ACDC wallet.

 

[AndresCL]

Abstinence is the best form of protection.

Trolling or 'Tarded? I seriously can't tell.

Abstinence as a birth control method has proven to be the single worst method since "pulling out". The church's whole idea that one can simply ignore sexual urges is based on faith, not science. In a battle between self-control and natural instincts, instincts win. Either they fail to abstain, or they compromise with "alternate" acts that aren't vaginal penetration, but run all the same risks for disease.

Condoms remain the single, indisputable, most effective form of birth control and sexual disease prevention in the world. Proper sex education takes second place, because it teaches kids to use condoms, and third place would be the pill, which works most of the time when taken properly, but not 100% effective for all women and has nasty side effects for many.

Both, but i was about to say "Hey! You have the dick"

And she has the ****, congratulations you just learned the same facts of life they taught me in kindergarten. Men have one half of the equation, that means they have one half of the responsibility. And there are also specifically female-designed condoms (well, one model by Reality so far, haven't seen other brands). So if we are going with a gender determination, guys bring the traditional condom, ladies, you bring the female condom, and you can fight over which to use when you get the pants off.

Both was my main answer... and my vote

 

[ontherisess]

whoever wants to. If the mans willing to do it without but the woman wants it with the woman should bring one, same if the mans wants to do it with but the woman doesn't.

 

[Daye.04]

whoever wants to. If the mans willing to do it without but the woman wants it with the woman should bring one, same if the mans wants to do it with but the woman doesn't.

You revived the thread to say that? Allright ...

But if you did it instead of making a new thread, then thanks =P

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Condoms are the only form of birth control a man can be responsible for. Men also have practically no rights in the case of an unwanted pregnancy. If a guy's smart, he'll bring condoms and use them properly. Because if your girl forgets a pill, or lies, you want to have *something* as backup.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Abstinence is the best form of protection.

That's like saying "the best way not to die while going mountain climbing is to not go mountain climbing." Sure, you're right, but if you're going to be climbing a few mountain's anyway - let's say you really want to go on a mountain climbing getaway - it's not really a lot of help, is it? By that logic, we should all stay indoors 100% of the time because doing nothing is the best protection from any hazard.

Abstinence isn't "protection." It's non participation. There's a world of difference.

 

[CuddlyCombine]

Don't be silly, condoms are a method of spreading AIDS to heathen scum!

In reality, though, I'd say do it just in case the other person hasn't brought them. It'd suck if the time came and you were left uncovered.

 

[pffh]

here's a quick tip for both men and women ALWAYS carry a condom. You never know when you are going to need one and it's better to have one and not need it then to need one and not have it.