Poll: "You brought condoms, right?"

[CapnGod]

If someone really sticks to abstinence, it'll work. It's when someone decides that they do indeed want to have sex that it's inadequate, and require a little knowledge.

People who say otherwise are faulting humans but blaming the method. Let's just set the record straight on that little issue.

Furthermore, this is not a thread about abstinence, and basically sounds like trolling. Contribute constructively to the original poster's question. That means weighing in on who should be the responsible party when two people decide to have sex and provide the protection.

Abstinence is already off the table in this discussion, people.

I've already said it a time or two before, but this sort of thing can't be stressed enough: take responsibility for yourself and bring your own condoms. It's the old Boy Scout motto: Be Prepared.

 

[Xander391]

Hi all,

I am a Youth Worker (only 20 mind you) i do Sex and Relationships work with Young People so to start with lets just say if you are religious and your religion states no use of contraception then thats ok lets not argue the point any longer.

At the end of the day the guy has to tool so id say its a little more his responsibility but that doesn't mean that the girls shouldn't have a stash of their own!

As to my view of condoms, I think they are an essential part of sex and providing you get the right kind they can make sex MORE fun, for example using flavoured condoms for oral or (if you know where to get them) dental Dams for oral with a Woman, ribbed / dotted condoms to enhance pleasure for both parties.
When you look at the statistics in the UK for the numbers of Young People 15 - 24 who are sexually active 1 in 10 have Chlamydia and you don't have to have penetrative sex to catch this STI and it presents no symptoms in 50% of Men and 80% of Women

Have Great and Safe Sex

Xander

 

[MelziGurl]

I find it kinda pointless to try teaching abstinence to todays generations. Rather, sharing a little knowledge on the subject would help teens understand the pros and cons. Parents shouldn't be afraid to give the sex talk, yes it's awkward (my dad tried ONCE) but mum took over that task thank god. But it was good to know my dad showed his concern. Mum went as far as to even say she'd support me if I fell pregnant. Each teen is going to be different though, I wasn't interested in sex during high school much less the boys I went to school with. I must admit though, the pregnancy comment was probably what threw off any thoughts of sex.

 

[new_age_reject]

I've always thought that the guy should always take a condom, but it should be equal responsibility for the woman to bring one, or to be on the pill or w/e.

 

[OMGFridge]

Mans but if the Girl does to then I guess you're saving money.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Eh, I don't trust females with condoms, for some odd reason.

I'm afraid that they're going to perforate it through the packaging (with a needle, say), and then cock-trap me into marriage. So yeah, I bring my own.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Eh, I don't trust females with condoms, for some odd reason.

I'm afraid that they're going to perforate it through the packaging (with a needle, say), and then cock-trap me into marriage. So yeah, I bring my own.

Yeah, but what's to keep them from taking your discarded rubber from the trash and up-ending it into the wizard sleeve while you're sleeping it off? Forget what movie I saw that in, Fear I think.

OH, SHIT. Time to start burning the bastards.

 

[GRoXERs]

Eh, I don't trust females with condoms, for some odd reason.

I'm afraid that they're going to perforate it through the packaging (with a needle, say), and then cock-trap me into marriage. So yeah, I bring my own.

Yeah, but what's to keep them from taking your discarded rubber from the trash and up-ending it into the wizard sleeve while you're sleeping it off? Forget what movie I saw that in, Fear I think.

OH, SHIT. Time to start burning the bastards.

That's... horrible. Also, terrifying.

I notice you assume that you are a desirable target for "cock-trapping into marriage."
Oh well, healthy ego's a plus, I guess.

 

[Monkey Ninja]

Id say both.

Also to the poster above worried about girls potentially fishing a condom out of the bin so she can knock herself up... there are condoms with spermicidal agents on the inside of the condom as well.

Im still waiting on the male contraceptive solutions we were promised a few years back. I don't even want to think of myself as a father for another ten years.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Eh, I don't trust females with condoms, for some odd reason.

I'm afraid that they're going to perforate it through the packaging (with a needle, say), and then cock-trap me into marriage. So yeah, I bring my own.

Yeah, but what's to keep them from taking your discarded rubber from the trash and up-ending it into the wizard sleeve while you're sleeping it off? Forget what movie I saw that in, Fear I think.

OH, SHIT. Time to start burning the bastards.

That's... horrible. Also, terrifying.

I notice you assume that you are a desirable target for "cock-trapping into marriage."
Oh well, healthy ego's a plus, I guess.

I blame the school systems. They told all of us miserable little bastards that we're special and equal at the same time, so naturally, hearing that all of my life has made me into an egotistical monstrosity.

 

[Nostalgia]

I say men. Why? There's next to zero social stigma surrounding it. A man has a pack of condoms in his wallet, or back pocket, thats cool with everyone. He's smart, and thinking ahead. A girl, with the same pack, is a slut. Now, thats a complete generalization, but I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this. If it's more socially acceptable, and therefore less awkward for girls if I just pack a rubber, I'm down.

And who said chivalry was dead?

Sex is general seems to be like this.

Oh and about the girl having sex without carrying condoms. That shit's insane. There is a couple of cases here in Norway, where I've encountered (Read:had a friends friend or something have that happened to them) that the girl said she used the pill, to make him not use condoms. And then she got pregnand, and gave birth. Despite the will of the guy. And you know why? Because then she'll get money from him. Absurd, I know.

I hear about this a lot. Seems like a lot of trouble to go through to swindle money from someone, considering pregnancy, child birth, and then the pain of raising it afterwards. No offense, but your friend's friend was pretty stupid to trust someone like that, even though he didn't expect it. The whole concept is bat-shit insane.

 

[Rigs83]

Both because you can never be too safe, unless you are actually in a safe that's been sealed shut thus cutting of your oxygen. In that unlikely scenario you are too safe.

 

[MURPHYCHACHO]

Both of you want to avoid getting her pregnant, right?

Both of you want to avoid getting an STD, right?

Then both of you should bring condoms. It's just common sense. Girls should bring them too, (I carry one in my purse) just so we're covered in any scenario. Suppose one of you forgets to bring them? Then you don't have to forgo sex for the evening or, God help us, do it unprotected. I would also recommend that your girl get on the pill, just as an extra precaution.

 

[MrNixon21]

If you're in a relationship, it's easier to talk about how you want to handle it. I recommend the pill. It's SOOOOOOO much easier . . . and better.

But for now, you should always be prepared. Even though I think she should have something just in case (precisely because she could get pregnant if she neglects birth control), you don't want her getting pregnant just as much as she wants to avoid it as well. Better safe than sorry.

. . . but seriously, dude. If you make sex a regular part of your relationship, you should talk about her getting on the pill. Just think about it

 

[Nostalgia]

Abstinence is the best form of protection.

Trolling or 'Tarded? I seriously can't tell.

Abstinence as a birth control method has proven to be the single worst method since "pulling out". The church's whole idea that one can simply ignore sexual urges is based on faith, not science. In a battle between self-control and natural instincts, instincts win. Either they fail to abstain, or they compromise with "alternate" acts that aren't vaginal penetration, but run all the same risks for disease.

You definitely can't ignore urges, but you can suppress them well enough. I do not believe instinctual habit takes up so much of an affect to ignore the consequences, especially with how things are (in the US, at least). People who let urges get the best of them are, sorry to say, not all too smart in the first place.
That being said, abstinence is the best possible way to insure that you contract no STI/STD's or become pregnant, but as you said, it sucks as a method. I don't understand abstinence schooling of any kind. No amount of teaching will make a kid have enough will-power to practice it.

I'm sure you heard about the Pope's opposition on condoms for the AIDS epidemic in Africa. How silly.

 

[Shinny_Explosions]

If your gonna dont use a condom use a sharp metal object instead it cuts the clothing easier! Lol just JOKING, um....prob dosnt matter as long as both of you want to, mostly it in the hands of those who are more scared of not using one....

 

[Shinny_Explosions]

Abstinence is the best form of protection.

You definitely can't ignore urges, but you can suppress them well enough. I do not believe instinctual habit takes up so much of an affect to ignore the consequences, especially with how things are (in the US, at least). People who let urges get the best of them are, sorry to say, not all too smart in the first place.
That being said, abstinence is the best possible way to insure that you contract no STI/STD's or become pregnant, but as you said, it sucks as a method. I don't understand abstinence schooling of any kind. No amount of teaching will make a kid have enough will-power to practice it.

I'm sure you heard about the Pope's opposition on condoms for the AIDS epidemic in Africa. How silly.[/quote]
If you can get the idea that it will destroy their lives in multiple ways you just might there are "those" (me being one) out there that choose to wait until if and when they become married. Granted the whole idea SUCKS! at times it also is easier to me in the long run because of all that bull that goes with the "ACT" of it!