Poll: "You brought condoms, right?"

[CapnGod]

i understand why both should, and i can only justify me bringing them, because if the other does one, what if its the wrong size

You should always have a condom. Period.

Unless she's on hers. Zing!

Actually, that's what my girlfriend and I used to do before she was on birth control. A little messy, and takes some forethought to keep from messing up the sheets, but felt a hell of a lot better than using a rubber.

yeah, my brother got his ex prego when she was on her period, and the egg got stuck somewhere and if it were to have grown and been born, she would have died, so i learned that if i do it when shes on her period, use a condom too

We timed it with her flow, though. Toward the end of her period, I wrapped up again. But for that day or two when we were fairly sure, man... like rabbits, ok? Like rabbits.

 

[Dantes Alaska]

i understand why both should, and i can only justify me bringing them, because if the other does one, what if its the wrong size

You should always have a condom. Period.

Unless she's on hers. Zing!

Actually, that's what my girlfriend and I used to do before she was on birth control. A little messy, and takes some forethought to keep from messing up the sheets, but felt a hell of a lot better than using a rubber.

yeah, my brother got his ex prego when she was on her period, and the egg got stuck somewhere and if it were to have grown and been born, she would have died, so i learned that if i do it when shes on her period, use a condom too

We timed it with her flow, though. Toward the end of her period, I wrapped up again. But for that day or two when we were fairly sure, man... like rabbits, ok? Like rabbits.

alright man, im not saying you are wrong or anything

but in all truth on my side, i have had sex, but i havent used a condom before, always ment to but just couldnt get them, granted i have only done it say 10 or so times, but idk my size to start buying them, and by the time i had money or a way to get them, we had broken up and i never got a chance to get any, and we never did it on her peroid.

 

[CapnGod]

Spoiler

i understand why both should, and i can only justify me bringing them, because if the other does one, what if its the wrong size

You should always have a condom. Period.

Unless she's on hers. Zing!

Actually, that's what my girlfriend and I used to do before she was on birth control. A little messy, and takes some forethought to keep from messing up the sheets, but felt a hell of a lot better than using a rubber.

yeah, my brother got his ex prego when she was on her period, and the egg got stuck somewhere and if it were to have grown and been born, she would have died, so i learned that if i do it when shes on her period, use a condom too

We timed it with her flow, though. Toward the end of her period, I wrapped up again. But for that day or two when we were fairly sure, man... like rabbits, ok? Like rabbits.

alright man, im not saying you are wrong or anything

but in all truth on my side, i have had sex, but i havent used a condom before, always ment to but just couldnt get them, granted i have only done it say 10 or so times, but idk my size to start buying them, and by the time i had money or a way to get them, we had broken up and i never got a chance to get any, and we never did it on her peroid.

First two times I did were entirely spontaneous and we didn't use condoms, either. As far as size, though, a regular condom will stretch well up your forearm. It's pretty much sufficient for most men.

Reminds me of a joke. You've never seen the serial number they print on condoms? Never had to unroll them that far, huh?

 

[SenseOfTumour]

I'd like her to have them too, but I'll always have them.

This might sound strange, but to me, kids are the scariest STD I've ever heard of, and if I'm ever inflicted with one of them, I don't know what I'd do!

No disrespect meant to anyone, but personally the idea of being a father freaks me out no end.

Mere death doesn't spook me half as much as pretending the picture on the fridge is actually good every time the kid is in the kitchen, or that I'm really interested in watching Barney for the 17th time that day.

 

[SimuLord]

Reminds me of a joke. You've never seen the serial number they print on condoms? Never had to unroll them that far, huh?

Which in turn reminds me of a joke. A guy was dating a girl named Wendy and got her name tattooed on his erect whangdoodle. Trouble was, when his Spear of Odin was flaccid, all you could see was "WY".

So the guy's in a public restroom and sees a black dude walk up next to him. Out of curiosity he looks over and sees "WY" on the black guy's Magic Johnson and says "So your girlfriend is named Wendy too?" And the black guy says "No, mine says Welcome to Jamaica mon, I hope you have a nice day."

 

[Dantes Alaska]

Spoiler

i understand why both should, and i can only justify me bringing them, because if the other does one, what if its the wrong size

You should always have a condom. Period.

Unless she's on hers. Zing!

Actually, that's what my girlfriend and I used to do before she was on birth control. A little messy, and takes some forethought to keep from messing up the sheets, but felt a hell of a lot better than using a rubber.

yeah, my brother got his ex prego when she was on her period, and the egg got stuck somewhere and if it were to have grown and been born, she would have died, so i learned that if i do it when shes on her period, use a condom too

We timed it with her flow, though. Toward the end of her period, I wrapped up again. But for that day or two when we were fairly sure, man... like rabbits, ok? Like rabbits.

alright man, im not saying you are wrong or anything

but in all truth on my side, i have had sex, but i havent used a condom before, always ment to but just couldnt get them, granted i have only done it say 10 or so times, but idk my size to start buying them, and by the time i had money or a way to get them, we had broken up and i never got a chance to get any, and we never did it on her peroid.

First two times I did were entirely spontaneous and we didn't use condoms, either. As far as size, though, a regular condom will stretch well up your forearm. It's pretty much sufficient for most men.

Reminds me of a joke. You've never seen the serial number they print on condoms? Never had to unroll them that far, huh?

well for me it was always spontaneous and to distant from each other to really know when to have one, im still mad that i didnt get laid on prom night because her bff got locked out so she had to stay with my ex

 

[Phyroxis]

When in doubt rub it out.

 

[Labyrinth]

I say everyone should carry them. It's not a matter of "YOU MUST!!!" but it's a good idea to do so. To lay it at the feet of one gender is not only a tad silly, but also quite discriminatory.

That said, I've heard tell of people who get roused on because carrying condoms is apparently a sign that they expect sex. I really hate that view, I mean really. It's like saying that when wearing a helmet or a safety belt while travelling you expect to be in a crash.

 

[Dantes Alaska]

I say everyone should carry them. It's not a matter of "YOU MUST!!!" but it's a good idea to do so. To lay it at the feet of one gender is not only a tad silly, but also quite discriminatory.

That said, I've heard tell of people who get roused on because carrying condoms is apparently a sign that they expect sex. I really hate that view, I mean really. It's like saying that when wearing a helmet or a safety belt while travelling you expect to be in a crash.

like a gun, you'd rather have it and not need it, then need it and not have it

 

[Curiosity's Cat]

Both. it's not about gender, it's about taking responsibility for your own sexual health.

 

[vid20]

Both for sure; there is just as much onus on a girl to be responsible about it as a guy. Most of my close female friends carry condoms on them for those 'just in case' moments.

 

[CapnGod]

Good for the women out there who do, but again, guys, there are some unscrupulous women out there. Don't trust anyone else to watch your back. Bring your own rubber. Have two, at least. One latex, and one urethane. Also helps if one gets fucked up.

 

[Blow_Pop]

both partners should have them it shouldn't be the responsibility of just one person. and the girl should have other means of birth control as well as condoms.

I forgot to mention I agree that there is no such thing as "too much protection."

i do when guys think its wise to put two condoms on....but otherwise no.

 

[Willwillwritehiswill]

Hehe this thread reminds me of my time at woolworths. Some kids came into the store and were milling near the counter in a hushed group. Eventually one of them gets nominated to go over and almost whispers to me "excuse me, do you have any.... condoms...?" quick as a flash, i reply, as loudly as possible "CONDOMS!? no mate you'll have to go to boots for CONDOMS!"
I have never seen anyone look that embarressed. Old ladies look at him in disgust.

 

[Sewblon]

Just subject yourself to stress, strange diets and aberrant sleep schedules until you become asexual. It worked for me

 

[Fronken]

XD Most definitely.

So yeah, I'll deal with being slightly bi-polar than have to deal with trying to have a child when both my boyfriend and I aren't financially stable. Hell, we're in our early 20s. I just refuse to be one of those young, struggling parents. I'd never want to raise a kid up in that kind of environment.

I know how you feel, people in their early 20's/late teens shouldnt have children really, unless they somehow are very stable, which is why i dont want a child until my late 20's/early 30's, cause by then ones economic senses have been tuned and i feel that you should have enough of a nestegg to support a child in the right manner.

Just subject yourself to stress, strange diets and aberrant sleep schedules until you become asexual. It worked for me

Well, that does sound like it would work, only thing is that i dont want to become asexual now that i actually have a girlfriend xD, i wouldnt have minded it if i were still single but now that isnt really an option for me ^^

I say everyone should carry them. It's not a matter of "YOU MUST!!!" but it's a good idea to do so. To lay it at the feet of one gender is not only a tad silly, but also quite discriminatory.

That said, I've heard tell of people who get roused on because carrying condoms is apparently a sign that they expect sex. I really hate that view, I mean really. It's like saying that when wearing a helmet or a safety belt while travelling you expect to be in a crash.

I do see your point, but i kinda understand what they'r talking about when it comes to having condoms on you, i mean take me for example, im off to the girl i've met later this afternoon and im probably gonna spend the night at her place, but im not sure if she wants sex or if she just wants to cuddle all night, so bringing condoms is a good thing as it might happen...But, if she doesnt want to have sex this early on, and she see's me coming to her place with condoms, that might indicate that im there for the sex, and i understand that misconception.

So yeah, its always good to carry atleast 1 condom on you, but it can send the wrong message ^^

 

[Gitsnik]

Why would you ever date anyone with an STD?

You don't always know. Glandular Fever, Herpes and some others don't even manifest all the time. If you have the right reaction and/or infections in you, you get the illness. It's not then their fault.

There's also the issue of not being sure that the man/woman is keeping themselves clean enough. I can think of a couple of times I had to walk out after a Friday night liason because of hither-to-unnoticed hygiene issues.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I just recently started dating this girl and i've really taken a shine to her, and she's taken a shine to me as well, so at this point it seems that sex is inevitable.

I am asking this because i got curious about what people think after a talk i had with a female friend about the subject, she thought that it was the womans job to bring them and i thought it was the mans job.

My question for you, The sexually active part of The Escapist is as follows:

Who's responsibility is it to bring a condom?

Is it the Man who should bring it?
This is from what i know the most popular thought about the subject, that it's the guys obligation to bring condoms if a sexual act is probable, because it is a part of him that its going to cover.

Is it the Woman who should bring it?
Sure, it's the woman who can suffer the biggest side-effect from sex (pregnancy), but many people still believe that it's the womans obligation to bring them seeing as it is her choice if the sexual act will happen or not.

Is it Both who should bring it?
This makes very much sense, seeing as both partners will be a part of the act itself, but from what i know not alot of people think that both should have the responsibility for being protected.

What are your thought on the subject of Condoms?

I think you put WAAAAAAY too much thought into that one