Poll: "You brought condoms, right?"

[AndyVale]

It's always good to have them on you just in case. REgardless of the gender, it just shows you're abiding by the old boy scout motto of 'Be Prepared.'

I'm sure someone has already said something along the lines of "If you both bring them, you can have twice the fun!"

 

[Airhead]

You do realize the Pope will be very disappointed when he finds about this thread?

I have already consulted my personal god and MacGyver did approve of this thread being created.

Now that you mention it, I wonder what MacGyver could do with a condom. I bet it would involve saving the Earth and/or something getting blown up.

 

[Fronken]

I just recently started dating this girl and i've really taken a shine to her, and she's taken a shine to me as well, so at this point it seems that sex is inevitable.

I am asking this because i got curious about what people think after a talk i had with a female friend about the subject, she thought that it was the womans job to bring them and i thought it was the mans job.

My question for you, The sexually active part of The Escapist is as follows:

Who's responsibility is it to bring a condom?

Is it the Man who should bring it?
This is from what i know the most popular thought about the subject, that it's the guys obligation to bring condoms if a sexual act is probable, because it is a part of him that its going to cover.

Is it the Woman who should bring it?
Sure, it's the woman who can suffer the biggest side-effect from sex (pregnancy), but many people still believe that it's the womans obligation to bring them seeing as it is her choice if the sexual act will happen or not.

Is it Both who should bring it?
This makes very much sense, seeing as both partners will be a part of the act itself, but from what i know not alot of people think that both should have the responsibility for being protected.

What are your thought on the subject of Condoms?

I think you put WAAAAAAY too much thought into that one

Not really, i was simply curious as to what the general belief on the subject was...as i said in my original post.

 

[Gitsnik]

You do realize the Pope will be very disappointed when he finds about this thread?

I have already consulted my personal god and MacGyver did approve of this thread being created.

Now that you mention it, I wonder what MacGyver could do with a condom. I bet it would involve saving the Earth and/or something getting blown up.

Boil it and stretch it over the front of a mini.

err. I mean.

*slinks into the corner*

 

[Fronken]

You do realize the Pope will be very disappointed when he finds about this thread?

I have already consulted my personal god and MacGyver did approve of this thread being created.

Now that you mention it, I wonder what MacGyver could do with a condom. I bet it would involve saving the Earth and/or something getting blown up.

The all-mighty Angus MacGyver works in mysterious ways indeed. ^^

 

[the_tramp]

I think both, purely from a financial basis (I work in Finance, shut up) - I believe that both parties are benefiting and therefore they should both contribute.

Stupid story alert
One of my housemates is a girl, who has recently started having sex with her boyfriend. For some reason another housemate (also male) and I brought up the conversation of whether she has a secret stash of condoms in case he doesn't have any. She replied 'No, why should it be my responsibility'. We brought up the case (which is quite often) of when she gets absolutely wasted and ends up back in her room with him, what happens if they want sex but he doesn't have any condoms. 'Well we just won't have sex'. I called bullshit, and it turned out that this situation had actually happened a few weeks ago, they just had sex anyway. She couldn't see why she should buy the condoms, despite them both participating. 'Well, sex isn't that important to me really, I can go without'.

This conversation went around in circles for a couple more times...

idiot

 

[Gitsnik]

'Well, sex isn't that important to me really, I can go without'.

Wait till she's not getting any from him, then it'll become important and you can be really smug about it.

I actually think it's the mans responsibility (did I mention that earlier? I don't think I did), though I think the woman should be taking measures as well. Especially if we're talking casual Friday night liaisons.

 

[PhoenixFire31]

Both. If she has them then yeah, you're in like flin lol. But you should have em too in case she is out of in case it is more spontaneous than she thought. And as said before, if you both have em.....double the fun! =)

 

[Specter_]

Is it Both who should bring it?
This makes very much sense, seeing as both partners will be a part of the act itself, but from what i know not alot of people think that both should have the responsibility for being protected.

This.

I don't want to catch an STD or get her pregnant, she doesn't want to catch an STD or get pregnant (at least I hope she doesn't). I always have a condom with me, just in case.
And in doubt, I prefer my own condom over one of hers (sneaky bastards might have put holes in them ^^).

 

[Gitsnik]

Why would you ever date anyone with an STD?

You don't always know. Glandular Fever, Herpes and some others don't even manifest all the time. If you have the right reaction and/or infections in you, you get the illness. It's not then their fault.

There's also the issue of not being sure that the man/woman is keeping themselves clean enough. I can think of a couple of times I had to walk out after a Friday night liason because of hither-to-unnoticed hygiene issues.

I just figured if you're going to have sex with someone whom you're dating and it's not a one-night-stand sort of affair, you'd have noticed the signs.
Then again, I've been told a lot of people see sex as the entire point of a relationship, so.

Yeah I know what you're saying, my point is/was that there are not always signs, just bad shit happening on a bad day and all the wrong things going bad etc.

Some things just don't come up too. Imagine if you had something non-lethal (i.e. an STI that isn't AIDS), now imagine telling your girlfriend/boyfriend about it. *shrugs* just pointing out the other side.

 

[Neesa]

XD Most definitely.

So yeah, I'll deal with being slightly bi-polar than have to deal with trying to have a child when both my boyfriend and I aren't financially stable. Hell, we're in our early 20s. I just refuse to be one of those young, struggling parents. I'd never want to raise a kid up in that kind of environment.

I know how you feel, people in their early 20's/late teens shouldnt have children really, unless they somehow are very stable, which is why i dont want a child until my late 20's/early 30's, cause by then ones economic senses have been tuned and i feel that you should have enough of a nestegg to support a child in the right manner.

There's this one chick at my job who's only 19 and her kid is already 2 or 3 years old. She can barely afford anything cause working at a burger joint and getting less than 20hrs a paycheck at $7.30/hr... Yeah, you're not gonna get much. Luckily, she still depends on her parents. But nevertheless, I hear her complaining about not having enough money. Well, apparently, if you didn't practice safe sex, that's what you get.

The time that we live in, raising a child is so expensive. Makes you really think if you can really afford one. But, I guess if both partners involved have decent enough jobs, then sure. My boyfriend and I are holding out for a longggg time. Maybe in our late 20s/early 30s as well. Seems more realistic. When the time comes and we're ready, we'll be ready.

 

[Daye.04]

But there you see, kids! Just cut the whole thing out, and you'll have nothing to worry about any more. It's easy. You should try it =D

This is the best choice from where I'm standing.

OT: If a chick I was dating but not having sex with carried condoms around, I would be pretty fucking suspicious.

Same if I were dating a dude (but I do not date dudes.)

The best choice from where you're standing? Aren't you standing surrounded by girls or something?

Oh and about the girl having sex without carrying condoms. That shit's insane. There is a couple of cases here in Norway, where I've encountered (Read:had a friends friend or something have that happened to them) that the girl said she used the pill, to make him not use condoms. And then she got pregnand, and gave birth. Despite the will of the guy. And you know why? Because then she'll get money from him. Absurd, I know.

Well in my case, whoever's giving it I believe should bring the condoms.

Wait.....what?

Well, gay sex was the underlying message there, what did you get?

Aren't condoms rather... ineffective for that type of sexual encounter? Unless I guess you don't want it going everywhere.

Well, inaffective to pregnancy, yes. But you do know there's something called Sexual transferable deseases, right? And that the anus is pretty much the perfect spot to deliver it from.

 

[Shycte]

The one who don't want a baby brings the condoms. Otherwise suit yourself.

 

[VaioStreams]

I'm saying the guy and let me tell you why. I live in a state where the women are bat shit crazy. it's a fricken past time to get knocked up here. but take your own because you never know if she poked a whole in it or tampered with it in some other way shape or form. if you don't want to be some baby's daddy right now. the only person you can trust is yourself

 

[chase211]

I try and avoid condoms when possible, don't like em. but if I dooo need them then I'm probably at either my place, or hers so to me the question is...why not have a couple around the house? I know I do. If I'm not at my place or hers...I'll stop by the convenience store if needed.

 

[Alex_P]

One of my housemates is a girl, who has recently started having sex with her boyfriend. For some reason another housemate (also male) and I brought up the conversation of whether she has a secret stash of condoms in case he doesn't have any. She replied 'No, why should it be my responsibility'. We brought up the case (which is quite often) of when she gets absolutely wasted and ends up back in her room with him, what happens if they want sex but he doesn't have any condoms. 'Well we just won't have sex'. I called bullshit, and it turned out that this situation had actually happened a few weeks ago, they just had sex anyway. She couldn't see why she should buy the condoms, despite them both participating. 'Well, sex isn't that important to me really, I can go without'.

It's sad that neither of them can figure this one out: if you plan to have sex somewhere regularly, leave a box there! Doesn't matter who does it.

Don't want to buy condoms yourself? It's really simple: "Hey, boyfriend, could you get me a box of condoms to keep in my room?" What's he going to say, "No thanks, I don't plan to have that much sex with you"?

-- Alex

 

[MrRandomitity]

Both and bring back up just in case you bust a whole through 2 or 3 or 4... might as well buy a box or two...

 

[jthm]

And the alcohol?