Poll: "You brought condoms, right?"

[lazy_bum]

Both is always safest unless ur seeing them regularly and know they have other contraceptives available and u both plan 2 use them instead. last thing u need is THE CALL a couple on months later.

 

[Galletea]

Well if you're planning funtime on your night out you should have one with you anyway, regardless of gender. It's common sense to try not to get nasty diseases. Other forms of protection are all well and good for long term relationships, but they don't stop you catching nasty things, and you don't know where they've been.

 

[WingedFortress]

I say men. Why? There's next to zero social stigma surrounding it. A man has a pack of condoms in his wallet, or back pocket, thats cool with everyone. He's smart, and thinking ahead. A girl, with the same pack, is a slut. Now, thats a complete generalization, but I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this. If it's more socially acceptable, and therefore less awkward for girls if I just pack a rubber, I'm down.

And who said chivalry was dead?

 

[Fronken]

XD Most definitely.

So yeah, I'll deal with being slightly bi-polar than have to deal with trying to have a child when both my boyfriend and I aren't financially stable. Hell, we're in our early 20s. I just refuse to be one of those young, struggling parents. I'd never want to raise a kid up in that kind of environment.

I know how you feel, people in their early 20's/late teens shouldnt have children really, unless they somehow are very stable, which is why i dont want a child until my late 20's/early 30's, cause by then ones economic senses have been tuned and i feel that you should have enough of a nestegg to support a child in the right manner.

There's this one chick at my job who's only 19 and her kid is already 2 or 3 years old. She can barely afford anything cause working at a burger joint and getting less than 20hrs a paycheck at $7.30/hr... Yeah, you're not gonna get much. Luckily, she still depends on her parents. But nevertheless, I hear her complaining about not having enough money. Well, apparently, if you didn't practice safe sex, that's what you get.

I know what your talking about, but the truth is, Condoms arent 100% effective, so she might have been one of those who did use it but still get knocked up without even knowing it, that's what happened with my older sister, she and her boyfriend used a condom but she still got pregnant (she's 22 and my nephew is 6 btw), so she Might have the right to complain, but that chance is very slim seeing as condoms are like 99.97% effective or something.

 

[MrRandomitity]

I say men. Why? There's next to zero social stigma surrounding it. A man has a pack of condoms in his wallet, or back pocket, thats cool with everyone. He's smart, and thinking ahead. A girl, with the same pack, is a slut. Now, thats a complete generalization, but I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this. If it's more socially acceptable, and therefore less awkward for girls if I just pack a rubber, I'm down.

And who said chivalry was dead?

Most people who don't go out side said it was.

Jokes aside, I work at a place that sells condoms and now that you mention it when I seem to go up front and see a guy buy it everyone looks at him like he is doing a good job but when a woman does they look at her like she is going to be on a street corner afterwords.

 

[Christemo]

both should have 1, just to be safe.

good luck with her ;()

 

[Lord Beautiful]

Both partners should take it into consideration. After all, sex is a team sport. At least it should be. Some women just don't seem to be enthused enough to do something beyond "dead fish."

 

[Ancalagon]

Don't you know that condoms are devil's creation?

Seriously though, whoever wants to have safe sex should bring the condoms, I guess.

I'm with our Slavic friend here. As I see it, if the woman wants me to wear one, let her bring it. In point of fact, however, as long as she's on birth control and I'm better than 99.9% sure she's disease-free, I'm going full contact. If I wanted to have sex "safely", I'd stay home and masturbate. Sex involves risk. It's no fun without it.

I'm afraid I'm going to have to throw my lot in with the disease-spreading crowd. Obviously, if everyone wore condoms, that'd have a great effect on the world, but at the end of the day, I'm not a fan: I just prefer the feeling without. I've been tested for STDs recently enough (A really unpleasant experience, but don't let that put you off, kids...) so I'm confident I'm not going to give the girl anything. As far as catching something from her is concerned, if it's a regular dose of the clap, I'll deal with it, and the chances of catching AIDS from vaginal sex with a woman in the UK, who isn't a junkie or a whore, is tiny.

So I'm certainly not saying condoms are a bad thing; they aren't. But they're not my first choice of birth control, and I'm aware of the risk I'm taking, and think it's worth it. That being said, if she wants me to wear one, I'm fine with that. So basically, if you have reason to expect sex, and you want to use a condom, then bring one: it's immaterial if you're a man or a woman.

EDIT: Just noticing that most people on here are saying that both people should carry a condom, so it's great to see that sex education programmes are working. Because basically, if I can not wear a condom when having sex, but everybody else is wearing one when they have sex, that's win-win for me...

 

[WingedFortress]

I say men. Why? There's next to zero social stigma surrounding it. A man has a pack of condoms in his wallet, or back pocket, thats cool with everyone. He's smart, and thinking ahead. A girl, with the same pack, is a slut. Now, thats a complete generalization, but I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this. If it's more socially acceptable, and therefore less awkward for girls if I just pack a rubber, I'm down.

And who said chivalry was dead?

Most people who don't go out side said it was.

Jokes aside, I work at a place that sells condoms and now that you mention it when I seem to go up front and see a guy buy it everyone looks at him like he is doing a good job but when a woman does they look at her like she is going to be on a street corner afterwords.

Perfect example. And call me crazy, but that kinda scrutiny probably isn't much of a mood setter for the ladies out there. At least not any of the ones I wanna know.

 

[BrEnNo1023]

I just recently started dating this girl and i've really taken a shine to her, and she's taken a shine to me as well, so at this point it seems that sex is inevitable.

I am asking this because i got curious about what people think after a talk i had with a female friend about the subject, she thought that it was the womans job to bring them and i thought it was the mans job.

My question for you, The sexually active part of The Escapist is as follows:

Who's responsibility is it to bring a condom?

Is it the Man who should bring it?
This is from what i know the most popular thought about the subject, that it's the guys obligation to bring condoms if a sexual act is probable, because it is a part of him that its going to cover.

Is it the Woman who should bring it?
Sure, it's the woman who can suffer the biggest side-effect from sex (pregnancy), but many people still believe that it's the womans obligation to bring them seeing as it is her choice if the sexual act will happen or not.

Is it Both who should bring it?
This makes very much sense, seeing as both partners will be a part of the act itself, but from what i know not alot of people think that both should have the responsibility for being protected.

What are your thought on the subject of Condoms?

i think it can be put plainly and simply, that as the male wears the condom, then the male brings the condom. as a fall-back, the woman may want to bring one just in case the guy can't be bothered. but if she has to all the time, i don't think that's a very respectful move on the guy's behalf.

 

[lazy_bum]

Both partners should take it into consideration. After all, sex is a team sport. At least it should be. Some women just don't seem to be enthused enough to do something beyond "dead fish."

Lmao, so true on occasion.

 

[SHBird]

SHBird is a dude. Always brings them, and is (oddly enough) always the one who has to remind the chick that it would probably be wise to use them.

 

[Macgyvercas]

You do realize the Pope will be very disappointed when he finds about this thread?

I have already consulted my personal god and MacGyver did approve of this thread being created.

MacGyver is fucking awesome!

 

[Macgyvercas]

Birth Control is against my religion. So if you don't want a baby, don't have sex.

Then so to is refraining from having sex. It's a form of birth control. So, what you're saying is that you must engage in sex as an attempt to procreate as often as possible.

Don't troll religious beliefs. The official Catholic (I assume he's Catholic, though there are probably other religions that feel the same way about it) line on this is that sex is for purposes of procreation only, which morally obligates you to try for a baby every time you have sex, so by not having sex you are avoiding the obligation to produce a child. It's not a form of birth control, it's a way of avoiding the issue altogether.
OT:
My girlfriend and I share the cost, and I'm not the "random sexual encounter" type of guy. In the OP's case, I'd say both: if it's just you out looking for love (♪♫ in all the wrong places, looking for love in too many faces ♪♫ [sorry, random Waylon reference for today]) I'd say it's your responsibility, if for no other reason than that you don't know the person you'll be hooking up with and you don't know what diseases they might have, so you could have more to lose from unprotected sex than the other interested party.

If you want to get real technical, the Church's stance is that every act of sex has to be open to love and the possibility of life being created. As long as conception is possible, the Church condones it.

 

[SqueeFactor]

i think the man should bring it. i mean, as he mentioned, it is the man's unit being covered. and if the guy buys it, we (the men) can be at the counter and choose which one works for us. some need normal ones, some needs magnums, and some need hefty bags. it's awkward enough when you dont have one and the girl goes 'wait i have one.' WHY does she have them. either she gets around alot, or she'll getting drilled by someone else.
either way, the ring may not fit, if you know what i mean.

so gentlemen, it's your responsibility to sheath your pork sword. cover your dude piston, etc etc

 

[Zersy]

Don't you know that condoms are devil's creation?

Seriously though, whoever wants to have safe sex should bring the condoms, I guess.

Doggy style can be form of safe sex ?

 

[Mister Ash]

it's just a pain when you use your last one before you go to the pub, and think 'she's always got some in her bag' only to realise you used those up in the hotel room, on holiday, the week before... and when you get home from the pub, you're fucked... or, actually, NOT, as the case may be.

but I'll go with both. Because in my experience, 90% of the time, both my partner and I both had at least one.


on a slightly different topic, does anyone else find it odd, that the condom machine in the gents has 'ribbed for her pleasure' or something similar, and the ladies always have 'extra safe' (true for at least 6 of the pubs in my local area, including the one I work in)

 

[MoganFreeman]

I voted both, because hey, the genders are equal now, right? If women want to go out and have random encounters just like guys they should be prepared too. Sometimes us men forget to pack one or just think we aren't getting lucky that night.

But guys? Honestly, pack your own and use your own; every time. There are crazies out there, and you don't want to pick up their diseases or father any of their children.

 

[Aptspire]

man...cause I'll always bring them