Punishing a Teenager

[TheLaofKazi]

*Do you know how hard it is to snip with a laptop touch pad?8

*My original point was simply that cannabis was a drug, Have no idea how we got on to this.*

Against my better judgment, I will say only this:
I never actually called someone a "druggie"; I simply said that cannabis was a drug; NILHATE's post seemed a bit personal and overly defensive and the above.

I However, understand your point about someone above calling him a "druggie", but I didn't read that in my casual browsing of this thread.

About your last point, thats something for a whole other discussion, and I'm not exactly in the mood at the moment, so some other time ^^

Oh Ok. Sorry for the misunderstanding. It seems we both had good points given where we were coming from.

It's understandable. There are plenty of times where I really don't want to get into a huge debate or anything.

 

[TheSteeleStrap]

Yes, send her to juvie. Maybe that epiphany will come when Big Bertha has her way with her.

 

[lanternmiller]

It's not their fault per se, but not every teenage girl is a monster.

I love this post.

"-not every teenage girl is a monster."

 

[rachel_who]

There isnt really anything that you or your parents can do. She needs to change for herself and the best way for that to happen is for her to receive a sharp shock.
I'd just ignore her, let her move out and watch her grow up and realize she cant keep living her life like that

 

[Mikkaddo]

Every family has some sort of unruly teenager, but my cousin has been giving the entire family hell, and no one knows how to deal with her. Everyone in the family just wants to strangle her and lock her up somewhere but she threatens to call the police for child abuse or assault. She is familiar with the police since they did give her a ride to school everyday before she was old enough to drop out, and if she doesn't like how things are going in her house she calls up a friend to pick her up (and even if you take her cell phone because she would just use the home phone). For some reason though, she keeps coming back and her parents can't lock her out unless they disown her, and most parents love their kids so they don't want to do that. furthermore shes an alcoholic and drinks all her parents booze (which is probably why she comes back) and is a druggie (but doesn't use hardcore drugs mainly weed).

Her mom was similar when she was younger so she lets her do whatever she wants even though she is constantly disrespected, hoping one day she she'll have an epiphany.

I say send her to juvie but anyone else have better ideas for getting someone like her under control, or know some law loophole that would let you punish her?

I tell you what, honest deal you and me . . . give her to me . . . and I'll give her all the discipline she can stand and then some . . .

 

[Low Key]

Smoking Weed does NOT make someone a druggie. It's not a drug, it's a feckin' herb, it's no more of a drug than coffee. Just thought I'd clear that up.

lol really? apparently you dont know what weed can actually do to u. It can actually mess u up pretty bad. understandably not as bad as crack or heroine but non the less its pretty bad for you. coffee is good moderately, like one or two cups a day. weed releases a mild for of acid which after prolonged use can lead to brain damage.

I have been smoking weed for over a decade and I beg to differ.

so uve been smokin weed for 10 years so there fore it good for u? ok...

Way to put words in my mouth. You say "it's pretty bad for you", but how do you know? I can only assume with your misrepresentation that you don't smoke weed. That's perfectly fine if you don't, but I'm a decade long smoker who is a college educated, steady job holding, tax paying, active member of society, therefore I say weed is not "pretty bad for you". Sure, there are dangers, but no more than drinking alcohol, or heck, even being out in the sun too long.

 

[008Zulu_v1legacy]

Explain, in intricate detail, how the Mother/Father likes to sexually pleasure the other.

 

[LeonLethality]

The parents could threaten to put her up for adoption, that'd show her.

 

[Dwarfman]

Smoking Weed does NOT make someone a druggie. It's not a drug, it's a feckin' herb, it's no more of a drug than coffee. Just thought I'd clear that up.

Caffiene is a drug which unlike weed is legal.

If she likes the cops so much hand her over to them. Failing that drop her out of school and make her work a trade like cooking. If your family doesn't feel like beating the snot out of her then the chefs working with her will have no qualms.

 

[oppp7]

Hm... Try getting it so cops find her with weed. That should get rid of her.

 

[Dwarfman]

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thats what happens when u dont hit ur kids.


seriously.

Prove it.

my mom always administered spankings when well deserved.

i dont drink.

i dont do drugs.

i never acted out when i was little.

i never did anything w/o her approval.

anyway, yea spankings = good.

Going to agree with the vamp on this one. But let's highlight the bit that says spanking when well deserved. There's a big difference between administering 'justice' upon your child and then blatantly abusing them.

In my house the punishment matched the crime. These punishments ranged from go to your room to spanking, to six lashed with a perelli strap - probably spelt that wrong but those are the old school elastic straps that go under the couch.

I do drink and did drink back when I was a teenager, however my parents had disiplined me enough that they could trust me doing that sought of thing and not get drunk and into fights, or take drugs. And if there was a party I was going to that had alchohol I'd let them know.

Some of the things lacking in some problem families these days - Love, Discipline, Trust, Respect.

 

[chaos order]

Smoking Weed does NOT make someone a druggie. It's not a drug, it's a feckin' herb, it's no more of a drug than coffee. Just thought I'd clear that up.

lol really? apparently you dont know what weed can actually do to u. It can actually mess u up pretty bad. understandably not as bad as crack or heroine but non the less its pretty bad for you. coffee is good moderately, like one or two cups a day. weed releases a mild for of acid which after prolonged use can lead to brain damage.

I have been smoking weed for over a decade and I beg to differ.

so uve been smokin weed for 10 years so there fore it good for u? ok...

Way to put words in my mouth. You say "it's pretty bad for you", but how do you know? I can only assume with your misrepresentation that you don't smoke weed. That's perfectly fine if you don't, but I'm a decade long smoker who is a college educated, steady job holding, tax paying, active member of society, therefore I say weed is not "pretty bad for you". Sure, there are dangers, but no more than drinking alcohol, or heck, even being out in the sun too long.

fair enough i personally dont have a problem with ppl smoking weed just ppl who try to convince me and themselves that smoking weed is not bad for ur health. its just annoying when i hear ppl perpetuating these dilusions. so its not that fact that they smoke weed that bothers me just that they make up things to justify their actions, which they dont need to do

 

[Low Key]

Smoking Weed does NOT make someone a druggie. It's not a drug, it's a feckin' herb, it's no more of a drug than coffee. Just thought I'd clear that up.

lol really? apparently you dont know what weed can actually do to u. It can actually mess u up pretty bad. understandably not as bad as crack or heroine but non the less its pretty bad for you. coffee is good moderately, like one or two cups a day. weed releases a mild for of acid which after prolonged use can lead to brain damage.

I have been smoking weed for over a decade and I beg to differ.

so uve been smokin weed for 10 years so there fore it good for u? ok...

Way to put words in my mouth. You say "it's pretty bad for you", but how do you know? I can only assume with your misrepresentation that you don't smoke weed. That's perfectly fine if you don't, but I'm a decade long smoker who is a college educated, steady job holding, tax paying, active member of society, therefore I say weed is not "pretty bad for you". Sure, there are dangers, but no more than drinking alcohol, or heck, even being out in the sun too long.

fair enough i personally dont have a problem with ppl smoking weed just ppl who try to convince me and themselves that smoking weed is not bad for ur health. its just annoying when i hear ppl perpetuating these dilusions. so its not that fact that they smoke weed that bothers me just that they make up things to justify their actions, which they dont need to do

Well, there are other, safer ways to introduce THC into the body. Ingestion and vaporizing don't add all the dust and tar to the lungs, and by eating it, the effects are increased threefold. Not to mention the all of the medicinal properties.

So, technically the people who say that are correct, they are just full of shit because they don't practice what they preach. Yeah, I smoke it rather than ingest or inhale the vapor, but as you pointed out, I don't pretend smoking it by combustion is safe.

Normally I wouldn't go on a rant like that, but I just did a project about weed for one of my classes, so you'll have to excuse my forwardness.

 

[blankedboy]

Smoking Weed does NOT make someone a druggie. It's not a drug, it's a feckin' herb, it's no more of a drug than coffee. Just thought I'd clear that up.

THC is a drug. Cocaine is also a drug, but that's from the coca plant. Technically, EVERYTHING is natural.

 

[ultrachicken]

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thats what happens when u dont hit ur kids.


seriously.

Prove it.

my mom always administered spankings when well deserved.

i dont drink.

i dont do drugs.

i never acted out when i was little.

i never did anything w/o her approval.

anyway, yea spankings = good.

Going to agree with the vamp on this one. But let's highlight the bit that says spanking when well deserved. There's a big difference between administering 'justice' upon your child and then blatantly abusing them.

In my house the punishment matched the crime. These punishments ranged from go to your room to spanking, to six lashed with a perelli strap - probably spelt that wrong but those are the old school elastic straps that go under the couch.

I do drink and did drink back when I was a teenager, however my parents had disiplined me enough that they could trust me doing that sought of thing and not get drunk and into fights, or take drugs. And if there was a party I was going to that had alchohol I'd let them know.

Some of the things lacking in some problem families these days - Love, Discipline, Trust, Respect.

Are there studies about this?
Do you guys have a source?
Until you do, I must assume you are pulling facts out of your ass.

 

[Klarinette]

She needs better parents that can set restrictions and ground her etc

The only problem with that is that if you deal with it like that now and you set too many rules, too soon, or push too hard, too quickly, you're pretty much asking for horrible outbursts and rebellion.

These kinds of issues are ones that are dealt with early on in life with reasonable discipline, and proper rules/boundaries. At this point, it can only be dealt with either by the shock therapy method (immediate arresting or ass-kicking boot camp like they used to do on Jenny Jones), or, failing that, over a looong period of time where things are introduced and enforced gradually.

 

[Radelaide]

Kick her out of the house and let her live on her own. Let her see how hard it is maybe then she will appreciate what she gets.

I mean it worked on my brother.

Pretty much this. If she's acting like a complete brat, tell her to live in the real world for a while. It'll straightener her right out.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

Everyone in the family just wants to strangle her and lock her up somewhere but she threatens to call the police for child abuse or assault.

What's the problem here then? I doubt she'll be able to call the police when she's being strangled and locked up. If she's old enough to drop out she's old enough to get kicked out. She doesn't have to be your problem anymore.

 

[Dwarfman]

Are there studies about this?
Do you guys have a source?
Until you do, I must assume you are pulling facts out of your ass.

Yeah we do mate, it's called our freakin' lives. Seriously do you think either one of us would condone spanking - and lets be to the point about this because I don't think anyone supports child abuse - if we didn't think it helped shape our lives in a good way?

I'm not going to say that that's all my parents did to me. As far as parents go, mine have been the most supporting influence on my life, and as an adult I consider them part of my closest nework of friends - more so than parents. Through rain, hell or shine they nurtured, supported and protected me. And if that included giving me a kick up the bum for being a moron then so be it.