Question about sexuality.

[flyingninjadude]

I am...questioning. 2 years ago I was sure that I was sure that I was a heterosexual man. 3 months ago I was sure I was a bisexual. 1 day ago I was asking myself who I was.

I suppose...heterosexual, biromantic is the best label? I've had a girlfriend and it was wonderful, and I've always been intrigued by the idea of being with a guy, but I never have been. The way I think of guys isn't nearly the same as with women, but there is certainly a level of physical attraction.

In summary, if I claimed I knew all the answers I'd be lying to you.

 

[Eldarion]

I came into my sex drive at a very early age, came into my bisexuality around my teens. Didn't accept it fully until around 16.

 

[superbatranger]

Being heterosexual is kind of like being Undeclared in a college major.

So, I guess I'm still Undeclared.

Ah, same here. Although part of me doesn't really know. I mean I find girls sexually attractive, but at the same time I can say there are guys I find attractive as well. But, I don't see myself ever having a relationship with a guy. So who knows.

 

[DuctTapeJedi]

I think, technically, I'm asexual. I'm 21, and have only ever been on one date (not a fan of the experience).

I just never really considered it as something important to me. I have other things to worry about. I never thought anything of it until my mom started saying crap/assuming I'm gay etc.

 

[DuctTapeJedi]

I am...questioning. 2 years ago I was sure that I was sure that I was a heterosexual man. 3 months ago I was sure I was a bisexual. 1 day ago I was asking myself who I was.

I suppose...heterosexual, biromantic is the best label? I've had a girlfriend and it was wonderful, and I've always been intrigued by the idea of being with a guy, but I never have been. The way I think of guys isn't nearly the same as with women, but there is certainly a level of physical attraction.

In summary, if I claimed I knew all the answers I'd be lying to you.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you like someone, ask them out. Don't worry about gender.

 

[Drake_Dercon]

Heterosexual male. I've never been attracted to men in the least, which isn't for lack of trying. I always try to place myself in other people's shoes simply because I can (even though, for the most part, I can't). On the other hand, I find conventional ideas of attractiveness a bit strange... but that's another topic.

I've really always been that way. Sure there's always some lingering self-doubt, but that's just who I am.

As far as importance, it shouldn't be, but it is. I suppose it depends on the meaning of "importance". As per my definition (more liable to change someone's opinion of you than, say, the ideal state of importance of someone's religious or political opinion, which I think should also be quite low), this is far from my ideal. In my ideal world, nobody should really care... but this isn't my ideal world, is it?

In the words of Pierre Trudeau: "The government has no place in the bedrooms of its people." Of course, this should also apply between friends, acquaintances, enemies, people you haven't met and family (unless, of course, they want you in their bedrooms, which is their business. Except families; incest has been scientifically proven to be morally questionable.)

 

[zega frega omega]

Being a straight male, I guess it wouldn't be inaccurate to say I always knew I'd be hetero.

 

[Tonythion]

From the beginning I always found men attractive.
So Gay.
Recently though I have been able to like women but only if they have a certain personality type.
So I guess Omnisexual? Pansexual? Dunno.

 

[Hap2]

Asexual, hetero romantic. I have never been sexually attracted to anyone, and assumed I was heterosexual up until last year at age 22 when I came across the concept of asexuality (mainly because I became romantically attracted but not sexually attracted to a woman in the past).

Sexuality matters a lot, I look back at my life and I find that being asexual has affected a lot of my experiences, thoughts and ideals without me realizing so at the time. It is a part of our being, and a significant one at that, since it can give a huge difference of perspective from where one is standing.

 

[ImperialSunlight]

I'm not really sure. I am male. I pretty much know at this point, though I never had any sexual experience (with anyone else ) yet, that I like men. I don't know about women though. I tried to go out with women a few times as that is the norm but it didn't get very far and there was no sexual attraction that I know of. After this, though, I became a bit mysogynistic so I don't know what would happen if I tried again. I knew I liked men at about 14. It was very similar to Dexiro's experience. While I showed no homosexual tendancies as a child, nor did I fit into the stereotypes, later on I became curious, but didn't realise until quite a bit after haw much I liked it XD.

I didn't have any shame in it as I'm not religious (not christian anyway) and have known some very honourable homosexuals. I haven't "come out" yet, but I see no reason to. Straight people don't have to tell everyone and if someone asks I'll tell them without making a big deal out of it.

Edit: Oh, and also I am a furry and thats what got me into porn, witch got me into gay porn, witch got me into being gay :3

 

[Chefodeath]

Heterosexual bi-romantic male.

I don't really know. I tried homosexuality when I was younger, but it never really appealed to me, but I did still know that I liked guys in something like 'that way.'

I sort of settled into my sexuality fully when I was 17/18, but had basically known since I was 14 (when I was experimenting primarily) and then around when I was about 20 I actually found the definitions of romantic attraction and realised that was probably the best fit of what I was.

For those confused by my terms (who obviously have never seen me discussing my sexuality in the many many other threads about it) I actually fuond the best simple definition here on this website:

'I want to sleep with Stephanie but cuddle with Stephen.'

Note that I said bi-romantic, I still have romantic relationships with women, it's just that I want to sleep with them as well, men it's all about the romance. And I'll admit that when it comes to men I am shamelessly shallow, much less so than with women. For a woman I genuinely look for personality etc, with a guy I'm mainly interested in how they look and wow this got weird all of a sudden.

How very odd, a legitimate example of true Platonic love.

OT: I really wish humans weren't so damn obsessed with sex. I mean, sex is fucking boring when you remove the evolutionary imperative to it. Well, not the cool biology bits of it, but I mean fuck, penis slides in vagina/mouth/asshole. What the fuck is the big deal? So, given that sex does not really interest me as a being of thought and curiosity, and since I would like to labell that part of me the dominant, I would like to say I was asexual.

Of course I am a human with a functioning sex drive, so obviously I am compelled to dabble. Still, I would never take the unnotable misadventures of my animalistic self to define who I am to any real degree. In fact, I find in myself a very great annoyance with people who do.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Being heterosexual is kind of like being Undeclared in a college major.

So, I guess I'm still Undeclared.

Ah, same here. Although part of me doesn't really know. I mean I find girls sexually attractive, but at the same time I can say there are guys I find attractive as well. But, I don't see myself ever having a relationship with a guy. So who knows.

It's like, "that underwater basket weaving class looks interesting to watch, but I'm not really a scuba diver type of girl".

 

[Light 086]

I'm a Bi and was surprised as well as relieved to find that out (about 5-6 years ago), because I always felt that I was missing something with just dating guys. Some of my friends weren't happy though, cause I lost 2 friends when I brought it up (high-school peer pressure to hate 'different' people I suppose). But I'm glad I found out because it's nice to understand yourself and know your own desires, it's also nice not to have that feeling that you're 'missing something' to stop eating at you.

 

[Nieroshai]

Some people state that they don't fall in love with a particular gender, they fall in love with a person. Whether this is true or not I cannot be certain. This statement closely models the ideals of my bisexual friends, being happy with either one at any given time.

Apparently there's some sort of scale which allows you to check where you belong on the sexuality scale.

I believe it's 1 to 10 (or 1 to 7, I can't recall), 1 being gay and 10 being straight. A lot of people don't show up as perfect 1's or 10's. A lot of the time you may land as a 2,3 or 8,9. This is for many reasons. You may be able to find beauty in the same sex. You may have had a fantasy or two about the same sex, but you know you'd never actually do anything with them. I believe that it's not as simple as black and white, rather it's more of shades of gray.

Now if you're one of the few individuals that are quite homophobic, not a gay/straight thought in your body and loathe the other option, then yes, you may be a perfect 1 or 10.

I'm sexually attracted to both genders, but I'm in love with one girl who rang out to me completely as my other half. Now note I have a weak sex drive. I can get in the mood, but it takes a dinner and cuddling unless things are just perfect. (Sound like a woman, don't I?) This partially makes it look like I'm asexual, but let me assure you that is not the case.

 

[Nieroshai]

Thinking back now, I can figure out my progression to it.

At age 4 I started showing signs of being of the more feminine attitude
At age 8 I began showing signs of liking guys. Back then it was just REALLY being friends with someone, but still
At age 9 I had my first fantasy about being someone's boyfriend
At age 12 I had my first 'innapropriate' fantasies. This was the same time I discovered masturbation
At age 13 I finally began to think I might be gay
At age 14 I actually properly realised it
At age 15 I finally accepted it and decided it wasn't the end of the world
At age 16 I came out, to find that most people I came out to already knew anyway.

And on the 'does sexuality matter' thing, I don't think it does. Sexuality should ONLY influence your sex life, and maybe certain aspects of your social life. If you let your sexuality control and dictate every aspect of your personality, then you're putting too much stock into your persuasion. Deep down, sexuality is just one part of what makes you who you are.

LOL How can you masturbate to a dude and not realise you like sausage? With me it was basically that I was pretty much born with a very "feminine" personality. My stepdad used that as yet another reason to hate me, alongside my OCD and that man-child competing with me for Mom's attention. I LOVED jewelry, still do. I used to wish I was born a girl. Of course, LONG before I even felt sexual urges(how old was I in 7th grade?) girls made up most of my friends. I just didn't feel comfortable around other guys. I had tons of female friends and 3 guy friends. My first attraction was to a girl around my freshman year, but when she put me down I noticed I had a thing for guys too. Being religious I obviously tried to suppress it, but you know how futile that is. I often have to excuse myself from a room where there's a guy that catches my attention because I'll turn red otherwise. But I've never been able to love a guy, any guy really, which is why I ultimately ended up with a girlfriend. Pretty much no one but her knows I'm inherently bi. I tell the internet because none of you will ever meet and recognize me, lol.

 

[blankedboy]

Meh, I've thought I'm gay for a while now and alot of people know I'm gay. But I'm starting to fall back into the I-might-be-bi train of thoughts, and am feeling vaguely bi at the moment.
I don't really care whether I'm gay or bi, but I don't want to be straight. Strange, I know

 

[conflictofinterests]

I can't remember which came first, but I was romantically attracted (Puppy love, you know the deal) to both a boy and a girl when I was in about 1st grade or so. Since I was closer friends with the girl than the boy, I thought I might be a lesbian for a few minutes as we hugged melodramatically to keep warm from the (probably mild) Utahn winter. After that, I pretty much forgot about my sexuality until high school, when another girl took an abnormal amount of interest in me. We became friends, and later on, we were unofficially dating for a while. I had a few boyfriends before I came to my current partner, a lovely man whom I hope to marry. After that inkling of lesbianism in first grade, I was thoroughly convinced I was straight until the girl in high school showed me otherwise. Now I am comfortably bisexual.

My sexuality only really comes into play when I'm evaluating someone as a sexual partner, in that their own gender DOESN'T come into play. Other than that, I'm happy to neglect to mention it to whomever I wish (especially my prude, supa-Christian mom, who would be more disapproving of bisexuals than of homosexuals, but still VERY disapproving of homosexuals.)

 

[Haydyn]

It's kind of complicated. I know I'm attracted to women. When it comes to other guys, I have no problem cuddling up to a guy around my age as a joke or swing dancing with them. Maybe it's just my lack of a personal bubble. Then when it comes to some anime guys or even video game characters I feel an attraction. Maybe it's just because they are more effeminate than normal.

However the thought of partisapating in homosexual sex disturbs me. I don't wanna dish out too much of my personal life, but it's a key part in finding out where exactly I stand. I have made out with another guy before, and I didn't care for it. (I wouldn't be telling anybody this, but I don't believe homosexuality is wrong, despite my religious beliefs.) I just refer to myself as heteroflexible around company I can trust, my family not included in that.

 

[Killclaw Kilrathi]

Bisexual. In retrospect I know I was always that way, but I didn't actually come to that conclusion for a long time, mainly due to denial. Happens to a lot of people apparently.