Rejection by women
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haha the old friend line, never mind dude happens to every guy sooner or later, my advice personally, don't waste another second of your time on her, she's trying to play the field and keep you as a back up with a line like that, get out there and do your own thing, as long as your having fun and enjoying yourself your bound to meet that some one special....obviously it's not her.
Kinda the "Want to be friends" thing.
It annoys the hell out of me, because EVERYONE knows that's "I have my reasons, but I don't want to upset you"
For CHRIST'S sake, woman, you just rejected me! THAT hurt my feelings, anything else is just constructive critisism that I can take on board. CHRIST, have you ever heard of Trial and Error?
It annoys the hell out of me, because EVERYONE knows that's "I have my reasons, but I don't want to upset you"
For CHRIST'S sake, woman, you just rejected me! THAT hurt my feelings, anything else is just constructive critisism that I can take on board. CHRIST, have you ever heard of Trial and Error?
Girls don't seem to get that saying, "Let's just be friends" actually hurts more. Just tell us straight out and don't sugercoat it, we get over it faster that way.
Oh, I almost forgot. Year 8 dance, we were all leaving the school. I got up the courage to ask somebody I'd liked for about a year to dance with me, and she said "no, no way, never" and ran off. I was fine, because I then saw her go and ask my friend if he would dance with her, and he saw that she'd just rejected me (and he liked somebody else anyway) so he said no and gave me a thumbs-up. Eating humble pie, she comes back to me, and asks me to dance. I say no, go talk to another girl, she asks me for a slow song and we end up dancing the rest of the evening (except for the bit where I went into the improv mosh pit).
unlucky OP, welcome to the club including most men. Seriously everyone experiences rejection at some point, you've just got to keep trying. And honestly 'I like you but as a friend' is a write of passage it's the most common excuse in the book. If she means it then it just means she doesn't like you in a romantic way, she likes you as a friend, a mate, someone to hang around with. Or she doesn't like you at all and she's just being polite to spare your feelings.
I once asked a girl out who had constantly hinted at me that she thought I was cute. She would always flirt with me when we were talking, yet when I asked if she wanted to go out, she just said [b/]"No."[/b]
Just no. No elaboration, no speech about how she likes me as a friend, nothing about how it would ruin our friendship, just [b/]no.[/b]
Just no. No elaboration, no speech about how she likes me as a friend, nothing about how it would ruin our friendship, just [b/]no.[/b]
I'm find to be "just friends". Friendsships tend to be longer-lasting and more useful than relationships.
The last rejection I had involved the girl failing to realise that I was asking her out.
The last rejection I had involved the girl failing to realise that I was asking her out.
Well, up until the age of fifteen I got rejected by cute boys all the time.
But later on, besides me getting dumped once, I've been the one to do the rejecting.
Unfortunately I've just recently ended a longterm relationship, so I suppose I might not be much liked here.
But later on, besides me getting dumped once, I've been the one to do the rejecting.
Unfortunately I've just recently ended a longterm relationship, so I suppose I might not be much liked here.
Ouch man, you're in the friend zone.
Anyhoo, never been rejected by a girl. Been lied to and cheated on by a couple but not rejected.
Anyhoo, never been rejected by a girl. Been lied to and cheated on by a couple but not rejected.
Having seen one poor guy kicked in the nuts for asking a girl out (he did it fairly politely and respectfully too), I'd consider something along the lines of "I'd prefer we be friends" pretty tame.
I've noticed that males - myself included - particularly when young have very poor perception about whether a girl/woman fancies them or not. Very frequently, they completely misinterpret simple friendship and having fun together as being potentially something more. Consequently, getting a load of fails and a few successes is just one of those things in life. You generally get a better idea with age and experience.
I also found as I got older you don't really ask girls out. You tend to fall into relationships by spending time together, and quite possibly by spending time together whilst drunk, although it's best to be sober so she doesn't phone you the next day and tell you it was a mistake.
Often a good tactic is to invite the girl out to see something you think she'll be into (film, museum, whatever). The chances are she will realise what you're leading to, and if she's not interested she'll either decline or let you know she's only going as a friend. Okay, it's still a rejection, but it's a little less painful than getting all the way to popping the big question and getting a refusal.
I've noticed that males - myself included - particularly when young have very poor perception about whether a girl/woman fancies them or not. Very frequently, they completely misinterpret simple friendship and having fun together as being potentially something more. Consequently, getting a load of fails and a few successes is just one of those things in life. You generally get a better idea with age and experience.
I also found as I got older you don't really ask girls out. You tend to fall into relationships by spending time together, and quite possibly by spending time together whilst drunk, although it's best to be sober so she doesn't phone you the next day and tell you it was a mistake.
Often a good tactic is to invite the girl out to see something you think she'll be into (film, museum, whatever). The chances are she will realise what you're leading to, and if she's not interested she'll either decline or let you know she's only going as a friend. Okay, it's still a rejection, but it's a little less painful than getting all the way to popping the big question and getting a refusal.
Well, men are mysterious creatures to girls and vice versa.Spacelord said:
Are you 2 still friends? Cause if you are then take it to face value. If your not talking as much as you used to be, she might be a bit weirded out and thats her way of being really nice about rejecting you.