Don't give up, matter of fact, go after women you think are imposible to achieve. Learn from your mistakes and things will start to change. That is, of course, unless you are ugly as sin.
Rejection by women
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Im dating someone else right now (when they aren't)
I just got out of a relationship (3 months ago)
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Im dating someone else right now (when they aren't)
I just got out of a relationship (3 months ago)
and my personal favorite
I like you as a friend
I've never failed in getting a woman to go on a first date.
I did get "shot down" by a girl i dated for 2 years and was convinced i would marry (she would always rave about how she'd never been this happy with anyone before, and how we're perfect together, we fit together so well in EVERY WAY! From there on out anytime i heard this stuff from a girl, my spider sense starts to tingle and i prepare for the breakup. Ladies: don't say stuff like that, okay? Unless you really mean it, don't say it, cause us guys will believe it!)
After a month of her leaving me on the edge of my seat, purposely ignoring me and leaving town for a week without telling me, we sat down and she told me "I love you, but i have other things on my plate right now." All she had to do was ask for some space and i would've given it to her, but man.. she just pulled the "DUMP" lever.
Sad part is i believed her when she told me maybe we could get back together after she put some thought into it. I waited 4 months, and then i tried sending her flowers and writing her a letter.
No response.
So i gave up. I started dating other women. She found out about this, and started trying to ruin any relationship i was attempting to start by showing up where i was at with a girl and doing shit like asking for her panties back. "I know you like to wear them, but this is getting weird!"
*****. I even asked her if she wanted to get back together to just say so, and she shot me down. She just didn't want anyone ELSE to get me.
Again...*****.
I did get "shot down" by a girl i dated for 2 years and was convinced i would marry (she would always rave about how she'd never been this happy with anyone before, and how we're perfect together, we fit together so well in EVERY WAY! From there on out anytime i heard this stuff from a girl, my spider sense starts to tingle and i prepare for the breakup. Ladies: don't say stuff like that, okay? Unless you really mean it, don't say it, cause us guys will believe it!)
After a month of her leaving me on the edge of my seat, purposely ignoring me and leaving town for a week without telling me, we sat down and she told me "I love you, but i have other things on my plate right now." All she had to do was ask for some space and i would've given it to her, but man.. she just pulled the "DUMP" lever.
Sad part is i believed her when she told me maybe we could get back together after she put some thought into it. I waited 4 months, and then i tried sending her flowers and writing her a letter.
No response.
So i gave up. I started dating other women. She found out about this, and started trying to ruin any relationship i was attempting to start by showing up where i was at with a girl and doing shit like asking for her panties back. "I know you like to wear them, but this is getting weird!"
*****. I even asked her if she wanted to get back together to just say so, and she shot me down. She just didn't want anyone ELSE to get me.
Again...*****.
^I think this is the best approach. If a girl likes you enough to ask you out, then chances are shes defiantly a keeper, and it saves a lot of heartache pursuing girls who don't actually like you. You just have to wait and hope.Slayer_2 said:
hehe, i have had a frikken bunch of rejections
i was known among my friends as the Casanova of the group, i remember i used to ask every girl i knew at least "twice" to be with me
let me put it this way, form 100 girls i asked 95 said "NO", 50 said "I dont Like you", 25 said "I already like someone else" and like 3 said "i only see us as friends"
but the 5 that said yes, well, those where the most amazing relationships i have ever had
but that´s just my way at looking at things "eventually you will find the right one, you just have to keep looking" hehe
i was known among my friends as the Casanova of the group, i remember i used to ask every girl i knew at least "twice" to be with me
let me put it this way, form 100 girls i asked 95 said "NO", 50 said "I dont Like you", 25 said "I already like someone else" and like 3 said "i only see us as friends"
but the 5 that said yes, well, those where the most amazing relationships i have ever had
but that´s just my way at looking at things "eventually you will find the right one, you just have to keep looking" hehe
I got a pretty bad one recently. I met this girl, and we seemed to hit it off. Ended up becoming best buddies and pretty much doing things together almost all the time. Eventually things got closer and we ended up going out and whatnot.
Lasted about 2 months, and she broke up with me when we were coming home from an event we went to. Basically, she said she has a habit of using guys and I was no different. She said how she respected me and really didn't want it to be like that. The kicker is the day before, she was more then happy to let me pay for dinner and whatnot (this may have been stupidity on my part, I thought we were both just stressed and the distance was from that).
After about a week of not talking, we kinda make up and become really casual friends. She invited me to a con this weekend, and when I go, I see her getting close with this new guy from her college. So yeah, she dropped me the weeks before because of this guy, and she invited me to the con to show me first hand, I guess. Because that evening, she sent an email stating "Hey, you probably know that I'm going out with him. I'm trying to change for the better!" Yeah, glad I was the last stepping stone on your way to glory. :/
Lasted about 2 months, and she broke up with me when we were coming home from an event we went to. Basically, she said she has a habit of using guys and I was no different. She said how she respected me and really didn't want it to be like that. The kicker is the day before, she was more then happy to let me pay for dinner and whatnot (this may have been stupidity on my part, I thought we were both just stressed and the distance was from that).
After about a week of not talking, we kinda make up and become really casual friends. She invited me to a con this weekend, and when I go, I see her getting close with this new guy from her college. So yeah, she dropped me the weeks before because of this guy, and she invited me to the con to show me first hand, I guess. Because that evening, she sent an email stating "Hey, you probably know that I'm going out with him. I'm trying to change for the better!" Yeah, glad I was the last stepping stone on your way to glory. :/
Well one gets rejected from time to time.Spacelord said:
But seriously, don't think about it, even once more. Seriously there are shit loads of women and they are all just as stupid as you. well some dumber and some smarter. However let me tell you something; If you are in a nightclub, start asking women to have sex with you, you will be rejected a few times. But here is the thing, there is at least one women in there who will drag you away and have sex with you. It's true.
Point is; being rejected is the very least of your problems mate. Just let it float away because you will soon have more opportunities to be rejected or accepted.
A good thing to know is: If they haven't touched you within the first 10 minutes of your first meeting-- just move along.
I've used the "I like you as just a friend" to a guy before.
It's because he was only a friend to me, I couldn't see us doing couple stuff, it just seemed strange.
I would say if you're going to ask a girl out, make sure you have a good standing with her first. You have to try flirting and have to try doing slightly couple-ish things (like movie dates ) before saying, "Hey, want to go on a date?"
I've had guys I've only known for a week ask me out and it was weird because one, I didn't know a lot about them, and two, I didn't have time to see if I had feelings for him.
It takes flirting and patience, I guess that's all I can say.
It's because he was only a friend to me, I couldn't see us doing couple stuff, it just seemed strange.
I would say if you're going to ask a girl out, make sure you have a good standing with her first. You have to try flirting and have to try doing slightly couple-ish things (like movie dates ) before saying, "Hey, want to go on a date?"
I've had guys I've only known for a week ask me out and it was weird because one, I didn't know a lot about them, and two, I didn't have time to see if I had feelings for him.
It takes flirting and patience, I guess that's all I can say.
Women right? But it could be because she is trying to get something out of you. Like jealousy because she missed it in your relationship. Had this one chick once who called me whenever she was hanging with other guys JUST to try and make me jealous. Problem is that I think I'm the best thing that can happen to them so I never worry. I knew she wouldn't do anything with them so I always went "ok" and she'll get very very mad and I'd hang up the phone. About a moth later I ended the relationship and she turned into the classic "if-I-can't-have-you-no-one-can-stalker-ex-girlfriend".Dragonborne88 said:
So my question to you is:
Do you ever get mad at her? Or show jealousy? I'm pretty sure she had turned into a "if-I-can't-have-you-no-one-can-stalker-ex-girlfriend" if YOU ended the relationship.
Though I have to cheerful add that another girl I asked out replied "I'm too good for you".
I was utterly depressed about that for awhile, though I hear now that the girl has four children (the father ran for the hills) and a cocaine addiction. She sent me a myspace message asking me out (she needed $$$ obviously) and I sent along a message saying that I could do much better than her.
I was utterly depressed about that for awhile, though I hear now that the girl has four children (the father ran for the hills) and a cocaine addiction. She sent me a myspace message asking me out (she needed $$$ obviously) and I sent along a message saying that I could do much better than her.
OH yes the old "I like you as a friend" card. Being a woman I can safely say that this is a "nice" (hah) way of saying that you just don't meet her high standards, but she doesn't want you to go away, because your a good friend. You're not alone; this is probably the MOST used excuse by girls. A guy used this once on me, so its not just chicks either
I've never been rejected by a girl, but that's coz I've only ever asked 1 girl out and the other asked me out.
I don't have enough experience to have been rejected I guess haha
I don't have enough experience to have been rejected I guess haha
Hmm wonder if i can add this to the discussion, anyone reslived the "its not you its me" dumping card. I have not resived it but i have used it once, am just wondering if its used much?
I hardly ever get mad, and certainly not at her. I'm not the first person she's done this to apparently. I know a few of her friends and they say she does this a lot. Apparently, I was the one to convince her that she can't go on using guys like that constantly. I really cared for her, so I was pretty shattered when I found out she just used me this whole time when I thought it was going somewhere.WickedSkin said:
That is probably what she considered your problem. You were being to kind and to lenient. She wanted some conflict or "action". It's VERY common for women. OR she is what you say, an amoral *****. Either way you are better off without her. Trust me on this one.Dragonborne88 said:
If I was in your boots I'd head of to do my next big mistake. It's what most of the women you'll meet will be; mistakes. But sometime(s) you'll get get lucky.
Yeah, I can see that now. As much as I admired her, it seemed like I had to work too hard to keep things going. I always felt that a relationship should be a natural thing. You still have to work at it, but it shouldn't feel like you are treading uphill the whole time. I tend to be in a more positive mood since things went down since I don't have to worry about keeping the sinking boat afloat anymore. 