Rejection by women

[Ultress]

The reason she gave was It would be werid seeing how I was her brothers best friend and as much as the parnoid part of my mind calls bullshit I still accept that, plus I pestered her after that so now she just plain doesn't like me.

 

[Inverse Skies]

Meh, men get rejected by women all of the time, whether they are video gaming nerds or not. The important thing is to not let it get to you. If you get rejected, and it's going to happen a lot, you just have to learn to pick yourself up, say "Ok that sucks, but I'm not going to let it worry me" and move on. All of this feeling sorry for yourself and self analysing to work out why women DON'T want to date you is pointless. All you need is some patience and confidence in yourself and eventually you'll meet someone you like.

The keyword there is confidence, you'll be amazed at what a difference it makes when you feel in control rather than the "I don't know why you like me, I'm nothing scenario". Confidence makes women feel secure in a relationship, and it also gives you that mental toughness needed to deal with rejection. It happens, to all of us. I've experienced it plenty of times. I don't care, there's someone that will eventually like me for who I am, I just have to be patient and wait.

 

[SomethingUnrelated]

I was rejected by a girl, who liked another guy anyway, so I guess that's fair grounds for rejection.

 

[TikiShades]

I was rejected by a girl. She said "I was one of her closest guy friends." Now I feel like she just didn't want to make me feel bad.

Thoughts, Escapist?

 

[mayney93]

dude it means you that aren't the right type for her , you don't fulfill her criteria

 

[JanatUrlich]

It means that she doesn't fancy you and wants to be nice

Sorry dude D=

 

[Zersy]

Well I was in some way like good luck chuck.

Any girl i'd get initmate with or really good friends, the next news from them is that they fell in love with the next guy.

AND THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME.

I swear any girl that I have got amazingly close with
(The "be able to talk about anything" close) they will within a week find some dude and pretty much really really like them.

So far this has happend about 8 times. I have been cursed to make women fall in love.

 

[afaceforradio]

It means she doesn't fancy you. That's about it really. If you were friends first, then she probably doesn't want to screw up her chances of ruining a friendship.

 

[Soulkiller3]

I once asked a girl out who had constantly hinted at me that she thought I was cute. She would always flirt with me when we were talking, yet when I asked if she wanted to go out, she just said [b/]"No."[/b]

Just no. No elaboration, no speech about how she likes me as a friend, nothing about how it would ruin our friendship, just [b/]no.[/b]

She wants chasing, and she may give out if you do or she justs wants a ego boost and will use you and not give out

There is a saying my mate had, "go to a club and ask ten girls right out for a shag, you will get nine slaps/drinks threwn at you, but ill garrentee you will get layed". He had a good point tho most people will get rejected but dont let it get to you and try and find someone else, in time you will find the right person.

 

[r0qu3]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

So this has caused me to wonder: when have you other escapists ever experienced rejection, and more importantly: what was the 'official reason'?

it means You'll never screw her and she hasn't the balls to say that...

...also women tend to be indirect....

 

[Skreeee]

oh and btw, pick up a copy of Cosmo from time to time. Sure, it looks totally gay, but its the female bible on guys, dating, sex etc and will let you (a little) into Girl World

Hardly, unless the girl world you're looking to get into is the one filled with females of the vapid and devoid of interesting things to talk about variety.

In short, Cosmo is reading for idiots, no matter the sex.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

Last girl I was involved with told me that she was "probably going to get an arranged marriage"...I can see the funny side.

 

[CaptainREBell]

Wanting to stay friends = Normal. She doesn't get that fluffy feeling in her stomach with you, but doesn't want to lose you as a person. Most guys stay in the friend zone; it's not like it limits your chances of relationships with other girls, is good fun, and you never know what might happen if you stand by them enough.
My general rule is to not ask guys out, but to try at least one date with them. If they have the guts to ask you out, they deserve at least a chance. Therefore, I have not been rejected, nor have rejected someone right off the bat.
...Except the guy on the train the other night. When a guy asks for your number before he asks your name, the answer will always be "NO".
Being rejected is probs better than being straight out dumped, though. I'm sure we've all seen a lot more messy break-ups than messy rejections

 

[Flamezdudes]

I was a stupid kid in Primary school...
I asked out quite a couple of girls, quite a few times and all rejection. Same in the early years of Secondary School and this is probably why i haven't asked anyone out in ages. Those were all lust though and i'm at the moment trying to up the courage to ask someone else to a movie...

 

[TikiShades]

Eh, I figured as much. I always thought she liked me because she was kind of flirty with me, and she gave me these looks like she was into me. She tried that whole "I'm kind of bisexual" thing, and wanted to trade places with her friend I was doing a two-person play with because she'd be able to kiss me. It felt like something a girl might do. Her friend said she didn't like to date, and I did take a while to ask her out. I guess I got stuck in the friend zone...

Rejection can be rough, but it'll happen. It's so difficult to figure out all of these hidden meanings... Why can't they just ask us out?

 

[DemonicVixen]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

I've given a few guys that response before. You know what it means?

She likes you, but just as a friend.

That's it. Forget about her and move on.

Anyway, I usually let the guys come to me, so I don't really have rejection stories..

Actually, us girls sometimes find ourselves liking you more as a friend but can't see ourselves going out with you... Its not always a prsonal thing.
My boyfriend has a really hot girl more better then me... They agreed not to become anything more then best friends because they valued the friendship too much. They just did not want the hasstle of going out, getting hurt and then not even being able to stay friends.

 

[beddo]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

So this has caused me to wonder: when have you other escapists ever experienced rejection, and more importantly: what was the 'official reason'?

Well, I used to be the same when I came to women, mostly because I didn't want to know the truth. I'll do you a favour and spell it out:

SHE DOESN'T WANT TO DATE YOU. SHE DOESN'T WANT AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. SHE DOESN'T WANT A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.

She just wants things to remain platonic. She thinks of you as a friend and wants it to be that way without any confusion.

I don't see what's wrong with that. It's not rejection, it's just incompatibility. If the love isn't there then the relationship is pointless.

You'll find someone else who is compatible, you just need to wait.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I don't think I have ever been rejected, but that's because I just don't ask. I am blind to relationships, they'll have to ask me.

 

[Iron Criterion]

So I just got shot down something fierce by a girl. Not sure what caused it. The official reason was "I like you, but as a friend."
... What? What does that even mean?

So this has caused me to wonder: when have you other escapists ever experienced rejection, and more importantly: what was the 'official reason'?

The worst reason ever - "I'm a lesbian" shortly before she got off with my (male) best friend.